Can I resurrect the ‘have you had your first Christmas row yet thread’ lighthearted

[Dowser]

So far so good in the dowsers household.
Can’t believe it
Still there’s always tomorrow...when dh has to mak the pigs in blankets and pack all the stuff into the car.
As in ‘ do we really need to take all this stuff’
.’ Yes, it’s Christmas, get over it’

There was nearly a skirmish in the kitchen when I was making the gf and df Yorkshire’s but a quick
Oi..that’ll do headed it off at the pass.

How’s thing in your household?

Staying with family, we are alredy having the thermostat wars. I don’t think it needs to be on 24c!

We had an almighty row earlier today. Lots of 'fuck' and 'dickhead' being thrown around. We'll be okay tomorrow now

Good to get it out of the way early gold dust

So far my ‘ row radar’ can’t even pick up anything brewing.
We don’t really have anything to do..my son in law is cooking

Just had a thought..we are hosting New Year’s Eve..we could be saving it till then

No ... but it's brewing.

Been to see family and exchanged gifts. I'd requested a replacement for an everyday item that works but there's a feature of it that drives me nuts so needed another brand. DH sorted it out with folk. Exactly the same one. so he basically said "oh get her X item" and left it really vague.

Pathetic but grumpy about it now.

Yep. DH cannot wait for the Tumble dryer to dry the bedding ever. I just complained as I could see it had damp patches before it went on. He went postal. The bedding is back in the dryer though.

Not bad here, did nearly pack the cat off to the pound this morning but to be fair I hadn't had coffee yet and my leadfooted upstairs neighbour who wakes everyone at 5am every bloody morning has NOT gone away this week . Also cats are dicks, they just can't help being evil - usually when you need left alone most.

Its been touch and go, more festive bickering than proper rows. And my dad's not threatened to cancel Christmas yet, but there's still time

We did a prelude on Sunday, followed by the Big One on Monday. It was over the complete lack of compliance to the To Be Done list. Family members were trying to deviate, to improvise and to do ' ad hoc'. They know full well that this is not OK.

All is harmonious now, but we'll have the same row next year (fingers crossed).

@TSSDNCOP my DH does this too! Drives me absolutely batty, and he knows it drives me mad but thinks it’s entirely reasonable as he just can’t be bothered to wait any longer. The same applies to cooking food.

I’ve had my first Xmas argument with my sodding mother in Costco, it was not a good moment. I predict DH and I will fall out around 1.5 hours into lunch cooking as he’ll want to put veg on a mere 1.5 hours early. I’ve written all the timings down for him (I’m awaiting spinal surgery and can’t manage lengthy periods of cooking etc on my own), but he’ll still believe that he knows better and that it’ll be a good idea to put the veg on

Had a semi Christmas Eve skirmish this morning, but avoided the Full On Row by sending dh to the allotment and the dcs to their rooms to tidy. Then had a happy hour Getting Shit Done.

Bypassed the usual row about bringing presents down by doing it just as we put ds to bed. I did bedtime, dh did the shuffling them downstairs and then I put them out. Now listening for footsteps but pretty confident they are done.

We've been together nearly 14 years, the Christmas Eve Row used to upset me, now I prewarn the dcs and dh we will row and it's A Tradition 😁😁😁

Already a Massive Row, earlier, OH came home from work in a foul mood and swore at me and DD. By way of "apology" to DD he went on to say he hadn't meant to swear at her he had only done so because he had got her mixed up with me!! The arguement was over the recycling bin.

Orange next time DH preps the veg I’ll send you a photo of how small he chops broccoli and cauliflower. Ellas kitchen headhunt him to get veg through the necks of their tubes without the bother of purée,

Having words with DH right now.

Me Baby Annabelle should go in the pram

DH Baby Annabelle should get wrapped up

Yup! Had a bit of a barney at the weekend when DH forgot the one thing I asked him to remember for our family meal (feeding 22!) after I’d spent all morning doing everything else (and weeks planning it!)

I was so pissed off with him. He was pissed off that I’d had a go at him, but we made up before everyone arrived and were joking about it later.

A good few tonight!

I forgot to put an essential item inside one of the presents he had already wrapped and he was very unhappy that he had to unwrap it and rewrap it.

He also just DOES NOT GET having different paper for different people and even different paper for the same people but from different people - ‘why can’t I use this one?’ Ehhh well because that’s the paper for my mum from the kids and this present is for my mum from me. Duhhhhhh.

This makes me feel SO much better. Me and DH had our row in the kitchen of his parents this afternoon, as we were all there to have a family celebration. How embarrassing
But by the time we got home, it was all totally fine and we’ve had a lovely evening. Did text my MIL to apologise though. God I’m cringing thinking about it.

I'm quietly simmering because despite DH going into the attic three times over the last week, he still hasn't brought down the box with the sodding Christmas stockings. He's now fallen asleep and I'm going to have to wander round the attic, trying to find where he packed them last year. I'm raging that he's being so bloody unhelpful.

A few so far but no more than any other day

A gritted teeth whisper row re tinned pineapple but apart from that so far so good.

There will be a silent fight in about 20 mins though,when I remind dp for the 35 time today, that he still hasn't moved his box of tools from the front door yet.

On Monday, I was so, so effing fucked off with my OH, I suggested sweetly to him that he could visit his brother on xmas eve, and that I'd sort the flat while he was there. He correctly surmised I just wanted him gone.

Had a go at him in Morrisons. Had a go at him on the street. Had a go at him in Halfords. Had a go at him in the car. Had a go at him in Tesco. Had several pops at him at home.

Don't feel sorry for him, please. This is me being assertive and standing up for myself (he's one of those manchildren who leave all the housework to the woman, or magical brownie in our case, and who spends most his time here playing on his xbox or sat on the sofa playing on his laptop.

Sadly, I lost it with my youngest who has behavioral issues, before bedtime, she really put the hugest dampener on everything. I'd clawed us back from the brink of Useless Manchild Syndrome, and she was just spiralling out of control because everything is so overwhelming and

Pressed send by mistake.

Basically, I sick at happy families cut the flat is cleeeeeeaaaaaaan.

It was a close call as all 3 of us have a cold and are a bit snippy as a result.
DD (toddler): "cry, moan, cough, moan, cry"
DH: "Loud sigh. Why is she so cranky?"
Me: "Because she feels like shit, same as us".
DH: "I suppose"
Me: "Loud sigh".... as he clears his throat for the millionth time and I can't hear the Christmas movie
DH: "Loud sigh" as I blow my nose for the millionth time and he can't hear the Christmas movie
Me: "what do you think of the movie?"
DH: "It's pretty shit"
Me: "Yeah"
Both of us, laughing... "love you. Tomorrow will be lovely. We should be feeling much better, hopefully".

Bit of a spat earlier on over sellotape but was contained and did not escalate to a row. Then we had a drink and a bit of a cuddle on the sofa infront of 'Turn of the Screw' and forgot about it. All sorted for tomorrow. As long as the baby sleeps until 6 and DS and DD don't wake until 7, we'll be fine.