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Can you think of a reasonable explanation for this?

111 replies

ChesterDrawer · 26/11/2019 21:23

Friend phoned in complete panic.

Opened post this morning and it was a parking fine. Not her car her husbands. In a hotel car park. Mid afternoon when he should have been at work Hmm

I’m trying to calm her down and think of some kind of reasonable explanation other than “yep he’s having an affair”

Anyone got anything?!! He’s office based, 40 mins from hotel.

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saraclara · 27/11/2019 00:17

She says his company do hold training sessions at this hotel amongst others but would usually be in his diary

Well that puts a whole different slant on things. Sounds like a diary mistake and an over reaction

Yep.

MollyHuaCha · 27/11/2019 00:19

Hope there's a simple (and happy) explanation.

LemonPrism · 27/11/2019 00:37

Parked to pick up lunch from a cage near the hotel

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Pierrettelasanguinaire · 27/11/2019 03:11

Parked to pick up lunch from a cage near the hotel
If he's stealing from zoo animals she should definitely LTB

GlamGiraffe · 27/11/2019 03:19

Called in to meet a prostitute who was booked in to the hotel?
Attending a driver awareness course at the hotel and had avoided mentioning it?

What time was the fine issued. It must say if the photo was attached I'd think. It might give a better insight. Where is the hotel near or I the direction of, might it be, for example a place youd pop for the loo in an emergency?

Shes going to have to ask.

1forAll74 · 27/11/2019 04:04

Why doesn't your friend ask her husband about the parking ticket ?

Apolloanddaphne · 27/11/2019 04:13

If the company uses that hotel for meetings etc then surely that is the answer. It is very possible he popped there maybe to do a session at a conference and it wasn't in his diary. She just needs to ask her DH about it.

GirlRaisedInTheSouth · 27/11/2019 04:20

Ring the hotel, say “I am Mr X’s PA. He stayed with you on the night of X. Can you email me a copy of the receipt please?”

As a PA I have had to do this countless times and have never had any trouble.

Toddlerteaplease · 27/11/2019 04:36

Scam was my first thought.

nakedavengeragain · 27/11/2019 04:46

Im a senior exec and my diary can often look like I'm in the office all day but in fact the appointment location is TBA and then arranged on the day. I then end up meeting a client, colleague, friend for coffee or lunch at a location equidistant, oftentimes it's a hotel.

If my DH went though my receipts he'd see some from the hotel across the road from my work and could think the worst but I'd be furious if he did.

There's been impromptu drinks there to celebrate a birthday or closing a deal or finishing an important piece of work

Much depends on whether he has this kind of job or not plans whether the hotel and location seems reasonable as a place where these things might take place.

If he works in Canary Wharf for example and it's a Travelodge in Millwall then I'd be suspect because... why go there!

Failing that yes I've had senior management meetings or training in the diary where the location is confirmed in an email rather than in the invite. Again. It's usually a hotel.

BlouseAndSkirt · 27/11/2019 05:49

She says his company do hold training sessions at this hotel amongst others but would usually be in his diary

I would be furious if my DH opened my mail and then phoned my PA (particularly embarrassing), phoned the hotel.... over a venue my company uses for training etc.

nameymcnamechangeagain · 27/11/2019 08:13

Why doesn’t she just casually ask if he’s had any conferences or anything? If he says no then straight away somethings up isn’t it?

Logjam · 27/11/2019 08:22

Weird the hotel were asking for a room number. I make hotel bookings and frequently have to phone up and ask for a invoice to be forwarded - they have never asked for a room number and there's no way any of my colleagues would remember which room they stayed in.

coconuttelegraph · 27/11/2019 08:28

Are you sure your friend is being truthful with you OP? It sounds a little strange that she phoned up her DHs PA to discuss his whereabouts, what did she even say? Surely the PA would tell the DH about the call, he now has notice if he is up to anything shady.

Do you know your friend well enough to believe her?

CloudPop · 27/11/2019 10:31

She could always ask him ?

TheReluctantCountess · 27/11/2019 10:37

It’s weird that she’s prepared to ask his PA before asking him.

AFairlyHardAvocado · 27/11/2019 11:03

I would be so angry if my other half called my PA to ask about something like this.

It would look so unprofessional and (though I think it's wrong of her to have done that regardless) if there is an innocent explanation I hope she will be very apologetic to her DH about doing that.

At this stage he may just have gone to a meeting and she's done something totally inappropriate instead of talking to him like an adult.

BlouseAndSkirt · 27/11/2019 11:03

“Weird the hotel were asking for a room number. I make hotel bookings and frequently have to phone up and ask for a invoice to be forwarded “

The difference is you are the person who made the booking.

I run an organisation that takes different kinds of bookings, we would never give details of any visitors to a 3rd party. Apart from privacy / GDPR issues, how would we know we weren’t aiding a stalker?

In general the MN Detectives vastly overestimate both the acting skills of the average worried partner, and the gullibility if the average Receptionist / partner when faced with all these cooked up disingenuous enquiries as suggested in this thread.

GiveHerHellFromUs · 27/11/2019 11:09

What was the fine actually for? Was he there too long or parked over two spaces?

I think that's relevant because if he was there for too long he could have been for a business dinner the night before then had a couple of beers and got a taxi home.

DryHeaving · 27/11/2019 11:10

Agree with AFairlyHardAdvocado I would also be raising my eyebrows if I was his PA
Just ask him

CalmdownJanet · 27/11/2019 11:28

We open post so i'd have no problem with that part but I would spit fire if my dh called my p.a to question my movements without asking me first over a fine from a hotel my company used.

Text your friend there and tell her she sounds like an insane, jealous control freak

crustycrab · 27/11/2019 11:37

Parking fines tend to tell you what time you entered the car park and what time you left.

Not sure why she hasn't just asked him why he was there but if she really needs to go all detective on him then the timings might help.

If he was there 5 minutes he probably popped in to collect something or answer the phone. If he was there 2.5 hours he probably was at a conference or meeting

AFairlyHardAvocado · 27/11/2019 11:55

She called the hotel too?! Bloody hell.

wafflyversatile · 27/11/2019 14:19

yep, if he's not been up to anything he's going to be pretty angry she's phone his pa, I would think. I mean, if he is up to something he will also be angry in order to deflect but... I'd be quite annoyed if I was the pa too. What a position to be put in.

baffledbeyondbelief · 27/11/2019 14:37

IMO if your friends DH was having an affair / meeting a prostitute he wouldn't use a hotel that he might bump into colleagues at surely?