My child just spoke to me for the first time ever! Hand hold

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DS is 2 years 3 months. Never said a word to me, let alone a sentence. We've done all types of encouragement etc.

I always put my make up on whilst he's in the bath... I was doing my foundation when I saw he seemed to be straining. I told him very quickly "Please don't poo in the bath! Mummy won't be long. You need to wait a second sweetheart".

He stopped what looked like at attempt to go and just stood there. Ten seconds later I turned around to see him standing there, staring at me. I said "Why are you staring at me?" He replied "I'm waiting". I said what?! (Very shocked), he repeated, calmly but matter of fact "I'm waiting".

I screamed! He looked at me like and now won't repeat it I've tried for over an hour and he won't say it again. When I got him out I said to him "did you say I'M WAITING?!?!". I was so so happy. He attacked me with a scratch on the face.

I can't contain myself. I can't believe this! His voice is so strange, it's like an olderchild. I was expecting something cute.

I had to message DH and tell him whilst he's at work!

Yay! congratulations. Here's hoping now he has done it once, he will find his voice again and doesn't stop!

That must have been a shock for you, but how fantastic! Unforgettable too!

I have a friend who didn't speak until he was gone three, and then one day came out with 'Goodbye, Auntie Jean' at a train station and went on to speak perfect cut-glass English from that day onward. He's now a bilingual professor of political philosophy.

I will remember to keep my cool next time! It was a reaction to him doing it so effortlessly and I wasn't expecting it. It was like a strangers voice

He didn't look shocked or freaked out by my reaction, he looked at me like I was a fool

Spider that's amazing x

What a clever little boy he was (and still is, evidently!)

This might be a daft idea, but how about a toy that echoes back? You could show him how it works and then leave it lying around.

I did this, but with walking. My mom said I'd never taken an independent step, then one day I just walked across the room like I'd been doing it all along.

That's very exciting, OP, I'm happy for you.

DPs brother didn't talk until about 3. I was looking after him when he was around 2 and a half and talking over the TV he was watching, he looked me dead in the eye, said my name to get my attention, and told me to shut up no one believed me!

There's a legend (maybe true, who knows) about Einstein.

It seems that when Einstein was a young boy he was a lake talker and naturally his parents were worried.

Finally, one day at supper, he broke into speech with the words "Die Suppe ist zu heiss." (The soup is too hot.)

His parents were astonished and relieved, but asked him why he hadn't spoken before
He replied: "Bisher war Alles in Ordnung." (Until now everything was in order.)

love this!!

@AnotherEmma don't put a downer on it . The OP was excited, she's allowed to be.

I'm probably stating the obvious but he sounds autistic OP, ignores instructions, lashes out when he gets overwhelmed and doesn't use language. Is he going to be evaluated/do you suspect or know this? (I have autistic DC).

Big high fives on the sentence! That's crazy!

Reading this made my day!

My dd didn’t talk until she was almost 4, the first time I heard her voice she was singing (she was having music therapy at the time). She’s now 14 with a ASD diagnosis, she talks a lot to herself but still only speaks to others when she needs too.

Don'y worry OP my DD no 4 didn't say a word until she was almost 3 and then just started speaking in sentences like an adult. She's a doctor now.

How sweet. I remember when my youngest said his first word, we were all over the moon! He didn’t start saying words until 4 1/2 and now he won’t shut up, so I wouldn’t worry too much.

It must have been very exciting but next time he speaks try to act naturally and just respond to him as you would if he spoke all the time. Some children can speak but refuse to if they think there is pressure on them to speak.

Aww, that's brilliant.

You do need to work on your responses though, next time respond with something like, yes, your waiting for me. Thank you. And offer a high five or something. But then move on from that, as tho it's a perfectly normal thing to do.(( An action with a word can often lead to a way to get more out of them iyswim ?? ))

Bless you! My brother didn't talk until he was almost 3 but apparently
It was because I was always translating for him! 😂🙈

That’s wonderful op! It’s a start. I have a speech delayed son and believe me, I know what it feels like.

As others have said, try to keep your cool if you can. Just try saying something like ‘Hey, great talking!’ when he speaks again (which he will) or ‘Good trying!’ if he tries to speak but doesn’t quite get the sounds right. Then move on. You could also try signing if you don’t already - it helps with their communication and can give them the confidence to try more speech. In April last year I was teaching DS new signs... now he chatters. His pronunciation isn’t quite there and he doesn’t always get the rules of conversation, but the progress he has made with some speech therapy and encouragement is amazing, it really is.

Most of his speech therapy is based around listening as opposed to speech, and we started with things like turn-taking - so we’d do a puzzle together and take turns to put a piece in. These are the things that they need to get before they speak. If you can get him in front of a speech therapist, do - we can only afford one session a fortnight, but it’s worth every single penny.

He’s done it now, op. He’ll do it again!

Mine said a couple of words at a year old then stopped. Nothing again until they were 5 years old.
I know exactly how excited you must be feeling 😊

I read once (lighthearted article) that some children just wait until they have something important to say! Waiting for a poo is obviously very important .

DS1 didnt utter a single word until he was 2 1/2, up until then he would point and say 'uh'
We had the health visitor come round and do some play session with him and then one day he just started talking, he went from nothing to talking like any other normal 2 year old within a few weeks. he did have some speech therapy for a bit of help with pronounciation and we soon realised he could read fluently and when he started school he had a reading age of 14+ and now in year 8 he has a fantastic vocabulary and is top of his year for english so his slow start to walking hasnt held him back!

It’s great that he spoke!

There are some great tips for encouragement - basically do not encourage bu trying to pull words out of him!

It’s natural we try to encourage, but we pressurize without even realizing it.

Tips:

Join in play. Play and notice what your child notices. Be quiet a lot of the time. Only say the odd thing. Example: child plays with a truck - get down and play with another truck beside him. Say ‘vroom’. Don’t say much else. Just enjoy it.

Verbal communication starts with a lot of non verbal communication. Make sure you have plenty. Pay attention even if he doesn’t talk. Don’t over talk. Just play! Running around. Tickling. Peekaboo. Pretending to be an animal.

Only give very basic instructions. But try and not to give them what they want without giving them a second to try. Example: if they want a biscuit, look puzzled and point to the wrong cupboard, say ‘where?’ Make it fun. Not excruciating - child should never be upset!

Aww thats so sweet!!!!
My DS will be 2 in April, he only says off words like: apple, socks, nana. lol. He understands a lot more though.

Did you really ask him to hold his poo so that you could finish your make up?

Hope he carries on & wasn't too overwhelmed by all the fuss!

Do you talk a lot for him & he doesn't really get the chance?