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Why do people not keep there children home when ill

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Shookethtothecore · 19/12/2019 08:59

I can’t understand it, mum from the school on fb saying her son has been sick and has tonsillitis, just seen her on the school run taking him in. I’m foaming, I have other small children and it’s a week before Christmas why are people so unbelievably selfish. It could get passed on to so many people, and ruin their Christmas for the children. Also, why would you send your child knowing they felt ill to school! You wouldn’t go to work with tonsillitis? It drives me mad people are just so selfish

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SeasonallySnowyPeasant · 19/12/2019 09:03

I agree in principle but the reality is that not everyone has a reliable support system in place ready to swing into action and people are scared of losing their jobs if they take too much time off work to look after unwell children.

QuestionableMushroom · 19/12/2019 09:05

Not getting paid and needing to? I don’t get paid for days off for sick kids.
No alternative childcare
And I would go to work with tonsillitis once medication had been started, same as I would expect my child to.

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Shookethtothecore · 19/12/2019 09:13

That’s the difficulty when you have children I understand that childcare is sometimes difficult it is for most of us, but if they are sick you can’t just trundle them off to school so you can get paid, it’s not the school’s responsibility to take care of your sick kid

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TheClausSeason · 19/12/2019 09:14

Don't they stop being contagious 24 hours after starting antibiotics?

Fatted · 19/12/2019 09:17

Correct me if I am wrong, but I don't think tonsillitis is highly contagious. I had it last year when no one else in my family caught it.

She may just be taking him to school while she has other kids to drop off. I still had to take my youngest on the school run with me when he had chicken pox because there was no one else who could have him while I got his brother.

QuestionableMushroom · 19/12/2019 09:18

If they’re on antibiotics and recovering, then I would send them in. Acutely unwell then yes stay at home, but I wouldn’t be keeping them off for the duration because at some point they will be well enough, whilst still being under the weather, to actively learn. Nothing to do with palming my responsibility off.
Same as I wouldn’t keep them off for coughs and colds etc unless they were unable to learn and needed the rest.

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Shookethtothecore · 19/12/2019 09:19

If it’s the case they are on the mend then of course send them in, this child in question started being ill last night. Because she posted it all over fb

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Fatted · 19/12/2019 09:19

@Shookethtothecore for some people losing out on a days pay is the difference between food on the table or not. It's not just for bloody pin money.

Fatted · 19/12/2019 09:20

Perhaps if you are so annoyed by it, you could offer to take the time off work, seeing as you can afford it, to look after her DC? Problem solved.

AhoyMrBeaver · 19/12/2019 09:21

Because she posted it all over fb

I didn't see it.

Skinnychip · 19/12/2019 09:24

This really bugs me. I know several people who dont consider the 48 hour rule about d and v, and send kids to school having put on sm or said they are sick. Some of them are SAHM, none are in a precarious financial position . I think its mean to the sick child and unsociable to everyone they come into contact with.
One mum put her toddler in a creche at the sports centre while they had a tummy bug, so she could fo an exercise class.

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Shookethtothecore · 19/12/2019 09:25

@Fatted I have a newborn baby, otherwise I would offer- like I have had my friends sick kids at mine in the past. It’s unfortunate that one missed pay check could mean no food, it’s an awful situation and I feel for people like that, but by not taking the hit yourself- you risk spreading it to other families on the same or worst situations. It makes no sense to me

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Shookethtothecore · 19/12/2019 09:26

@Skinnychip yes! People speculating about this families circumstances and how she is pile be in a food bank if she didn’t go to work- I know on this instance it isn’t the case and it’s because she can’t be bothered to adhere to the rules so the kid doesn’t miss the Christmas party.

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PureAlchemy · 19/12/2019 09:30

Our school parents FB has loads of posts from parents complaining about being summoned in front of the head teacher about their children’s absence rates after they’ve kept sick children at home.

That sort of thing might have something to do with parents sending poorly children in.

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Shookethtothecore · 19/12/2019 09:31

Pure- the worlds gone mad I tell you

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LazyArsehole · 19/12/2019 09:32

Because the school starts sending out letters and threatening fines if you actually do keep them off when they are repeatedly sick?

IhateBoswell · 19/12/2019 09:34

Is foaming the new fummimg? 🤔

IhateBoswell · 19/12/2019 09:35

Fumming, obviously. Now I'm foaming.

HairyFloppins · 19/12/2019 09:37

Not being allowed time off work?

Attendance letters? My dd's primary was a nightmare for bloody attendance letters.

happycamper11 · 19/12/2019 09:42

Do you mean sick as in vomiting or sick as in unwell? If it's the former then YANBU however the latter.. tonsillitis does not require exclusion. Bacterial tonsillitis is not contagious, as long as the child feels well enough they can go to school

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Shookethtothecore · 19/12/2019 09:47

Foaming has been used for years where I live, fuming was a new one on me.

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PhantomErik · 19/12/2019 09:50

My dd was sick night before last. Because of this she has missed/is missing:

Fundraiser event her class were holding & we had provided prizes costing £15

Christmas party (food pre-ordered & paid for £5)

Dance school show x 2 nights at least (3 months of prep & new costumes £25)

We had tickets to watch the show last night unfortunately (£60) & we've paid for the show dvd (£15) which our dd won't be in the recording of.

I had plans for yesterday which obviously got cancelled.

I'm not sure if she'll be well enough to go back to school on Friday & was supposed to be being presented with a certificate which could be put off until January but will have lost its thrill by then.

Also have 2 younger ds's & REALLY hope they don't get it.

My Dad has health problems that means catching a sickness bug would be serious/could be fatal so unless we're sure the bug has gone we won't be seeing him at Christmas or my Mum (in case she catches it & passes it on).

I HATE PEOPLE WHO DON'T OBSERVE THE 48HR RULE - YES I'M SHOUTING!

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Shookethtothecore · 19/12/2019 09:58

Yes phantom- you get it.

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Nat6999 · 19/12/2019 10:00

Schools putting pressure on parents for attendance figures. Ds school try to insist you send kids to school no matter what is wrong & they make the decision whether they send them home or not, ds has told me that some pupils with D & V have been made to sit in class with a bucket & school don't support the 48 hour rule. Ds has just been off with pneumonia & school were ringing every day to ask when he would be going back to school even after I had sent in copies of prescriptions & a letter from our GP.

mummy21l · 19/12/2019 10:00

People who say it's because they can't Have the time off work etc, ok so how do you feel when it's the other way round and another child has been sent in when ill and then your child needs to be off causing you childcare problems?

Can't expect others to be courteous if you aren't.

If your child has something contagious don't send them in.

A child was sent in to my daughters school the other week after being sick all night, and of course the day after my daughter starts with it, and I'm heavily pregnant and ended up with it. A sickness and diarrhoea bug that lasted 5 days! People are selfish and don't consider others. I was fuming!