Is someone’s asking you questions about something negative, you don’t wanna talk about, what do you say to close them down ?

[Lardlizard]

I find oh I’m not wasting my time thinking about that
Works well

“Do you mind if we talk about something else?” And then talk about something else.

‘I wouldn’t know’, yawn, look away.

"I'd rather talk about something else".

It's hard for someone to keep pushing if you are being straightforward.
If they do, it's easier for you to be a bit rude.

I’m trying to put that out of my mind

A couple of years ago, i went to a baby group with Dd2. I was sitting minding my own business in a group of mum's, when one of them asked me ( was it your daughter that was murdered recently).
I was so shocked someone I didn't know would say that I didn't answer.
One of the other mum's did say I don't think you should be asking that.
I never went back to the group.
4yrs later I would probably tell her to mind her own business.

Some people are ridiculously rude

I think some of them are ride on purpose

Rude

I say "I don't like to dwell on that" or "I find that upsetting to talk about", or "I have to keep it together for the sake of the kids, so I don't open that particular box".

"I don't want to talk about that" and then change the subject.

Bloody hell @ParkheadParadise

"it's still very raw, lets not discuss this".

I'd like to know this as i struggle a lot with MH issues which mean i don't work and am often stuck indoors for extended periods, and when i do talk its so what are you up to? And apart from looking after my disabled mum its just awkward, especially as i feel I'm just passing the buck. It makes me more fearful of conversations tbh

"Oh, let's not get into that! How is/are [X/Y/Z]?"

Moving swiftly on and changing the subject!

@ParkheadParadise I'm so shocked that someone would say that to you. I am full of admiration for you that you can even get through the day.

Omg parklands your daughter was murdered :( I am so massively sorry for your loss, it must be so hard every day! You’re a stronger woman than me, just to be living every day. I couldn’t. Wish you every happiness and love with your son xx

‘That’s not something I discuss. Anyway .

Fuck sake, Parkhead, I can’t believe somebody would be so bloody nosy in circumstances like that, it would cause them to suspend every ounce of empathy they ever possessed.

That’s on a need to know basis

((Parkhead))

Sometimes you don't need to say anything. Just leave a pause and then change the subject. then if they veer back maybe say something. If you want to avoid 'why not' etc

Also don’t fill awkward silences

So sorry for your loss ParkheadParadise and also appalled that anyone could be so insensitive and crass as to raise it in such a way.

I’m menopausal. I just walk away and people just laugh and think it’s my hormones.

Try it, just blank it and move.

I say "well ... you know" and the best bit is they think they do and don't ask again.

I was so shocked about someone (workplace gossip) asking me something about family issue that was private (concerning one of my DC) that I just gave a very incredulous and puzzled “What?” in response. She persisted , less confidently, so I went “Umm...” in a manner that sort of implied I thought she was mad.
She muttered “I heard something, that’s all” and wandered off. Cheeky mare.