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How's your 2019 been?

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bottlenose301 · 15/12/2019 02:04

A bit premature for this question but I was reflecting today over the past year.

For me personally, I've not had a great year. I've had relationship issues, stress at work, health issues, money issues, dramas with family and exes, etc. It's been hard going.

I've had much worse years and may experience worse years in the future.
But I'll be glad to say bye to 2019.

How's your year been?

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OldBear · 15/12/2019 11:45

Utter wank.

Parents health issues, sister split with her husband, best friends moved halfway across the world, money worries.

Oh and the minor inconvenience of splitting with my husband too.

2019 can fuck right off.

caringiscreepy · 15/12/2019 11:47

Terrible. Almost died and took months upon months to recover. Silver lining - genuinely loving life at the minute and am looking forward to a better 2020

OneIsAWorldOfBooks · 15/12/2019 11:53

The majority of this year has actually been pretty shit. Work place burnt down, fell pregnant and lost baby 5 days before starting new job, new job has been utter shit, my relationship with DP reached breaking point, my dad has been unwell, grandparents have recently been unwell so caring for them, my car has broken down multiple times and has finally completely given up.

However, I’m determined to end the year on a high. Relationship with DP is now better than ever, we’re going to look at a new house this week, I’ve finally accepted I need to embrace the change at work and although it’s not where I want to be, this role does seem to be opening up some good opportunities for the future. I’m looking forward to a lovely Christmas at home just me, DP and DS, and we’re looking at holidays for 2020.

maddiemookins16mum · 15/12/2019 12:16

Not too bad at all.
Me and DP both employed in jobs we love, bonus twice a year and pending promotions with payrises.
Two overseas holidays.
Small mortgage.
No ill health.
DD is 16 in April and loving working towards her GCSE exams.
We feel very lucky and grateful for our lot.
This year has followed on from unemployment after a holiday/airline I worked for collapsed (I was there for 25 years and heartbroken at the time - it was not TC) and losing my mum a few years ago which has changed me forever.
My only ‘worry’ at present is my darling, lovely, sweet MIL who is late 80’s and getting frail (not that it stops her doing anything at present).

DinosaurMayonnaise · 15/12/2019 12:34

Shit tbh. Diagnosed with cancer in January, had a year of hell fighting it. Beat it. Wife suddenly left me just before Xmas after saying all year how happy she was.

MitziK · 15/12/2019 12:51

Shit.

Six month redundancy process, deliberately dragged out to make people give up and leave before they got their entitlement. Toxic working place anyhow, so would have bitten their hand off if they'd just said at the outset, you are going, that won't change, so here's the money and you don't have to work your fucking arse off for the remaining five months so we feel like we've got our pound of flesh from you.

Brother died. Had to deal with relatives, including abuser, flying monkeys and golden child. And go back to work to deal with the redundancy in the middle of it. And find out in the midst of that that other relative I liked/didn't abuse me is terminally ill. Followed by the usual rejection from the relatives, who never wanted me to know in the first place. Now being chased by his pension fund for confirmation that I want his death in service benefit to go to the main abuser. If I say no, the shitstorm that would follow would be insane. So I'm ignoring the letters, which is probably also annoying them, but I changed phone number when I dropped my phone last month, so don't have contact details for them - or anybody I actually rather like in terms of friends/work contacts.

Got another job, but wasn't emotionally ready for it, DP had made no effort to get anything until I crashed and burned, at which point, I was already into the new contract. Had he sorted his shit out earlier, I could have actually taken the time I needed, possibly some counselling, maybe retraining, and not gone into a very similar workplace.

New job is less toxic but incredibly demanding mentally and physically.

Humira isn't working.

After 46 years of a lifelong condition (a number of them, actually), I overloaded and couldn't complete the PIP renewal because I couldn't cope with the form, never mind another fucking medical. So I'm officially cured. Yay. Not allowed to be ill now. Ever.

