Has anyone been tempted to runaway on a luxury hols for one?

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I’m seriously considering booking a holiday and escaping my life for a week. I haven’t discussed this with my husband yet... I love my children 2 and 4 years old but haven’t had a break from them since either was born. My husband is hands on but it’s just the two of us and our relationship as man and woman’s is non existent. I work hard and have been suffering from depression for years now and just really need some me time or I might just lose my mind. I often find excuses just to be alone I even pull sick days from work so that I can get some peace. I desperately crave some peace and quiet and some time to think. I have no immediate family to help out and my friends are too busy to offer a hand. I feel guilty but I also feel as if some distance from me and my kids is what I really need :(

It sounds like a great idea. I’m considering doing the same and I only have one child. I can’t imagine how stressful and exhausting it is to have two.

Ignore @leapinglucy, I’m sure she wouldn’t have a problem if this was a man going on a stag do or a golfing holiday. You are absolutely not abandoning your children. You’re going away for a few days and leaving them with their father. They will be absolutely fine.

@user764329056 it helps to know others are considering doing the same

JFDI. I was thinking the same this morning - I’m “on holiday” with DH and DD and it is absolutely a case of same shit, different location. I am grumpy and fed up and want to be back home in a familiar environment where it’s easier for me to parent.

Yes! I regularly research flights and accommodation in Barcelona.... I know my DH wouldn't enjoy it as much as I would and he's regularly done stag dos etc.

I just haven't had the guts to book anything yet.

Do it OP!!

Definitely do it! With DC of 2 & 4 a week may be too long but a long weekend could be a nice compromise. I went on holidays alone a few times when I was single and loved the freedom of it. I'm married and pregnant now so can't see it happening again (not anytime soon anyway) but if you feel you need a proper break and time to recharge then definitely go for it! A happy wife/mum makes for a happy family x

I'm all for this OP, although I'd probably keep it more low key than the Maldives!

Does your DH have time on his own with the kids, and therefore giving you a break? My DH, every couple of months, will take the kids fishing for the day, or plan a big day out. When he does this I have a proper recharge day - a run in daylight (a real treat these days!), a film and super noodles for lunch. I feel so much better for it, and the kids and DH love it too.

You can’t afford a big holiday if you’d be selling your engagement ring and lying to DH to pay for it.

That’s a fantasy! The ring is a waste of money and would be a quick fix. I can pay for my own trip it will just take me a few months to save for it. I’ve decided I’m going or putting my hand up for the next work trip abroad. Thanks for all the advice

I have never understood mums who don't take time out for themselves. I see lots of my friends and regularly pop round for a glass of wine.

We also go on a long weekend away with my 'girl' friends once a year. Prague, Budapest, that kind of thing. I have been doing so for many years.

It's the only thing that keeps me sane!

“ if I am being honest I am not that bothered about being on my own on holiday because I do my own thing most days now.”

But the OP doesn’t have this yet, so not terribly useful to her

nothing wrong with having time out. I do it occaisionally, not in luxury though! I take a tent and go for a 1 night camp somewhere (within an hour of home usually). I`ve done some 4 day hikes (like D of E lol) as well. feels amazing!!

occaisionally dh does the same , or I take ds on a camp so he can have a quiet house for 24 hrs. (ps4 time).

works well for us. doesnt have to be £££££££££££££!!

sometimes we`ll do a solo day out instead . recharges the batteries.

Yes I agree it doesn't need to be expensive. All you need is time by yourself. When I go away I go to London (it's my happy place) and I stay in a cheap but clean hotel (Premier Inn Hub) and i just walk around for hours and hours just stopping for food and the odd glass of champagne.

Do it! I did it with a 3 year old and 10 month old. It's a bloody tonic. My partner and I encourage each other to get a break for ourselves whenever we can and it's the best gift we can give each other. It's not a reflection on whether you enjoy spending time with your kids it's all about mental well-being and that means everyone benefits. Getting a regular slot of time for yourself massively helps too, but a holiday is lush! Let us know how much fun it was after please op and encourage more self care x

I went to Le sport in St Lucia for a week when my 2 were 2 & 4. It was bliss....

I dream about this a lot! Honestly if you get the chance to do it - go for it! You need to look after yourself to look after others. Honestly if my husband went off for a week to recharge I'd be totally happy for him - as long as I got a week off too!!! Enjoy yourself

If your DH has trips away with his friends then it's only fair that you get some time to yourself as well. I was going to suggest that you chat with him about how you are feeling but have just seen your update about him not empathising. Probably worth another try explaining to him though. I would suggest looking at a weekend away - maybe a spa break, a retreat of some kind or just a nice hotel somewhere you would enjoy - city / country / coast.

I totally get the need to be by yourself. I no longer have young DC and my DH works shifts so I'm often alone in the evening. I would not be happy if I didn't have some time to myself each day.