How to allocate bedrooms

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Trying to figure out bedroom situation

In our house there is me, DD16,DD14,DD13 and DD5 currently I have the box room, DD16 & DD14 share biggest room and DD13 and DD5 share other double room, current plan isn't working

DD13 refuses to have any of DD5 toys up there or even allow her to play up there meaning all toys are downstairs cluttering our lounge/leaving area and frankly she's now old enough to play upstairs with out constant supervision

Thinking of doing the following

DD16 into box room she has left school on apprentice and pays house keep

DD14,DD13 to share double room

Divide biggest room to give DD5 a little very small place with bed and toys and I will go into other side

Does this sound fair? Everyone is pretty much on board except DD14 who has middle child syndrome and claims that everything is unfair as she's never had a room of her own

We have no other room to convert and no chance of extending... I have looked at exchanges but to be honest 4 beds don't seem to come up

That Keel one is only a proposal and doesn't actually exist.

I think the only other option would be to get a sofa bed for you downstairs but have your wardrobe etc upstairs in the smaller double with DD5.

@thelongdarkteatimeofthesoul temper temper😊

Sorry, I’m playing with you. You just seemed so angry, I shouldn’t have taken the piss.

We will agree to differ. Bunk beds rare, not ideal, but do exist and probably more common in the states,

Would the 16yo share with 5 year old in double and 2 other girls split the big room with partition and you keep box room.

Dollymixture22 seriously?

Anyway fortunately the OP seems sensible and her original plan is the best use of the space under the circumstances.

Can everyone please stop suggesting a mother of four children who presumably works and parents and therefore bloody exhausted sleeps on a sofa bed in the living room to her kids can have their own rooms? Only on Mumsnet are adults not deemed worthy of bedrooms. In real life adults get the best room, because they pay bills*.

FFS

I think your idea is fine.

I’d also never consider sleeping on a fucking sofa bed in the living room because the children ‘need’ their own rooms!

I ‘need’ my own room, I go out to work, I cook, I clean, I pay for everything. I need to my own sanctuary and peace and quiet.

I would also tell middle child to live with it. She can live in her palatial home by herself when she has the money to pay for it. Till then you will make do with what you have and by god appreciate it.
I may have told eldest dc this at some point in the past. She didn’t like being told this at the time. However it hasn’t really encouraged her to move out any time soon either.

OP yes you are being very kind to your children, but you also deserve a grown up space to retreat to.

I know the older girls are at tricky ages and the five year old has very different interests and needs, but if they refuse to share two and two, then they will have to have a less then perfect outcome.

The Military often uses bunks and you pay for the privilege of having one.

Why on earth should the OP have to sleep in the lounge?? It's her bloody house

I'd put 16yo in box

13& 14 yo sharing the double and you and 5 yo in the biggest room.

You are the adult who is entitled to the most space. Ridiculous. I'm on 24 and even I'm surprised by how much people are pandering to their kids by giving up their rooms needlessly...

Your solution makes the most sense OP, do that. When 13yo starts paying towards housekeeping then she can argue for her own room.

I think your suggestion sounds good. I have 4 children, in a 3 bed, 2 girls 2 boys, boys are 6 years apart, girls are also 6 years apart. I have the smallest room, but my eldest daughter gets fed up with the younger one, and my eldest son gets fed up sharing with his little brother! It's a pain in the ass so I feel your pain, but I think what you suggested is a good idea.

If I owned the military base I’d expect to choose the best room for me and sleep on my own paid for super king sized bed in it.