DP has job that doesn't quite pay enough to cover everything, but now wants to go back to his old hobby which he comprehensively failed at making a living from, allegedly just as a hobby, but is already talking about When The Money Starts Coming In. I just want him to have a fulltime, steady job like everybody else. I've had to have one to support him for five years, it's about time he reciprocated.

And I look like fucking shit on a stick, I've got tinnitus on one side due to the damage sustained from the last job laughing at my concerns about behaviour and noise damage, although with one of the lifelong degenerative conditions making me more susceptible in the first place and that means it is never quiet and I can't earn a living in music anymore.

So yeah, this has been pretty shit as years go.

Dowser · 15/12/2019 13:14

Ups and downs.
Health not been brilliant but I think I’m finally beating the battle of my ibs
Son had a difficult time with his job..but now in a new position and training for a totally new career
His son got all A grades in gcse, got part time job In McDonald’s now studying hard on physics, chemistry and maths and wants to be a chemical engineer..so proud..he’s the lovliest young man too
Other grandson doing well studying art at uni..also a lovely lad
Home edders are doing well, one has taught himself guitar, other is embarking in violin and Japanese
Me and dh are jogging along like a cosy pair of slippers. Had some lovely sunshine holidays, also a few catch ups in uk with family and friends and we live in nyorks half the Week which is the icing on the cake
Just need to get the health sorted

And if I sound like smug mrs mcsmugface ...I’ve had some right stinking years in the past and thankfully this isn’t one of them

Dowser · 15/12/2019 13:18

Mitzi..sorry to hear about your brother
You’ve had a bellyful
I’ve had years like that
If I can coast out my remaining years till death..I will be well happy.

gingergittable · 15/12/2019 13:33

@ILikeyourHairyHands

I don't think death is the worst thing. It's just a thing.

Was that aimed at me? Angry I've lost a few children, a best friend and about to lose my brother. I won't say what I'm thinking to you because it will get deleted but wow.

Oblomov19 · 15/12/2019 13:45

Not great. Ds1 ran away. My long term health condition is getting worse and I feel rotten a lot of the time. I started a new job after being in my old one for donkeys years but it was toxic and I was crying all the time, so I quit.

Spinspinspin123 · 15/12/2019 14:26

At the start of 2019 I felt like shit and told my DH that something had to change because I didn't want to turn 40 (next year) feeling like crap. I just didn't know what changes I needed to make.

In August an opportunity to reach out to my biological dad who I'd not spoken to for 26 years came about and it was the best thing I've ever done.

So although it started pretty miserable 2019 is ending on a positive note and I'm looking forward to seeing what the new year has to bring Smile

SpaceCadet4000 · 15/12/2019 14:27

Very mixed. DH and I both had big promotions and raises, a brilliant holiday and bought our first house. I've been travelling lots for work which has been really exciting. For us, 2019 has been a real high.

However, DH's sister's life has crumbled due to addiction issues and it's been horrific for his family. His grandad just passed away and his sister is now gravely ill.

tinytemper66 · 15/12/2019 14:35

Really shit and won't get better anytime soon. Just trying to make the most of it.

1990shopefulftm · 15/12/2019 14:51

My grandad died from cancer a couple of weeks ago so that made some of this year a bit difficult and the car gave up which meant money on the credit cards adding to our debt from doing up our house.

But on the other hand, I found the strength to quit my job of 3 years in june in June which wasn't doing my mental health any good and got offered my job now which is such a supportive environment and close to home within a few days of my old job and pays more and has more benefits than my previous one . I also started a degree with OU despite working full time, it's been a regret of mine I didn't quite finish a degree when I was younger and i m surprising myself that I can do it when I have dyslexia and dyspraxia making it harder. we've also been quite savvy and paid off some debts whilst saving for a baby which we've started trying for recently.

Hoping 2020 is the year I become a mum and we get bits round the house finished and have a bit lower debts than we have now.

