Husband wants the snip...

[NoTeaForMe]

I promised my husband I would look into this as he is very keen to go ahead and get it done and I have been reluctant. So where do I start....he’s so keen I think he’s not looking at any risks/bad sides to the procedure so I said I would look into it all too. Any advice from anyone who has been through it or is looking into it?
TIA

Dh had it done at 23. We already had 2 children, and as much a we loved the idea of more children, we knew we couldn't truly afford more. Plus , I knew if I did get accidentally pregnant (on the pill or something) I'd be devastated to end the pregnancy.
It took a bit for the doctor to see we were serious, but they did it, and he only needed a day off, plus the weekend.

It was hard when I'd get the longing for another baby, but not as hard as it could have been with another child we could ill afford.

Don't understand some of the his body his decision responses here. Obviously it is, but DH has chosen to ask for OPs opinion. Presumably he would like it to be an informed opinion, which is why she is also researching the matter. It would be a problem if she were asserting a right to have a say if he didn't want her to be involved, but that's evidently not the case here. His right to choose extends to consulting and taking advice from anyone whose opinion he would like and who is willing to provide it to him.

My Hubbie had the “no scalpel” vasectomy last year, straight forward, in and out in 10mins. No issues after, he recommends to anyone considering it

My Hubbie got it as he had suggested it as I’d been on the pill for a v long time, had lletz on cervix - high risk pregnancies for pre term labour. He suggested it was time he steps up so that I didn’t have to take pill any longer.... I agreed without a second thought as my cervix wouldn’t take a 3rd pregnancy.

OP says he’s asked her to “look into it”, not just offer her opinion; and that she isn’t keen on him doing it (“reluctant”). Gives the impression she’s researching it for rather than in addition to him.

@dozer

Read the third post of the thread, from the OP.

DH had his last year. Easy, done on the NHS. I was done with hormonal contraception, condoms are ok but annoying, heard too many coil horror stories. Plus we both felt it was his turn to be responsible for the contraception.

No issues. Bit of bruising and sore for a few days. Nothing compared to birth injuries!!

I'm recommending it to everyone I know .

Which still wouldn't justify the his body his choice type posts anyway dozer.

How is whether I work relevant?

It might be a deciding influence on why he wants the procedure. Given that you have already said that you weren't sure that you felt "done" with having children, if he is the only earner in the household he might feel under too much pressure if there were any more children.

Thank you BoxedWine. I’m really struggling to understand some of the comments on here, so thank you for understanding me!
My husband has looked into it and researched it for himself, however he would like my opinion and for us to have a conversation about this because it does effect both of us, though obviously mainly him!
I wasn’t keen on him having it down previously because I didn’t feel “done” with having children, however, life has moved on and I do accept that our family is complete. There are other side effects though, and they need to be talked through at least a little surely?
To the poster that asked about contraception for me - it’s not the same is it, it’s not permanent. If we were looking at me being sterilised then we would have both looked and talked about it.
Gin I do work.