Grandparents overstepping...I am unreasonable?

[Daenerys86]

My daughter came home from staying at Grandmothers and told me her Great grandparents are going to heaven soon because they are getting old. ( They are in their 70s but perfect health and plenty time left i assure you) She said her grandma told her this. Im considering questioning her why she would tell my 5 year old this for her now to worry, what would others do?
Its not the first time she has overstepped ( bit of a habit) but i usually keep my moutb shut. She always gets away with it so should i pipe up or keep the peace?

I don't think the mark has been overstepped. People do die. You also don't know how the conversation went or started. I'd leave it.

I have to say. I agree 100% with @sonjadog.

Teach your child to deal with her anxiety. About your anxiety. About her anxiety about death.

I remember as a young child talking to my granny about my wedding, and she laughed and said she wouldn't be alive to see it. I was a bit shocked, but she was right!
My dad is 72 and seems fit, but he has lost 4 friends of the same age this year. I want my dc to appreciate that he may not always be here and to enjoy all the time they have with him. Having lost my own mum while pregnant with dd1 and DHs dad dying before we were even married we are very aware of the fickle nature of life and death. I'm not sure your grandparents have done anything really wrong, but maybe you could turn it into a conversation about making sure you spend quality time with older people while you can, because they won't be here forever.

A1A1 thank you. I feel like what Im saying is being taken the wrong way.

I think Im at the end of my tether woth how she treats me and Im frightened to speak up because Im gutless but I want to do the right thing and not have my daughter sad because her grandma on occasion is thoughtless and thinks she can parent better than me.
Again, not a bad grandma to my daughter. A totally different kind of parent than I am plus she doesnt like me. Lol.

Thanks for the advice everyone.

You could phone your DM and enquire about the health of DGP as DD seems to think they will die soon, and see what she says. No accusations, just enquiry.

FWIW, I think you have had some harsh responses on here, especially as its Chat and not AIBU.

On another note, death was hidden from me as a child and I don’t deal with it as well as I could now.

she told my daughter her great grandparents are going to die soon

OP, unless you've asked the GM exactly what was said, you don't know that at all. People on here have given examples of how the conversation went. It probably didn't go the way you think. You need to ask GM how the conversation arose and what she said to your daughter.

Also, with the tone of your posts you do seem quite hostile and lashing out at posters. We're not the enemy. We're just trying to help.

It could have been anything that was said. Your daughter could have said 'when I'm a granny can I still do sleepovers with you' and this could have led GPs to say oh darling we'll not be here when you're a granny. Which then would have led on to another conversation and just escalated from there, with them not knowing what to say or how to word it. This is just one example; it really could have been anything. I've been asked awkward things by kids before and given an on the spot answer which looking back could have been worked differently, bit in the heat of the moment probably wasn't worded in the best way.