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How did your decade pan out?

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Animum2 · 31/12/2019 19:52

For me it started in a middling way trying to get myself in a good place to get out of a going nowhere waste of time relationship and ended up happily married :)

Lost a couple of cats along the way but gained two guinea pigs and another cat

Got made redundant after 11 years in same job in 2013 but found current job the following year

Overall personally it's been the best decade of my life :)

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MoobaaMoobaa · 31/12/2019 21:42

In no particular order.
Redundancy.
serious industrial accident.
Attended too many close family and friends funerals.
mental break down.
marriage break down.
moved away from support network.
marriage stabilised and better.
hovered on brink of bankruptcy.
gone no contact with a close person.

No massive happy highlights but am happy, financially stable, and pretty chilled Smile

Mandatorymongoose · 31/12/2019 21:43

At the end of 2009 I was 25 I'd been with DH less than a year, been in my first "real" (just over minimum wage) job about the same, had no savings and my MH was still a bit all over the place, still getting over previous abuse. Renting a slightly rubbish house. DD had just turned 10.

Since then I'm...

+1 child
+1 degree
+1 mortgage
+1 marriage

  • no great wealth but enough savings to know I could pay an unexpected bill and no one will be hungry this month (which means an awful lot to me)

This year I got a job that I absolutely adore and I feel genuinely lucky to be able to do, won't make me rich but makes me happy.

DD is at university and I'm incredibly proud.

My mental health isn't perfect but it's stable and while there have been plenty of bad times in the past 10 years, 25 year old me would be amazed by how far 35 year old me has come and what's been achieved in that time.

flounderfish · 31/12/2019 21:45

Started it at uni, in a long distance relationship and and 200 miles away from where I currently live.

I graduated with a first (enormous achievement for me), moved to London for a few years, got engaged, married, bought a house, got a cat and had my son. Worked in a dream job for a few years a terrible one which made me incredibly anxious and unhappy and currently a great job. Met some incredible friends and feel settled for the first time in ages.

For the next decade my goals are to get much fitter and healthier, possibly have another baby and for my house to be less cluttered with less "stuff". Also, to be braver professionally to increase my earning capacity.

EL8888 · 31/12/2019 21:50

A whirlwind! This time 10 years ago l was in Australia on holiday. Between then and now in order l:

Did a complete career change: degree and new profession
My dad died
Got engaged
Bought 1st property & moved out of London
Got 2 cats
Got married
Separated (now ex-husband tried and failed to make me homeless. He’s now married to a “friend” of mine)
Met someone else
Got divorced
Bought a new property on my own
Moved in with partner
Tried to conceive (failed so far)
Got engaged
1st round of IVF failed

QueenAnneBoleyn · 31/12/2019 21:50

Ended a long term relationship.

Met someone new. Got engaged and married. Bought a house together, bought a wonderful fur baby and had a beautiful baby girl.

Changed job role three times but stayed within the same organisation.

Suffered PND and PTSD. Physical health not been brilliant. Lost my wonderful father to cancer.

rottiemum88 · 31/12/2019 21:52

Started out at 21, met my now DH while still at uni but drifted apart when he went off into the army post graduation.

Met again in 2014 and rekindled things, now married with a lovely home, two dogs and DS who'll be a year this month.

Finishing the decade at 31, really happy with most aspects of my life, although 2019 itself has been pretty tough, including losing my lovely stepdad to cancer.

LizzieSiddal · 31/12/2019 21:55

First half was absolutely shit. DD’s 17 year old best friend died very suddenly and it took many years to get DD’s mental health back.
She’s thriving at the moment❤️

Around 5 years ago, I joined dhs business after years of him asking me to, so I went from a SAHM to working full time. It’s been brilliant and wish I’d done it sooner.

Another highlight was Dd1 getting married. It was an amazing day with all our family and friends there.

Personally DH and I celebrated 30 years of marriage and I still love him to bits and can’t believe how lucky we are to have each other.

I’ve recently discovered I love swimming and Pilates, the first time I’ve enjoyed any exercise.

NumbersStation · 31/12/2019 21:59

Still alone. Still no friends. Still fat.

Lost my darling dog. I am another year closer to being with her though.

I thought I’d be sad if nothing had changed. I’m not. I’m accepting of my lot.

