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How's your 2019 been?

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bottlenose301 · 15/12/2019 02:04

A bit premature for this question but I was reflecting today over the past year.

For me personally, I've not had a great year. I've had relationship issues, stress at work, health issues, money issues, dramas with family and exes, etc. It's been hard going.

I've had much worse years and may experience worse years in the future.
But I'll be glad to say bye to 2019.

How's your year been?

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Thestrangestthing · 15/12/2019 02:15

Not great. Mum and dad split up and we've now got my mum living with us, sharing a room with oldest ds while youngest is squashed in with us (2 bed house) and 2020 isn't looking any better.

ILikeyourHairyHands · 15/12/2019 02:19

Great. My mum and Dad split 25 years ago. Been married for 15 years. My children are doing well.

gingergittable · 15/12/2019 02:28

One of my best friends suddenly died. That's eclipsed everything else really. Ds has had some health issues. I've had a few miscarriages. This year can sod off.

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Pukeworthy · 15/12/2019 03:26

Some of my worst times. But also some positives - met new friends, new bf, been on big learning curves and can hopefully progress?

Honeybee85 · 15/12/2019 03:36

A total rollercoaster.

Moved to a country on a different continent and had a baby there with DH. Felt massively lonely and suffered from PND. I am starting to feel better now but this one will go into the books as probably the most turbulent one ever.

I am excited to see what 2020 will bring me 🌟

Honeybee85 · 15/12/2019 03:38

And maybe a bit early too but I wish everyone on this thread to have a great 2020.
Esspecially those who had a difficult 2019; I really hope next year will be better for you ⛅️

HerRoyalNotness · 15/12/2019 03:41

Same rubbish I’ve had the previous 5 years before it really.

HelloCanYouHearMe · 15/12/2019 07:56

Total rollercoaster for me.

Had a very close and intense relationship come to an end
Got shat on from a great height at work
Asssociated stresses from the above lead to a massive and much needed time out
Went back to work, turned it around and gained a hugh promotion
Bought a house which looked as though it just needed cosmetic work (as backed up by the survey) of course as soon as I got the keys that turned out to not be the case and Im currently living in a building site.

Im still a bit sore and bruised from the relationship but I know that this will take a bit of time to get over. Im really hoping that once the house is sorted (aiming for March), the remainder of 2020 will be more like a nice gentle boat trip on a calm river on a sunny day yeah right

Bluesheep8 · 15/12/2019 07:57

Awful in one very big sense. My dad's health declined rapidly at the beginning of the year (Parkinson's delirium which has progressed into Parkinson's dementia) so there is no option but for him to be in full time residential care so that's been really hard to accept and come to terms with. Other than that, my luck has continued with my own health (2019 was the 20th anniversary of my MS diagnosis)

Waxonwaxoff0 · 15/12/2019 07:58

Ups and downs. There have been some family issues but I've been lucky enough to have some brilliant experiences, including my first visit to New York.

I'm expecting a better 2020. I'm buying my first home next year which is a huge deal for me as a single mum. Will be great to have some stability.

Wishing you all a great 2020!

BlackSwanGreen · 15/12/2019 08:01

The main changes for us were a new job for DH and DC2 starting secondary school. Both going well so far. DC1 and DC3 happy at their schools.
I got an award at work, so am proud of that.
Parents and PILs still basically in good health but definitely seem a lot older than a year ago.
A good year in general (except politically speaking).

Finfintytint · 15/12/2019 08:01

I think 2020 will be better.
2019 brought death of a parent, redundancy for DH, relocation and two house sales, so pretty stressful.

WinterRose92 · 15/12/2019 08:05

A bit of a mixed one, really.
My partner lost his job halfway through the year just as I went onto maternity leave which was really stressful with our 2nd baby on the way.
He found another job relatively quickly but is hating it so will look for another in the new year.
Our beautiful daughter arrived in August which was the highlight of the year! Our son is besotted with his baby sister and our family is complete now, which feels lovely.
A few more ups and downs, bit of a struggle at times.
Hoping for a better year in 2020.
Best wishes to everyone for the new year!

MsAwesomeDragon · 15/12/2019 08:10

It's been a bit crappy tbh.

