What is your best wedding tip?

[PlaymobilPirate]

Booked our wedding a few weeks ago for July. Registrar and venue sorted but nothing else!

Don’t have guests.

Don't spend more than you can afford, it is about being married, not one day!

@ItIsWhatItIsInnit you're right. I've not been to many weddings really and just wanted a rough idea of whether our plan sounded ok

Pretty well every wedding I've been to (40 or so) has had additional evening guests, it's totally normal for those you aren't so close to eg colleagues.

Remember that the important bit is the legal bit and not colour schemes.

I've been to quite a few weddings of different budgets and scales and for me the one major thing that can make it a good or bad wedding, regardless of how many guests there are or how flashy it is, is how friendly and welcoming
the bridal couple are towards all their guests.

It sounds like a no brainer, but I've attended many weddings where the couple, especially the bride, were tense control freaks the whole time and ensuring the event went like clockwork completely took over from actually seeming just glad to celebrate with everyone who had turned up. It can make all your guests feel more like annoying accessories than dear friends.

Done the right way though and you can transform an event into something everyone talks about for weeks afterwards because you actually seemed grateful for everyone's presence.

Hold your bouquet down below your waist.

It’s such an unusual thing holding a bouquet, not something you do everyday and it tends to be swung around like holding a wine glass.

With so many people snapping way all day, you’ll have so many photos to look at and I guarantee you’ll be happier with the ones where your bouquet it held down.

Going against the grain, but I think you have more than enough food and would let people pay for their own transport!

I get married next year, we’re doing hearty canapés, hog roast and family style salads (plus veggie option) then desert, meringue towers and brownies. Then we’re going for a cheese wedding cake which will serve as the evening food along with pork pies/scotch eggs/nibbles and an ice cream tricycle.

We’re providing all the for our guests (Costco runs and a trip to Calais is on the cards) - but our guests are having to pay for the transport to/from the venue, which we think is a fair deal

It’s your day, do what you want to do... your guests will love it either way.

@Fatfat thanks- the venue is known for decent food!

We're having a cheese wedding cake too (or we will be if I get my arse into gear and order one!)

Your food sounds almost the exact same as we had at ours. It was brilliant, perfect for a hot day, and so many people commented on how nice it was, and how nice it was that the serving of the platters was so quick compared to normal plates meals.

Remember it’s a party and that you want your guests to enjoy themselves.

Also think carefully before heading into your day, your rules territory i.e. is it what you want to happen worth a 20 year family feud or the loss of a friendship.

@MrsFionaCharming not north east were you for yours?

Nope, South West!

My top tip for brides....
When you go for your dress fittings don't just stare at yourself in the mirror whilst swishing your dress. Actually sit/bend down in it. I didn't realise just how tight mine was until I attempted to sit down and eat a three course meal!

@DuchessofManchester that really is a brilliant tip! I need to drop some weight so not planning on looking until the end of feb ish (july wedding!) and just nipping to Wed2be

I don't agree on no evening guests. We are having family and only some close friends at our ceremony and meal. Neither of us like a lot of attention, me especially. Then inviting more people to the evening do that will have a very generous buffet. And we will be providing buses to the place as its a bit remote. So they will only be paying for an outfit really if they don't have an old one.

We can't afford to do a meal for over 100 people either. If people are pissed off by that, they can pay for their meal if they are that bothered.