What do you take if you were going to your partners’ parents place for lunch at the weekend?

[Jaybird100]

What do you take if you were going to your partners’ parents place for lunch at the weekend?

Say they had already prepared the appetiser, main (roast meat with all sorts of roast veg), plus drinks plus desert.

Is it expected for me to bring something along with me? If so, what? As I’m not their child, I feel bad as if I am just freeloading their food!

Nothing! They are family, it's not like going to a dinner party.

Actually, we sometimes bring our tool box so we can do a few jobs in the house for them.

I'd definitely take something. It seems rude not to. Either wine, chocolates, flowers or a posh box of biscuits.

I agree with the others to take some wine, chocs and/or flowers.
I never turn up anywhere empty handed. Even to my mum’s or mil’s. I’ll take her favourite flowers, a cake or even fruit that I know they like.

If it's just a regular lunch nothing but something special then a bottle of wine maybe.

We're also of the "able to show appreciation without any need for gifts" persuasion, 20 years in. None of us drink wine so taking it would be weird. We might bring flowers or veg from the allotment and them the same. Or bring something like one of our books or DVDs we think they'd like. But we don't go out and buy things specially, it's a level of formality we don't need within the family.

A bottle of wine.

I make pickles and chutneys so would take some if it was someone I know likes them.

Wine, flowers, eggs from our hens.