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Argh - my boss rejected my FB friend request

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Bookridden · 27/11/2019 18:24

I work in a friendly office and have a good relationship with my line managers. My boss's boss is a pleasant person who has other colleagues as FB friends so I thought I would send her a friend request. It was almost immediately rejected and now I feel mortified, especially as she's someone whom I wish to impress. I obviously misread the signals in thinking she wanted an informal friendship (she greets with a hug, is complimentary about my work etc etc). I basically feel as if I've been rejected by the cool kids. Should I apologise, ignore, what? I'm massively overthinking this but I feel I've made a massive tit of myself and don't know what to do next time I see her.

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AnchorDownDeepBreath · 28/11/2019 13:37

I just feel hurt and embarrassed. Which I know is stupid. It's just awkward as she'll know I've FB stalked her. At least she's out of the office for a few weeks, giving time for my mortification to fade a bit.

She won't, you could have added her from "People You May Know". Don't overthink it, it's fine.

Cruddles · 28/11/2019 13:37

Quitting your job and leaving the country are the only solutions to this gaffe

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 28/11/2019 13:37

Since when did fb send rejection notifications

It doesn't, but if you add someone and they ignore the request, it shows as pending and you can't add them again. If you add someone and they reject it, the button changes so that you can add them again.

Mylittlepony374 · 28/11/2019 13:43

I am a boss. If it helps, if I had Facebook I would refuse anyone who reported to me that friend requested me. No matter how much I liked them. And if I had refused them, I'd like them to never, ever, mention it again. And don't worry, it's really not a big deal. She's probably forgotten already.

IceniSky · 28/11/2019 13:57

I have 1 person from work but have worked with them for 18 years, and we are close. I never add anyone anymore. No school mums. No new friends. Only people I've know for decades.

Bunney2020 · 28/11/2019 14:08

The quicker people stop seeking validation from social media the better. It's cringey at best, and damaging at worst.

ClientListQueen · 28/11/2019 15:46

I'm friends with my colleagues and boss on FB but my FB is set to post to (as default) "friends, excluding work" Wink

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