Walnutwhipster · 15/12/2019 14:52

Fucking awful. DM was diagnosed with ovarian cancer in April and died less than four months later. It feels so odd being an adult orphan.
I have a life limiting illness which required yet more major life saving surgery. I can't maintain my weight so it looks like my feeding line will be going back in after Christmas but you know what? I'm incredibly thankful to be alive and hopefully have the chance to see my children grow up. I have amazing family and friends and a comfortable life. There's always something to be grateful for.

Arrowfanatic · 15/12/2019 18:01

A bit up & down, but more up. Down, DH didnt pass the exam he needed to get promoted Crown Sad

Positives we had a great family holiday, my kids are all excelling in school, our finances are on the up, the karate club i own has become super successful, and i got a new job despite being a sahm for 9 years previously and i LOVE it.

I'm looking forward to christmas and 2020 so much. I can see it being even better.

dudsville · 15/12/2019 18:04

It's been a hectic, stressful year, but it's gone quickly as I don't feel I've lived much outside of the daily mill.

charm8ed · 15/12/2019 18:15

Very mixed.
An amazing start, fantastic 50th birthday celebrations, some lovely holidays.
Then since August a lot of health concerns and a recent diagnosis of cancer. Also a lot, I mean really a lot of illness in my my extended family.
For myself I feel ok, not too down in the dumps but I am worrying about my family members who are ill.

DinosApple · 15/12/2019 18:25

The first 10 months were super stressful working 7 days a week, long hours (me and DH). It took a massive toll on our DC, but we were working towards never having to do that again.

Now we have our lives back, and are all trying to get back on track with fingers crossed we get a few years grace before life throws the next corker.

Twinklelikethechristmastree · 15/12/2019 18:34

Not great. Was diagnosed with breast cancer and spent most of my year in hospital. In the middle of it all its showed me who's really there for me and who isn't. You just have to learn to take care of yourself most of the time!

cptartapp · 15/12/2019 18:56

Pretty good. Pootling along for DH and I. Several holidays. DS1 got great GCSE's and is enjoying college and really growing up now, DS2 doing well at school. No issues.
PIL are ageing and potentially hard work but that's to be expected. After a horrendous couple of years with sudden and tragic deaths of close family members, 2019 has been really ok.

NewYearmorestress · 15/12/2019 19:04

Shit, thanks for asking.

minipurr · 15/12/2019 19:12

Honestly and truthfully:

Fucking crap. Found out the hard way my sweet, beautiful little boy has lifelong disabilities and isn't likely to ever live independently.
Found out that I'm now officially classed as disabled myself (as in PIP and ESA claiming, blue badge holding disabled). And its only going to get worse and by the way sometime in the next 5 years I will end up as a wheelchair user.
Having to give up my career to care for my DS.
Finding out my other DC was and is being horrifically bullied at school because of her brother and myself. Mercenary little shit who is getting away with it because his mummy also works in the school.
DH working 60 hour weeks just to have some money coming in the house because there is absolutely no way disability benefits x2 replace the wage I was earning

Still, when you're at rock bottom the only way you can go is up. Until then I'm going to lie on the sofa eating the christmas chocolate that no-one knows I brought.

peanutdust · 15/12/2019 21:45

It's been good started of shit was having panic attacks daily didn't know what was wrong with me I even posted on Mumsnet so many times under different names begging for someone to help me.
Turns out it was just Anxiety which has been hard and difficult at times dealing with but I no longer have panic attacks, I no longer obsess and I have found peace to move on from it! And in a way feel "cured".
My DH found a job in the March, April I found out I was pregnant I'm now due any day Grin.
Our relationship was heading down the pan however this year has been brilliant for us relationship wise we are now closer more in love and respectful to one another.
The kids are still small but doing brilliant at school and nursery and seem happy little things.
I honestly really hope 2020 is another fantastic year and the start to the best decade ever my mental health has improved amazingly this year and I hope I continue to go from strength to strength with it.

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