Anyone else just not in a Christmassy mood?

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Had an event that yesterday, that took a lot of planning and time, so hadn't really had any time to get sorted for Christmas.
We've then sadly lost a member of dhs family, and we have the funeral on Friday.
Luckily, we have the dcs mostly sorted, but for the rest of it, I just can't get into the right frame of mind to get everything.
Anyone else?

Me. It's my birthday tomorrow.A big one. We were going away tonight for three days but have had to cancel that and Christmas as DH has had no work and we are skint. Our cooker hob has cracked and one of the dogs has a potential herniated disc and may be PTS tomorrow. Apart from that, everything is rosy 😂😕

Veronicat. Happy BIRTHDAY. I hope ddog is OK.

Sorry for your loss. We've just been in a similar position with a death in DH's family and, on the day of the funeral SIL got hospitalised. It really does not feel like Christmas!

It's complicated by the fact we close on a new house on 30th December (yay!) so we're in final processes with the mortgage. Because we're packing, there are no decorations and the apartment is a tip.

Yep! My own health is shit, 2 relatives in hospital and may be over Christmas, several bereavements this year and tricky relationship with dd at moment.

I'm normally Mrs Christmas but not this year I'm afraid.

Sympathy to all those similarly affected and I'm very sorry to those who've just or may be about to experience a loss. That's happened to my family this time of year in years past too it's awful.

Oh this can be such a hard time of year, we’re supposed to feel festive but we still have worries, maybe worse than normal, be very kind to yourselves and maybe try to enjoy any cosy moments that do come along and not put too much pressure on yourselves to make everything perfect.

I organised a little Xmas lunch today for some friends which was lovely but had to trudge off to work after, a lovely colleague has died recently, it was so sudden and senseless, I really miss him. We are hiring but one guy was in today who isn’t getting a permanent job and he had a real go at me, I just feel a bit bent down with worries.

Flowers and hugs to you all, and hope we can find a little festive joy.

I'm not. Christmas is just obligation, boredom, long stressful car journeys and panicking about not being able to think of presents. I haven't done a single thing towards it so far. I wish bloody Christmas would vanish in a puff of smoke and never return.

Partners mum died in September, he suffers with depression but is really bad at the moment, he doesnt want to do anything, No Christmas, No New Year, No lights, No tree, nothing. I understand but its hard.

I'm usually really prepared and feeling festive by now, usually helped by my two children getting excited.

This year I'm not feeling it. My husband left in April so it's the first Christmas since 1993 I'll be on my own.

Work is keeping me from feeling festive too. Trying to get contractors to do as much as possible before their 2 week shut down.

Different woes to others but still keeping me far from festive.

I hope those that have had bereavement enjoy the period as best they can.

Sorry about your losses. It's a grim time of year and the forced merriment doesn't help.

I’m feeling a bit shit at the minute due to being moved to Universal Credit because of a change in circumstances which isn’t my fault.
9 days to Christmas and I’m not feeling it at all. I normally have Christmas songs on in the house and feel really festive.

I have 2dc who won’t be getting very much this year compared to normal and ds’s MH is really poor ( he’s 16 ) which is making my anxiety worse.

I think my life is bad and then read of pp’s who have experienced loss and I feel awful. I suppose in the moment it feels like the end of the world for me but in reality we have our health and eachother which is priceless.

I think I will put some Christmas music on today and that should make me feel a bit more festive.

Me. Not a twinge of Christmas mood as yet.
My daughter has been in hospital so no nativity or carol concert this year and my DH is unemployed for the first time ever. It still feels like September to me.

I'm not at all tbh, no real huge issues compared to others, I'm worried about money and affording work on our house, I have some towards it but I hate worrying if I have enough all the time.

Me neither. Been ill since half term, bed enough to be off work for three weeks, supposed to be going back today but been awake since 1am with severe pain again 😩

I don't like Christmas. My parents passed away just after Christmas (one in early January and one day after boxing day). I'm 44 and my father passed when I was early 20s and mum early 30s. Christmas is just a reminder. But I plod on and try to embrace it none the less. Presents have been bought, decorations are up and I'm trying to get into it.

Me neither.

FIL is in final stages of terminal cancer and that’s taking a toll on whole family. No-one really wants to make plans for Christmas Day as it seems a bit like tempting fate.