Northernsoullover · 31/12/2019 22:00

I started the decade up to my Oxters in debt. Had a breakdown, had a very bad relationship which when I ended he tried to destroy me financially and mentally. I was also killing myself slowly with alcohol. That's the awful part of the decade Grin. In the last 5 years I have cleared the debt, met someone super special and started a degree and quit alcohol. If you had said to me what position I'd be in at the end of the decade I would never have believed it.

RubyJack · 31/12/2019 22:05

Both parents died and my son almost died in an accident last New Year's eve.
Hoping for a kinder year/decade.

RainbowMum11 · 31/12/2019 22:07

Started off about to turn 30 and get married.
Since then, married & divorced, 2 children - my first died 2 days after she was born (8 years ago today); XH left me for someone I thought was a great friend, she was also married to one of his oldest friends.
Have moved house 3 times and been made redundant after 20 years.
I have had a mental breakdown with delayed PTSD, burnout and depression.
All in all, it could have been a better decade - I am not sorry to say goodbye to the '10s and welcome in the new decade.

Hefzi · 31/12/2019 22:08

For me, glad it's gone - it's been largely unmitigated shit, and the small rays of light are totally outweighed by the utter cuntiness of the rest. Worst decade of my life so far, by a long way.

That said, I am trying not to get too excited about a new decade, given that the light at the end of the tunnel usually turns out to be the oncoming train Grin

Hefzi · 31/12/2019 22:09

@Rubyjack - I'm so sorry - may this year be much, much better for you and your family Flowers

Ispy123 · 31/12/2019 22:17

Lost husband and son this decade so it can feckoff as far as im concerned.

slavetolife · 31/12/2019 22:23

Was pregnant 10 years ago on NYE
Got married
Left job I hated
Moved house a couple of times
Got a horse
Battled through the teenage years with older DD who is now 18 and soooooo much better, didn't think she'd make it at one point!
Realised that I'm actually the normal one in my family rather than the black sheep - they're all nuts (whole other thread!)
Made up with my dad after not speaking for 15 years
About to start a course in two weeks to retrain in a whole new career as an Operating Department Practitioner - can't wait!!
Currently in bed with DD who I was pregnant with 10 years ago watching crap films - DH is asleep on sofa downstairs 😁

CurlsandCurves · 31/12/2019 22:24

Last decade was far more eventful. Met DH, bought our home, got married, set up a business, moved house, had a kid, set up another business, had another kid.

This decade has been been building on and celebrating where we are. Nothing major event wise. But it’s been nice to save and get the kitchen, bedrooms, and this year especially bathrooms which have been really needed.

I did feel that this house was another stepping stone when we first moved in, but this decade has changed my priorities.

CurlsandCurves · 31/12/2019 22:26

@Ispy123 I’m so sorry xxx

TheJesusAndMaryChain · 31/12/2019 22:30

Terrible, death, illness, disability, asd dcs, can't wait for it to fuck off 👆

Deanetta · 31/12/2019 22:31

It started horrendously, with my darling mum being diagnosed with cancer and dying after a few weeks... within two months I had also lost my grandmother and friend... not to mention two cats.

But the losses made me realise that life should not pass you by, and so I plucked up the courage to tell my best friend that I had feelings for him.

I’m currently sat on the sofa with him and our six week old baby. 😁

RainbowSlide · 31/12/2019 23:12

Started it aged 27, living as an expat, in year 5 of a relationship.

Couple of ok jobs and then the one that made my career.

Married dp, had first child, 3 years of infertility later we've just had our second.

Bought and sold a flat and a house, currently renting to find our forever home.

Moved to the other side of the world and love it.

Relationship is still iffy, not sure if we'll make it to the next decade but hopefully we can work through our issues together.

Danni12 · 31/12/2019 23:17

Had my beautiful DC
My marriage ended
Trying hard to be positive and move forward

Elbeagle · 31/12/2019 23:21

Mixed bag I guess. Lived the dream abroad, married DH, had my three wonderful children, bought a lovely house...
However two of those things also meant the loss of my career. Plan for 2020 is to build it back up, but have also massively lost my confidence. So will see how it goes!

LizzieSiddal · 31/12/2019 23:23

Flowers to all those who feel crap. I hope the 2020s are better for you.

ImNotWhoYouThinkIam · 31/12/2019 23:23

Ended as it started... me with a broken heart. Only difference is DC are 10 years older so I can grieve easier.

StrawberryIsMyJam · 01/01/2020 00:54

I loved every minute of it and I hope the next decade is as good 😁