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Do you ever stay in all day out of choice?

36 replies

Sunsetandmoonlight · 18/01/2020 12:54

I have to stay at home a lot as I am a single parent carer and I find it very frustrating!

I am trying to look at the positive side of staying in all day today. Maybe if I worked full-time a day at home to relax and catch up on chores would be welcome but when I am stuck in the house I find it hard.

Do you often stay at home all day long and what do you do?

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ExohExohGossipgirl · 18/01/2020 12:56

I am staying home today. I am a single parent and my kids have gone off out but I often have stay at home days. I get the tv to myself, potter about the house, batch cook or bake, read, drink wine LOL

Monstermummymum · 18/01/2020 13:01

Yes- I have two under three and we normally have a pj day once a week when no groups are on. We bake, watch films, do crafts and play with all the toys. I enjoy those days.

Butterymuffin · 18/01/2020 13:02

I love it and wish I got to do it more, but it's very different when it's through choice. Do you have friends or family around you could exchange babysitting with? How old are the DC?

I think routine helps. So plan to do housework or whatever in the mornings and then sit down to watch a film at 2PM. So you don't just drift from one thing to another or spend ages just scrolling through Facebook.

ParkheadParadise · 18/01/2020 13:02

I'm staying at home today. In my jammies.
I've just got up, going to have a bath and catch up with Coronation street.
If dd could get herself to nursery I'd stay in more.
I love having a day in the house, I could stay in for several days and it wouldn't bother me.

TheMemoryLingers · 18/01/2020 13:06

Yes often, but I work full time so it's a change for me to be at home. I would probably want to go out more if I had to be at home most of the time caring for someone.

I catch up on sleep, read, mess about on the internet, spend time on my creative hobbies, sometimes watch a film on TV or listen to some music. All supremely dull, but relaxing.

jomaIone · 18/01/2020 13:10

I'm a SAHM with a nearly 2 year old. Not often we stay at home.all day but we are never out all day either. Often go out in the morning to groups or swimming then afternoon at home or we will have a lazy day but maybe a walk after lunch to burn some energy.

Before I had my daughter and worked full time, I would very often have a lazy TV day to unwind! Miss those days!!!

Connie222 · 18/01/2020 13:14

I/we stay in most days.

Kids go to school though obviously. Only time I really leave the house is for the school run. It’s a combo of fuck all money to do anything/living in dump with nothing to do/it’s just how I am, although Dh takes them places if we have money.

If I didn’t have kids I don’t think I’d ever leave the house if I didn’t have to work. I’ve been like this since I was small myself.

Connie222 · 18/01/2020 13:16

Oh and I have plenty of stuff to amuse myself with. I like reading, watching random things on YouTube. I’m never bored and I’m fine with my own company.

TwoZeroTwoZero · 18/01/2020 13:17

Yes, all the time and when I do I do absolutely nothing (or as little as possible, anyway). I was kept awake last night due to dh's snoring so went to bed at 8.30 a.m. and have only just got up again. I have no plans.

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Sunsetandmoonlight · 18/01/2020 13:20

I wish I could have a different mindset about it.

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SoloMummy · 18/01/2020 13:22

Why do you have to stay home as a lone parent? I never did. We used to go to groups, majority free, library sessions, parks, beach, farms and zoos. All cheaply as possible.
And I loved that time.

MapMyMum · 18/01/2020 13:23

I work from home all week with small children and its a mad dash here there and everywhere with different school pick up times and groups etc so when I get a day at home to fully enjoy my home and some peace and quiet, then I fully enjoy it. I do have times where I feel claustrophobic and like I just need to get out though so I can understand, especially if you're not getting a break and you're not staying in through choice

BecauseReasons · 18/01/2020 13:25

I hear you, OP. It's a glorious day and I want to be out in it!

Sadly suffering from a d and v bug so going nowhere aside from the sofa and toilet today.

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Sunsetandmoonlight · 18/01/2020 13:26

I’m a carer to a disabled family member.

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shedidwhatnow · 18/01/2020 13:26

We stay at home every Saturday other than a quick class in the morning. Even before we did that we still stayed at home. I couldn’t cope with the working week without a day at home just being me.

FlashingFedora · 18/01/2020 13:29

Yes as often as possible, I love being at home. Today I've cleaned the kitchen/bathroom and floors. Done the downstairs windows, made breakfast and lunch for me and DS and had a bath. He's about to go out to play football with his friends and I'm going tackle the garden which has been battered by the wind over the last few days as it's lovely and sunny and calm today for the first time in ages. Also a single parent. Probably helps that I'm an introvert and love being by myself after interacting with others all week at work.

CloudyVanilla · 18/01/2020 13:30

My god yes I do. Huge introvert. My idea of heaven, although I love quiet walks in rural areas.

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Sunsetandmoonlight · 18/01/2020 13:33

Good point! I am not an introvert! I am happy to crash out and watch the tv or read a book from time to time but I prefer to be busy and with people. I don’t like doing things on my own.

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blue25 · 18/01/2020 13:34

I quite like having one day a week at home. I get the chores done, watch a film/catch up on missed tv, read, garden, listen to music.

I’d hate it every day though. If I stay in on a Saturday I have to get out and do something on the Sunday.

itsgettingweird · 18/01/2020 13:35

Yes I do. But again it's through choice.

I do work FT, have a ds with asd and he's a swimmer so trains 6 times a week.

A day at home consists of very little! None of this batch cooking, baking and crafts! I sit on sofa and MN whilst crap tv is on in background. I usually do some washing and we often have an easy to make meal.

I use it to recharge my batteries.

Could you just go for a walk somewhere if you don't want to be in? What about something like Pokemon go or geocache apps?

Khione · 18/01/2020 13:50

I frequently do BUT - and it's a very very BIG BUT, I can go out if I want to. It's not having the choice that's the kicker.

Occasionally my DD borrows my car for a few days and I hate it. It's more than likely I wouldn't use it if it was there but not having the choice really bugs me.

You have my sympathy for what it's worth Flowers

DontDribbleOnTheCarpet · 18/01/2020 14:00

The internet saved my sanity when I had a long period of not being able to leave the house. I was a member of a load of forums for hobbies, debating and just chat, plus I took online courses. I am an introvert but sometimes I just needed some sort of human contact.

SpaceCadet4000 · 18/01/2020 16:07

I wfh and if I don't go for a walk there are days where I don't leave the house. My preference would be to go out every day though. DH differs- he loves nothing more than a day staying in.

Oblomov20 · 18/01/2020 16:12

I would, All the time. Through choice. And whenever I do get the chance, I do! I am so happy being at home, pottering about. Go out? Why?

Clearly

viccat · 18/01/2020 16:14

Yes, lots and by choice! I work from home (by choice) and love it. I used to commute to work and other commitments for long distances and found it hugely stressful, especially this time of year when you leave the house in darkness and it's dark again when you finally get to leave the office.

I try to go out for a walk or have to go to the Post Office/shops etc. most days but often I don't go further than the back garden. Love having the cats around, being able to wear what I want, not having to carry a heavy bag with all my stuff around... and I haven't been ill for over a year now as I'm not having to commute on public transport. Absolutely love it!