This tradwife thing

[Orangeblossom78]

Has anyone else seen this on the BBC today? Just wondered what you thought...

I think fine to be a housewife etc but not about the 'submitting' and 'obeying' part...

Also she was saying about her husband being the 'stronger' and dealing with money etc, was watching this on the local BBC news this evening with my DH and two sons and felt a bit uncomfortable about it all!

So, just wondered your thoughts on this tradwife trend or whatever it is!

www.bbc.co.uk/news/av/stories-51113371/submitting-to-my-husband-like-it-s-1959-why-i-became-a-tradwife

‘Submitting to my husband like it's 1959': Why I became a #TradWife
#TradWives is a growing movement of women who promote ultra-traditional gender roles.
Search the hashtag ‘#tradwife’ on social media and you’ll see images of cooked dinners and freshly-baked cakes with captions like, “A woman’s place is in the home” or “Trying to be a man is a waste of a woman”.
The term ‘tradwife’ is particularly controversial because of its associations with the far right, especially in the United States. But many self-described tradwives reject that association.
Alena, who lives in the UK, says it’s about “submitting to and spoiling her husband like it’s 1959” - as well as supporting a return to “traditional English manners, lifestyle and values.”

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That was cut and paste btw, I am not one myself! (before someone gives me a

It makes me thing, as DH's mother and sisters are just like this! they even say things like (about the DH) "He's so clever!" (when he has done some DIY or something) and if I talk about something like insurance claim to 'not understand it' and the like. It gives me the creeps a bit.

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It's their link, basically. Which they embarrassingly insist on sharing. With a sprinkling of right-wing hard-of-thinkingness.

I think it's best to just ignore.

Stupid autocorrect. Kink, not link.

Good luck being a tradwife. They will get dumped at menopause for a younger model and will have zero work experience and spend the rest of their lives in poverty or stacking supermarket shelves.
I don't trust any man enough to be a tradwife.

Well it could also be their kink. 🧐

In working class families it’s traditional for women to manage the money and they often had a side line job. My Grandma was a house wife but also made wedding cakes on the side.

People can live however they like I guess, but it worries me that gender roles seem to be more entrenched this century. I'm raising my kids to believe that gender is bollocks.

So long as they are ok with affairs and being shelved once their wifely value falls I guess

I actually think that now work is mostly non-physical, there’s a strong case for husbands staying at home while wives work. After all, there’s more lifting and shifting in housework than office work.

I googled and found this article on it, it says

"Every week sees the arrival of a new tradwife forum online, full of posts about ‘finding joy’ in household chores. The rise of ultra-feminine social media ‘cleanflunecers’ such as Mrs Hinch and The Organised Mum can also be seen as part of the same trad backlash."

I have to say I had not thought of the Hinch and OMM as part of it, often see them mentioned on here etc and tend to think of MN as more feminist?

www.stylist.co.uk/long-reads/traditional-1950s-housewife-tradwife-tradlife-explained-women-reject-feminism-careers-domestic-housework/315360

Yes I agree about the kink thing also...article here. Just reminded me on how MIL keeps asking have I been able to bring any femininity into the house yet? (a pice of gingham to cover the washing machine methinks)

I think it's a way of ducking out of looking after yourself. I also think it perpetuates the idea that women are in some way more comfortable with this arrangement.

They also risk being dumped on if their relationship doesn't work out. I have met women who have adopted this role. Many of them find their lives quite empty when their children become independent teens.

One wonders why a media outlet with such issues with women is pushing this bullshit. It's almost like they like the idea of women in subservient roles. What's their pay gap again?

It was interesting that she mentioned so many TV shows in such a short interview - she didn't want her life to be like Sex and the City or a soap opera, or like Real Housewives, so she chose to model her life on Bewitched and I Dream of Jeannie.

Why does she have to base her life on a TV show at all? Just because her mum was a single parent and she didn't like that life?

Internalised misogyny dressed as female empowerment?

It’s a tricky one, isn’t it? The very notion of submitting and taking on this almost childlike role fills me with horror. But she is right that feminism is all about choice. And this is her choice. We can all see why she’s made the choice... she feels her dad abandoned her and now she’s found a man who will “take care of her”. I’m thankful that my own daughter would be enraged by the lifestyle that is being described here, but it’s one that this woman chose... and it makes her happy.

I thought there is a push to teach women about being more financially savvy so they aren't f?@cked over when things go tits up

Well they're right. They can do exactly what they like (in large part thanks to the feminists they are so quick to disparage). Meanwhile, I'll exercise my right to think they are a bunch of fucking idiots along with the man-children they marry.

It's all part of this weird nostalgia for a past that doesn't exist. See also Brexit.

I'm the bigger earner in my household, how do I get a tradhusband?!

Well I look after all the finances in our household, so I guess I'm the 'stronger' one!