Loads of stress at work but also have had to deal with worry about family members. Dd1 had anxiety and depression and needed to come home from uni (is on medication, significantly better, back at uni now). Both parents are having significant health problems, with a lot of tests done but they still don't have actual diagnoses. My sister is having money troubles (working but also relying on UC) and I have to keep "lending" her money so she can put the heating on. She's also ill, but with chronic illnesses that I can't help with and all the doctors can do at the moment is give stronger painkillers. Oh, and I've been diagnosed as diabetic, but that feels like an afterthought as that's not caused me anywhere near as much stress as the other stuff, just given me more jobs to do (like booking blood tests every so often, collecting prescriptions, etc)

2020 had better be better. I don't know how much more worry and stress I can cope with.

CatLadyInTraining · 15/12/2019 08:21

I’m a bit like you OP (at headline level at least). Have definitely had much worse years, but will still be very glad to see the back of 2019! Feeling more optimistic about 2020 right now but will need to work hard (at life) to achieve that and not lose willpower. So we shall see....

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bottlenose301 · 15/12/2019 10:21

Some of these are really sad :(

I really hope 2020 is much better and happier for us all! X

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Rubychard · 15/12/2019 11:04

It’s been a great year over here. I’ve passed my exams and set up my own business. DS2 was diagnosed with asd which at least gives us an explanation as to why he behaves as he does. Also let’s us access support. I’ve managed to get a handle on my anxiety and I think I am setting better boundaries in my life.

Flowers to everyone struggling. Hope 2020 is much better.

peaceanddove · 15/12/2019 11:05

Overall very good. Teen did surprisingly very well in their GCSEs considering how little revision they did. DH landed a new contract which was part fluke and hard graft which will be life changing for us.

MillieMoodle · 15/12/2019 11:12

There have been some very low lows in 2019, but I'm feeling positive (ish) for 2020.

DH's nan died in April. We used to see her every week so we miss her a lot.
DH's other nan was diagnosed with skin cancer.
My dad was diagnosed with prostate cancer.
My mum's been ill all year.
My friends mum's was diagnosed with bowel cancer.
Work has been horrendous as I've been covering another colleague's full time job since April (for no extra money) as well as doing my own so am completely burnt out and have barely seen the DC or had any real work/life balance.
There have been a lot of money worries and my work have been making redundancies this month.

BUT
My cousin had a beautiful baby boy last week who has brought some hope for a better year next year!

AND
We have a roof over our heads and food on the table so we're in a better position than a lot of people.

graziemille567 · 15/12/2019 11:16

It's been a pretty good year for us, although I don't like saying that as politically this year has been so shit. There is so much wrong with world at present that I feel a bit guilty at how well life is at the moment. No doubt this won't last, something shitty is sure to happen soon! But we got married, have had some lovely holidays, built up some savings, and husband got a new job which will take us to live in another country next year, so 2019 has been good to us.

Doyouthinktheysaurus · 15/12/2019 11:25

I've been quite fortunate really, 2019 has been alright. Work stress is not great but DS1 did amazing in his GCSE's, DH and I had an incredible holiday without any children for the first time in 17 years and we paid off our mortgage.

Sadly, we lost SIL far too young.

fin89 · 15/12/2019 11:30

Had a baby girl in March and she has been the biggest joy but also the biggest adjustment - feel like I've not seen my partner much as he has worked non stop so I've felt isolated and alone and am now starting anti depressants.

I feel lucky to have my children and my marriage - feel like others in my family are going through hard times which is tough.

A lot to be thankful for but I feel a lot more I want to achieve I'll spend the dawn of the new year holding onto my partner and kids and feel lucky I have them...

Betterbegoing · 15/12/2019 11:39

Bloody wonderful. I married my DH, and were off to New Zealand just before the end of the year. My ‘D’M was a bit of a cock along the way (understatement) but I’ve done remarkably well at accepting it and distancing this year.

Cornishmendoitdrekkly · 15/12/2019 11:45

Mixed year here ...still in remission Grin but chemo has affected my heart so had an emergency hospital admission while the Drs sorted me out. Once again I was so grateful for our NHS.Smile
Son managed to get his own house after saving hard for 3 years but I miss him at home and daughter got a first in her degree and is happy with her life so the anxiety of parenthood has lessened.
DH changed job and is so much happier and I moved schools so I'm happier and less stressed too. Elderly parents are still with us and DF is particularly enjoying life. DM less so but doesn't like the cold and rain but hopefully Spring will help her enjoy life a bit more.
Overall 2019 has been ok, however 2020 is the start of a new decade and I'm full of hope for a good new year for everyone.

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