I’m waiting for biopsy results (took 3 months to get them taken, will take another 3 months to get the results most likely). I’m finding it difficult to keep a smile on my face sometimes.

DH has been covering 2 jobs for 3 years, and whilst they’ve finally found a replacement person for one of the jobs, the handover period is causing extra workload and stress.

I lost my dad suddenly before Christmas. Then we had the awful Christmas when we found out my husband was cheating.
It feels more like a commercial construct than something that should bring joy and delight.
For this reason, we take our last sunshine holiday of the year just before Christmas.
Christmas is kept very low key. I no longer go to Christmas dos.
So am I in a Christmassy mood...no not at all. Im Loving the peace and calm, the sun, blue skies, warm temperatures.
Gorgeous time of the year. Warm but not roasting through the day and cool enough to sleep at nigh. Love it.
I am looking forward to being with my family Christmas Day
That’s what it’s all about to me.

I’m so sorry to hear of your losses .
Dad died before Christmas and we had to go through the ritual of Christmas and then have the funeral.
5 years ago today, my children’s father died. The funeral was on Christmas Eve and I attended with my new husband to support my children and grandchildren.
So no doubt they will be thinking of him rather than Christmas right now.

Sockypuppet ..you summed it up in two words..forced merriment.
I’m not religious at all but respect other people who are.
I like to think of Christmas as a pagan festival to brighten up what is probably a very grim time of year..cold days, short days, awful weather.
Hence the tree lights to brighten up the darkness...in a coupLe of days the Days will start to get longer.
Another reason why we go abroad this time of year..there’s nearly three more hours of daylight for a start. It just makes me feel better and helps to prevent SAD

Trying hard to but dad now in a nursing home with onset dementia when 3 months ago he was like me or you, and many many years of emotionally abuse and every year until a couple of years ago having to sort out the entire thing on my own in low money have taken their toll.
I have no Christmas do’s and missed a carol service yesterday that normally I would go to but forgot about (plus it was dad’s home’s Christmas party so was there with him). Hopefully Christmas spirit might start tomorrow - dd’s carol concert in church and she has a duet that I’m hoping to audio record for dad to hear.
Thing is I want to enjoy it, I really do, but it’s hard after years of being neglected/used as an emotional punchbag, and I’ve become a bit numb to it all.
I worry that despite trying to hide all this for years dd has been affected - she enjoys Halloween more, and actually I get where she’s coming from - cheaper, less prep, the films are more fun (we do Corpse Bride, Adams family type stuff) and everyone is genuinely happy

Absolutely no mood whatsoever. DH is self employed and gas virtually no work at the moment due to the bad weather so living day to day (no savings due to similar situation/credit card bills/other bills), DS (17) causing problems due to anger issues and DM starting with dementia. Can barely afford to buy anything whatsoever and just feel like I cant even be bothered to get up some days

Oh bless you all. I came on to grumble because I’ve been ill for about a week and a half but it’s nothing compared to you all.

I will not wish you a merry Christmas but I hope you find a peaceful one.

Me. I've had a wobbly month of health and am waiting for a follow up blood test later this week. Apparently my white blood cells are a bit low so I'm in full on panic about that.
One rear car light is playing up and now I need to find time to get to the garage and get that fixed.
Plus I'm working Xmas eve morning and terrified that DD will kick off and start WW3 while I'm out. It seemed like a good idea at the time.
And the dc's won't lift a finger for love nor money.

I am not feeling it this year either. We put up the tree yesterday and I began to feel more positive, but DD1 put a damper on my mood once again in the evening. She is trying to guilt me into doing something because it would suit her and I'm not going to do it, so she has barely spoken to me for the last 3 weeks. I also have a situation at work which is not helping. DD2 is going to her fiance's parents this year, which is fair enough as they were with us last year and I completely understand that. I just feel a bit shit. I'm sorry that so many of you are having such a hard time. It makes my complaints seem really trivial.

No I'm not feeling it either. Though I'm not allowed a Christmas because I work in hospitality and the Christmas spirit and cheer only works one way. And it's not towards the staff. It's the busiest time, I'm knackered, and I'm sick of entitled arses pissed up and behaving like idiots because 'its Christmas' fuck off.
Anniversaries of family passing, a friend and family member passed in the last week, no money and me and DD laid low with a heavy cold and I just want it all to go away.