My child just spoke to me for the first time ever! Hand hold

[BrownTrainOrBlue]

DS is 2 years 3 months. Never said a word to me, let alone a sentence. We've done all types of encouragement etc.

I always put my make up on whilst he's in the bath... I was doing my foundation when I saw he seemed to be straining. I told him very quickly "Please don't poo in the bath! Mummy won't be long. You need to wait a second sweetheart".

He stopped what looked like at attempt to go and just stood there. Ten seconds later I turned around to see him standing there, staring at me. I said "Why are you staring at me?" He replied "I'm waiting". I said what?! (Very shocked), he repeated, calmly but matter of fact "I'm waiting".

I screamed! He looked at me like and now won't repeat it I've tried for over an hour and he won't say it again. When I got him out I said to him "did you say I'M WAITING?!?!". I was so so happy. He attacked me with a scratch on the face.

I can't contain myself. I can't believe this! His voice is so strange, it's like an olderchild. I was expecting something cute.

I had to message DH and tell him whilst he's at work!

This has made me tear up!!! How wonderful! My little boy didn’t say a word till he was 3. We tried everything! Then one day he just started chatting away, like it was completely normal! Now, at 9 yo he doesn’t stop talking!
Here’s to many more lovely words 💐

So you made him wait to poo and then SCREAMED because he spoke to you?
hmm
Maybe next time put him on the potty and try not to scream if he talks.

Completely agree!

Ds1 was like this no words at all until he spoke in complete sentences. (Age 2 and abit). Didn’t babble or copy noises either. We suddenly realised how much the little fucker must have understood but was just ignoring us.

How lovely!!! Made me tear up (my DD can’t speak though she tries and it’s one of my dreams that she can one day even say yes and no).
That’s a lovely memory to have I think 😊

Dd3 didn’t talk (or babble) until she was 3. We were at the zoo and suddenly dd2 said “She spoke! She spoke!” With 4 young children I hadn’t noticed, so asked dd3 what she’d said. She replied “I said, Hello bongo”, and she hasn’t really been quiet since. At reception parents’ evening I was told she was exceptionally articulate, and she is now at Oxford.

I once worked with a lovely, non verbal AS boy who was about 13. He was a lovely, thoughtful kid. One of the nicest things I recall was I once winced with a back twinge and he smiled, put his hand on my back and rubbed sympathetically.
Anyway, I digress.
He went home on the Friday, non verbal. Walked into the classroom on Monday morning and a big, booming voice said "HELLO ADOBE!" I was utterly gobsmacked. Nobody, including his parents, knew what had been the trigger but it was hard to shut him up after that.

OP. I fully understand your shock.

Oh how lovely. Well done LittleBrownTrain!

My DS was born extremely prematurely and has ASD and various assorted extras. He didn't talk until he was 3.5. Due to his ASD he's never been one for displays of affection, but one day last year aged 13 he was leaving for school and completely unexpectedly said "I love you Mum". I cried! I was so excited that I posted about it on MN!

@Gilead this gives me hope! My 3 year 4 month old son is entirely non verbal but I've always said he will probably start with sentences!

How amazing 😊 try not to make a big deal of it though. Slightly different but my 15 year old has selective mutism so doesnt speak to anyone but he can speak. Best thing to do when they do say words is to carry on as normal, as hard as that is. A big reaction can cause them to revert. My son talks to me absolutely fine but when he eventually starts to tall to someone they have to pretend it's perfectly normal or he wont do it again.

My daughter is 3 at wnd of month recently been diagnosed with autism and is non verbal! So totally understand feeling of excitement! Im waiting to have my moment 💗

My sister didn't talk until she was 2 1/2. She's 57 now and has been making up for it ever since!

Believe me he'll have taken so much in. Ds2 is 19 and was almost 3 before he spoke. He took in so much.

This was my son, we tried everything.
Then one day with dh in the park he said Shall we go back to the car now?
He was at SALT for about a year.

That’s great I bet you thought you were hearing things.

Sadly for me I’m still waiting for my ds to talk and he’s 19

I didn't think it was even considered speech delay if they weren't speaking by this age. DD1 was a chatterbox from the start, but DD2 had a few words but not many or particularly intelligibly until she was 2.5 and went to nursery, then had to make herself understood and suddenly improved.

Haha what a great post ! This has made my day 😁

Yellowbutterfly What is your DC like now?

Join in play. Play and notice what your child notices. Be quiet a lot of the time. Only say the odd thing. Example: child plays with a truck - get down and play with another truck beside him. Say ‘vroom’. Don’t say much else. Just enjoy it

I can't join in play because he doesn't play. He only stacks things up, takes them down and stacks them again. If you try and involve yourself he walks away. If you try and play next to him and not acknowledge him at all, he looks miffed and walks away.

Don’t over talk. Just play! Running around. Tickling. Peekaboo. Pretending to be an animal.

He won't engage. The most I get from him is a look as if I'm a complete and utter idiot. Very similar to these Mumsnet emojis

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Catkin That's beautiful x

you could do things alongside him and narrate your actions - ie 1 block, 2 blocks etc or name the colours of the blocks as you build them up similar to what I do with my 1-1 child at school

My DS2 had birth complications and kept hitting his head as a toddler. I thought he would be disabled.

He did not babble or say any word, and then at 2 when he was on my hip, asked a complete, rather complicated sentence with a possessive pronoun and correct syntax.

I nearly dropped him.

Just like you I said 'what?' and he repeated the sentence.

No, he isn't a genius! But they are wonderful precious individual little things. Gosh I wish I could wind the clock back and do it all again, properly and better.

So annoying repeating what older women said to me, but, enjoy this time. It is so precious, and goes so fast.

Aww that's brilliant news OP

But as others have advised, be cautious about getting him to repeat himself or making a 'big thing' out of it, or it might put him off.

Great news!
My brother didn't speak until he was 2, but as soon as he went to nursery school his language was great. He still isn't very chatty mind you.

@BrownTrainOrBlue that's so exciting. Is he currently on an assessment pathway? I'm sure you know that his play isn't typical for a child his age? Two of my children had atypical development and I know it can be hard to watch and wait.

Hopefully this is the start of a lot more