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39 weeks reduced movements

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333Alexandra120999 · 22/12/2019 23:57

So I’ve been having reduced movements for about 3 days now. My baby had a routine of kicking every morning, sometimes I’d even wake up at 4am-5am with strong kicks, also if I wouldn’t notice the kicks during the day she would move again at night. Or when I’d walk I’d randomly feel her.
I went and got it checked 2 days ago and they monitored me for 40 minutes, in which I did feel her move but that wasn’t my point. The midwife there was okay with the fact that I felt her for 2 minutes, even if I did explain to her that I still feel her but it’s not as often or as powerful to which she gave me another excuse that my placenta is anterior. My placenta was anterior this whole pregnancy, it didn’t just change overnight, and I still felt and saw my baby kicking. In the end she just said “well I can’t make her move more and the monitor says that your baby is fine and has a strong heartbeat”.
Today the same thing happened, I don’t remember feeling one strong kick, just small ones here and there but I can barely feel her and it’s not the same. I want to go get it checked but I’m 100% sure they’ll tell me the same thing so at this point I’m just wondering what else is there to do? My midwife is on holiday, I can’t speak to her. My due date is next week Saturday and at this point I want to try anything to get this baby out because I’m so scared, I hear so many horror stories and as much as I try to understand that she’s growing and she’s running out of space and she’s going down ready to come but it REALLY stresses me out not feeling her because I’m used to her just kicking me reminding me she’s in there and now there’s hours passing and I try everything (Coke, cold water, trying to lay down or jump around) and I still barely feel her.

Did anyone experience this? What’s there for me to do or who can I speak to that won’t tell me “well I can’t make her move more”?😒

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mrssillysausage · 23/12/2019 05:06

Definitely get yourself to hospital and don't leave until you're happy. Good luck! X

PixieDustt · 23/12/2019 08:16

@333Alexandra120999 yes monitoring went well thank you. Because I had been in there 2+ times at that point they booked me in for a scan but because it wasn't for 4 days I had to back everyday for monitoring. They also kept me on the monitor for about 40 minutes each time.

Did you get yourself checked out?
Please don't be worried if they offer induction. I had a lovely induction and was after the pessary a very natural labour I just needed help with getting it started.

AShaveAndAHarecutHalfPrice · 23/12/2019 08:33

Please go to the hospital now and insust that all is not well.

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333Alexandra120999 · 23/12/2019 11:34

@Towrl I’m glad some stories end well, I phoned up the hospital this morning at 6 as I was waiting for my boyfriend to come home but they ask soooo many questions. The woman said that as soon as the baby moves I don’t have to come in, it doesn’t matter if it’s small movements this happens sometimes during early labour and considering the brownish discharge and the cramps I’ve been having it should all be just fine. I’m trying to explain to her that I AM COMING IN TO GET CHECKED because I am really uncomfortable staying home knowing my baby isn’t active. They have mixed opinions from what I see, some of them say it’s normal for the baby to move less but some of them tell me to definitely take my notes and come in. I am going in now anyway so I’ll keep everyone posted x hopefully it goes well

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commoncoot · 23/12/2019 12:34

I hope you're in being checked by now. I have to say I find your hospitals attitude shocking! Mine always so soar you come in even for the slightly sign of change in your pattern. Better to be over cautious than anything else

CFlemingSmith · 23/12/2019 12:39

Get off mumsnet and go in and get checked.
And then go back again tomorrow if you’re still not feeling right. And then the day after.
Trust your instincts.

christma5 · 23/12/2019 12:40

My hospital has posters about changes in movements along with a list of other reasons that indicate you should be checked out. Your hospital probably has one so maybe point it out to the midwife if she's dismissive.

PixieDustt · 23/12/2019 12:55

Omg your hospital sound bloody shocking!
Ours ask questions before you go in but would NEVER say not to come in. They always say come in and get checked.
I'd seriously contact PALS about your hospital. That isn't right at all and I'm no medical professional but the advice they're given is against medical advice considering you see posters everywhere about how movements shouldn't change or feel less etc.

