Being more ‘mumsnet’ in real life.

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Mumsnetters aren’t exactly shy of expressing their opinions. Has anyone found that this has now transferred to real life? And that you now say what you really think more than you did before?

What’s been your experience?

If anything I probably need to be less mumsnet irl as I've never been shy of saying what I think. I hope I do so politely though and I'm less sweary than mumsnet.

What’s been your experience?

I’d like to know this, too.

After you, OP.

I am more diplomatic than I used to be.
I endeavour to be honest but these days try to be tactful with it.
I never tell people what they want to hear though - if you ask me, I’ll tell you.

You go first, OP. Tell us all the quirky little occasions when you said 'Are you on glue?' or 'No is a complete sentence' or 'Biological sex isn't imaginary'.

No is a complete sentence. Most inaccurate but smuggest expression trotted out on here imo.
No is not a complete sentence but it would be an odd, abrupt and rude response. No is only a complete sentence if you have zero social skill.

No is not a complete sentence

Well, grammatically it is. And I assume it's intended to counter the fact that women are socialised into over-explaining and offering myriad excuses why they can't do something someone else wants them to do. I've certainly lost count of the number of threads on here where multiple posters have urged an OP faced with a request to invent illnesses or alternative claims on her time.

I schedule Waitrose to come Saturday morning when the neighbours will see the van. Does that count?.

I ‘think’ Mumsnet, but speak “tinkly little laugh”.

I shout
"Did you mean to be so rude"
At every opportunity. Aggressively.

At the risk of sounding pedantic I'd be really interested in how No is a complete sentence in grammatical terms?

I thought a sentence needed a verb.

I haven’t actually done anything different. But I do wonder if anyone has had about a situation where someone is taking the piss out of them. And then imagines what people on MN would think and it gives them confidence to speak out.

What do you imagine would be a really pithy sentence to put at the top of a collection of these stories? A sort of 'line' that could go at the 'head' of the 'page'?

Poetryinaction , yes so did I.

No. I'm fifty one, I am who I am. I certainly wouldn't think what would people on mumsnet do, because it's not a hive mind, it's a chat forum where random people give opinions, which lets be honest, aren't always comprehensible never mind aspirational, never mind being illogical in many instances because people don't even bother to read the op properly.

If you start to live your life according to what random stranger posted on an online forum you have developed a significant problem.

Schedule Waitrose to come 😂

I think if people behaved in reality the way some mumsnetters suggest, they'd likely get a smack in the chops.
I read things on here sometimes and think , Yes live, if course you said/did that.

@Bluntness100 Although people do write on here for support. And I think that support does make a difference to people’s life decisions sometimes.

@Bluntness100 but I do agree that the advice isn’t always sensible and people often don’t read the OP properly.

In my experience, people dont get as worked up about things in real life as they do on here. Ive never known anyone in real life to tell someone who got a speeding ticket for 36 mph that theyre an "evil bitch who could kill someone" etc
Or, get worked up or "disgusted" by people who spend Christmas day in their PJs.
Most "normal" people couldn't GAF about these things (and rightly so!)

I think a lot of people on this site must have very high blood pressure

I love asking people if they are on glue 😂

Yes! I absolutely credit Mumsnet SN boards for giving me the confidence and courage to ignore the professionals (school. Pead and cahms) and relentlessly pursue her ASD diagnosis. Posters on the board, and a couple of websites (special needs jungle) convinced me I was right. Dd has had some very dark times, also has OCD. I’m forever grateful for what l learnt and in turn I now advocate for others in my local area.

I think MN has changed me slightly for the better. I used to post regularly on the infertility boards and came across so many people who were dealing with similar issues that it opened my eyes to how widespread it is.
Posters there led me to be more direct when people ask if / when I'm going to have children etc, which can only be a good thing I think.

On the other hand, as pp said, I've never met someone with a crazy MIL or CF neighbour etc, or known of anyone to get so worked up over parking / a throw away comment / their child's friends!

I’m glad to not be more MN tbh. The hundreds of threads frothing about every tiny little thing and advising to go NC or “go nuclear” on people for tiny things, or the number of people who have zero backbone makes me very glad not to be any of these people!