How to get DP to stop rinsing after brushing teeth?!

[NewYearNewUserNameForMe]

I know I have no jurisdiction over DP's face, mouth and oral hygiene habits

But DP rinses out his mouth a lot after brushing his teeth every time. Twice a day, copious amounts of water. A few years ago, the dentist told me and DP that rinsing wasn't good at all. I stopped. DP just carried on.

His teeth are going yellow and they've got weird brown lines on them. I've no idea if its connected to rinsing but surely rinsing isn't helping things?

I tell him occasionally he shouldn't rinse but he either bats my comment away because I'm not a dentist (fair play), tells me to stop policing him (dramatic but fair play), or comes up with some excuse as to why he has to rinse that particular time (bullshit because he does it every bloody time).

So I went for the kill. One day when he complained that his teeth were yellow I said it was because he rinses after brushing. He had a huff, carried on rinsing and said he didn't actually care about how he looks anyway.

I may be blowing it out of proportion but I really worry about this and what it'll mean for his dental health long term.

I've no idea why I'm posting this, it's playing on my mind.

Huh. Well I've not heard this before.

How often are you seeing him brush his teeth? Every night, most mornings.

I only mention not rinsing occasionally, I'm not on at him. It just bugs me and I worry.

I know I ABU by the way!

When I see him do it, every cell of my being is like Nooooooooooooooooo and wants to knock the glass away dramatically!

Dramatic is definitely the right word here. Don't be so ridiculous, OP. Not rinsing may be the ideal, but rinsing doesn't make your teeth brown fgs. Oh and brushing after breakfast is not advised,so you're not following the guidelines either. Let's hope your dp doesn't feel the dramatic urge to knock your breakfast away.

I rinse and when I spit out some bits of food that are stuck in gaps come out. Therefore I think rinsing is a good thing

Ok I'm a dental nurse you shouldn't be rinsing after brushing as it rinses away the toothpaste and minimises the effect of the fluoride

HOWEVER
It's his teeth and you can't force him. My husband rinses and Iv been telling him for years, can't be arsed anymore. Pick your battles.

I wish someone would hurry up and invent a non-mint, sulphate free flouride toothhpaste.

But as menthol makes my eyes burn and turn bloodshot and SLS strips the skin from inside my mouth I'm just going to have to keep rinsing. It's that or use Dr Corduroy Granolas baby safe banana flavoured no active ingredients toothpaste (or just not bother at all)

@WhatWouldChristineCagneyDo I struggle with mint so generally use Tesco kids strawberry, but I can cope with sensodyne pronamel and that's SLS free if you haven't tried it? Oranurse is unflavoured and SLS free too

Who wants a mouthful of minty foam all day?

I made it my New Year's resolution to spit not rinse. So far so good. I first heard the advice more than 10 years ago that it is better to spit not rinse.

Also this one is SLS free
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Organic-Children-Mandarin-Fluoride-Toothpaste/dp/B07N85QTL5/ref=mpsa13?adgrpid=71105114873&gclid=Cj0KCQiA04XxBRD5ARIsAGFygj84dA2x56fIl4WbIfX2CCsdGYWlcISGIBNK8pjVdfHMvovgS9hke8aAmvmEALwwcB&hvadid=345500159477&hvdev=m&hvlocphy=9046534&hvnetw=g&hvpos=1o1&hvqmt=b&hvrand=17846369945939391100&hvtargid=kwd-297575898615&hydadcr=13796_1829187&keywords=sls+free+toothpaste+with+fluoride&qid=1579274470&sr=8-3

Dentist told me you’re not supposed to rinse after brushing teeth. You should wait at least 10 mins and then use mouthwash. This is so fluoride can work on the teeth which is very important.

They. Are. His. Teeth.

Let it go.

That was the norm, when I were a lad. Thing is though, next year some expert will say having tooth past in your mouth causes mouth and stomach ulcers. I find it burns my mouth, and by rinsing your mouth any bits of food are expelled. So I tend to rinse mouth and put one last coating of the orrid stuff with a light brushing. If he has more fillings than you, then you probably have a point, otherwise leave the poor guy alone! as others have posted.

I'm wondering if some people might be using too much toothpaste if they would have a mouthful of minty foam all day

I don't rinse. 33yo and never needed fillings.

The problem with not rinsing, surely, is that you're leaving all the crud you've scrubbed off your teeth in your mouth and, presumably, end up swallowing it. Isn't it better to rinse and then just go over your teeth again with some clean toothpaste?

@flaskmaster you should eat breakfast before brushing

Isn't brushing after eating worse than rinsing after brushing though?

You risk massive enamel holes is what my dentist said.

What rubbis, of course ots nothing to do with rinsing. leave the poor bloke alone

spit don’t swallow

Such good advice -always 🤣

I can’t believe there are people who haven't heard this advice re dental care. It’s not new! & Denists agree - a rarity in any health issue!!

@NewYearNewUserNameForMe
you are right, but there’s only so much you can do in life 🤷🏻‍♀️

Once you’ve made sure someone you love has the information you have (what’s best & why) then you have to let them make their own decision - no matter how stupid it is Nothing to stop you printing off the advice of the NHS/Dentusts and putting it somewhere he can’t fail to see it 😁

Rinsing won’t be helping with the discolouring/marks because he’s not protecting his enamel

thats wierd.
Im 53
I have rinsed after brushing since a child
I have no fillings at all and no missing teeth

He's entitled to make his own choice on the matter!

Have you been like this over anything in the past OP? I can't believe if you are this obsessed over whether he rinses or not that you haven't had a similar obsession before.

The hygienist advised my DD not to rinse. I still rinse.

YABU to make a big deal over a minor detail.

Very few people naturally have the Hollywood ideal of omgsowhite perfect teeth. And doing stuff for the sole purpose of changing your teeth's colour is bad for their health.

Let it go