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looking someone up on facebook question.

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kimlo · 26/12/2019 08:13

Someone has an unusual last name, isn't from the same area as you and has no mutual friends as you.

If you look them up and when you have put on their first name (and all the suggestions then where the people you are friends with on facebook with the same name at that point) and the first letter of their second name in and their name is the first suggestion does that mean they have looked you up?

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katmarie · 26/12/2019 08:21

No. The search function doesn't know who's looked you up, its just designed to return the most likely results for your search parameters.

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kimlo · 26/12/2019 08:25

so if I put in susan d and get back susan demelza it's just coincidence despite the fact we have nothing in common? It's just coincidence?

Thats a releif actually.

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SymphonyofShadows · 26/12/2019 08:26

But what else explains the totally random people who pop up as suggestions when you have no links to them whatsoever?

coconuttelegraph · 26/12/2019 08:27

Sounds very unlikely but who knows maybe someone has spent time writing it like that.

slipperywhensparticus · 26/12/2019 08:29

I think its alphabetical do susan Damian would come before susan demelza iyswim

coconuttelegraph · 26/12/2019 08:29

Maybe @SymphonyofShadows it works like Google and suggest the most popular teams that are searched for.

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kimlo · 26/12/2019 08:29

because I am being harassed by my ex and she is his new girlfriend. He is blocked on facebook and she has nothing in common with me at all. She turned up at my house with him the other day.

And she was the first suggestion facebook threw up.

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CustardT · 26/12/2019 08:34

I think you are right and she has looked you up.

FaceBook would absolutely know she has looked you up. Why else would it suggest her?

imwellardme · 26/12/2019 08:41

Yes, she's been looking you up, unless you have some kind of connection like a friend of a friend is shared with her?

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kimlo · 26/12/2019 08:45

Which means theres a good chance they will work out that I've blocked her, which means they'll know I know her name.

Well he has 2 files at cps for harassment and stalking against me, one other case at cps that I know about definetly and I've got an idea that theres more I don't know about.

My facebook is totally private thats not the issue. The issue is the level to which she is including herself in the harrasment.

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kimlo · 26/12/2019 08:45

no, no connection at all.

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TheWildRumpyPumpus · 26/12/2019 08:46

You have a connection on FB via your ex even if it’s that you have him blocked - she will have him as a friend or a relationship so that will make her more likely to pop up I would imagine. And it’s very likely that she has searched for you, just as you are searching for her!

fuzzymoon · 26/12/2019 08:46

When you look someone up yes they may appear in your friends you may know feed.

If you start to look someone up and they have searched you they will come up then when you have only typed in part of the name.

Fb links all information entered.

MustardScreams · 26/12/2019 08:47

Facebook also has a location function, so if you spend time with someone they’ll pop up on your suggested friends because it assumes you know each other. Might explain it if she’s been to your house.

gamerwidow · 26/12/2019 08:48

Did you have your ex on FB. It. Is more likely that she has popped up first because you both have links to him and possibly other common acquaintances in common.

katmarie · 26/12/2019 08:49

The reason she will have popped up is because Facebook's algorithms know that you and your ex are or were linked in some way, and now he and she are linked in some way. It doesn't have to be that she and he are friends, it can be that they've been tagged in photos or places recently, or mentioned in a post together, for example. Facebook's logic is that if someone you know has a new friend or there is a lot of nee linked behaviour going on between two people, then other people in that person's wider network might also want to be friends with them too, so it will boost people like that to the top of your search results.

myfuckingfreezer · 26/12/2019 08:50

Hang on, if you've blocked her then you must have looked her up before?

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kimlo · 26/12/2019 09:04

yes I was friends with my ex on facebook before I blocked him. I looked her up on facebook as soon as I knee her name in order to block her, the one and only time I have looked her up and that is the time facebook auto filled the sugestion to her name first on the search function.

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Jessbow · 26/12/2019 09:11

That will be why then.

You have previously clicked on her profile to block her, FB remembers previous searches. Its simple and NOT suspicious

Daisydoola · 26/12/2019 09:13

Baceuse you've looked her up once it'll suggest her to you, she hasn't necessarily searched you.

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kimlo · 26/12/2019 09:14

no, she came up the time I searched her to block her. Which is the one and only time I jave searched her name.

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CustardT · 26/12/2019 09:16

She may have looked you up. Or he may have looked you up using her account. Or FB may have suggested her due to the ex connection.

There really is no way of knowing.

Ellapaella · 26/12/2019 09:20

If you have any mutual friends or friends of friends then FB will bring them up straight away in a search. Your location will also be linked when you search for someone. If you've ever had your ex's phone number in your phone and it's the same one that she's got stored for him in her phone then Facebook can also link you with that.
Chances are if she searched for you you'd come up straight away for her as well.

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kimlo · 26/12/2019 09:27

I wont come up for her she was blocked as soon as I searched for her.

If she is going to involve herself further in the stalking and harassment I'll know about it soon enough anyway. Hopefully the fact that he was arrested for turning up at my house in front of her will show her that actually it's not a game and she will stay out of it and away from me. Beciase what right minded person would involve themselves in someone who is stalking an ex of over 10 years ago? And knowingly go along with it?

He wont be stopped, even the police have said they think he considers it a game and nothing has stopped him yet.

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Hellbentwellwent · 26/12/2019 09:37

Kim lo, your ex sounds like a nightmare. I can’t get my head around how anyone could find someone attractive who is stalking an ex, she must be pretty screwed up herself to want to get involved with him if he is showing her how obsessive and unhealthy he is in his behaviour towards you.

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