Good luck OP. Stand your ground x

TheClausSeason · 23/12/2019 13:01

Good luck, OP. I'm surprised at their attitudes to be honest, I was offered induction on the third instance of reduced movement! Go in every single time. Eventually they should offer to induce. Not to scare you, but my aunt kept going in for reduced movement and eventually waited until there had been no movement for a few hours and the worst had happened. It's so stressful to be your baby's advocate and goes against our British conditioning (assuming you're British) to not make a fuss, but really you've got no choice but to do just that. Sending positive vibes x

itgetshardereveryday · 23/12/2019 13:02

I'd keep going back op.

I went in with reduced movements too and the midwife basically took the piss out of me for reading 'dr google' even though I was following nhs advice.

FrappeLatte · 23/12/2019 13:19

Pleased to see you went in to be checked this morning. How is everything?

koshkat · 23/12/2019 13:25

How are you OP?

wineandsunshine · 23/12/2019 13:31

Good luck op - you absolutely did the right thing. Xx

CloudyVanilla · 23/12/2019 13:54

Shock really shocked at the attitude of your midwives.

Like other posters I have NEVER been told to not come in, over the course of 3 pregnancies. Baby has always been healthy but they are still inducing me for reduced movements and also induced me with my last pregnancy for the same reason.

The midwife who said "I can't make the baby move the way you want to" is really shocking. They should be listening to your concerns!

Rogeroverandout · 23/12/2019 14:17

Do you want to share the name of your hospital? Can you go anywhere else?

BuntyCollocks · 23/12/2019 14:21

Disgusted by the attitudes of the hospital midwives to be honest, and I say that as an almost qualified midwife. You should absolutely be getting checked - I don’t care if you’ve felt a little movement, if it is less than you’re used to and you called me, I’d be getting you in right away. My trust’s policy is to scan after the first episode if you’re over a certain number of weeks, as we’re checking fluid levels and Doppler flows to ensure all is ok, as well as doing a CTG.

Having had a scare myself at 34 weeks with my daughter, I know the horrible feeling of something being not quite right. I was lucky - some people are not.

Please insist on being properly checked over.

littlemissalwaystired · 23/12/2019 14:25

I'm a midwife and I tell all my women that even if baby's moving, if it's not as much as normal then get yourself checked. You know your body and your baby. Don't be put off going in, it's not worth the risk.

DecemberSnow · 23/12/2019 14:28

Do not let the midwives dictate to you.

You know your body and your baby first.

Someone i know, had reduced movements, at 37 weeks, everyone, including midwifes said all was ok, big baby, less room etc...
Well that baby died sadly, and it could of been prevented.

Listen to your own body

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333Alexandra120999 · 23/12/2019 14:32

@Rogeroverandout it’s In nw London, Northwick Park. I got here in the morning and I explained everything to them and they gave me more info about induction and just admitted me, so I think it was just that one midwife that was a bit cranky, but now they seem to be really involved. Hopefully it’ll end up being okay, I know people that had really good experiences here, but as I said it just depends on the midwife you catch.

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Daisydoola · 23/12/2019 14:34

Glad you're being looked after x

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333Alexandra120999 · 23/12/2019 14:35

Thank you everyone for your advices and for your encouragement, they did monitor the baby and they told me they will induce me today. The doctor said that this is my second episode and I’m full term so at this point the baby is safer outside than inside. They will do a sweep and if it doesn’t work until tomorrow they will try to dilate me with a ball (I think they said something like that) and if not then tomorrow they’ll put in the gel and that should work. Now I just hope my bubba is okay and will arrive healthy with a big loud cry❤️. Thank you everyone again and I will keep you posted

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Rogeroverandout · 23/12/2019 14:36

Yeah that's typically a pretty good hospital. Glad you are being looked after better now.

travellover · 23/12/2019 14:50

So glad they're taking it more seriously now, good luck on the birth!❤️

CloudyVanilla · 23/12/2019 15:04

Yayyy I'm so relieved and happy for you!

All the best with your birth, let us know it's all gone okay if you can :) Flowers

Fightingmycorner2019 · 23/12/2019 15:30

Mine did this , went for a check and all was fine and they gave me a sweep too
Sending lots of love