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Can you think of a reasonable explanation for this?

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ChesterDrawer · 26/11/2019 21:23

Friend phoned in complete panic.

Opened post this morning and it was a parking fine. Not her car her husbands. In a hotel car park. Mid afternoon when he should have been at work

I’m trying to calm her down and think of some kind of reasonable explanation other than “yep he’s having an affair”

Anyone got anything?!! He’s office based, 40 mins from hotel.

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TryingToBeBold · 26/11/2019 22:30

Wondering what the outcome of this ends up being

MrsJBaptiste · 26/11/2019 22:33

How many women here routinely open their husband’s personal letters?

Er, I do and DH does with my post (not that there's much of it)

Same with mobiles, nothing to hide here!

NewBlueGoo · 26/11/2019 22:34

Does she always open his post?

At my house whichever one of us is home when the post arrives opens it and deals with anything urgent, regardless of whose name is on the envelope. We're both happy with that & neither of us is a paranoid controlling psycho as far as I can tell. I don't imagine we are wildly unorthodox in doing things this way.

I hope the parking fine turns out to be innocuous.

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ChesterDrawer · 26/11/2019 22:35

Am texting friend whilst reading replies. Car share/nipping into hotel v unlikely. Hotel on a dual carriageway opposite direction to work so would have to drive past work exit and keep going to get to hotel.

She called the hotel and said she was Mrs X and her husband had had a fine and could she have a copy of receipt. They wouldn’t give any information without a room number first (wouldn’t even confirm if he was a guest or not).

She says his company do hold training sessions at this hotel amongst others but would usually be in his diary

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ChesterDrawer · 26/11/2019 22:36

No previous form for affairs, no suspicions, perfectly normal bloke

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feelinghelplesstoday · 26/11/2019 22:38

Horrible for your friend and I hope there's an innocent explanation x

zzzzzzzx · 26/11/2019 22:44

I open all the post that comes into our house. It's only credit card bills that I need to pay off, bills that I need to pay etc because I do the banking. My husband would not open his post if I left it on the side for him - it just sits there until I open it. We never receive anything other than the usual mundane house stuff other than birthday cards which are easily identified. Why would post be secret? Also, I might be naive but I'm assuming there is some reason why he was at the hotel.

ColonelCathcart · 26/11/2019 22:50

Am I being dense here - how can cloned plates be the explanation if there is a picture of his car in the car park on the letter? Surely the cloned plates would be on a different car?

theEnglishInPatient · 26/11/2019 22:50

How many women here routinely open their husband’s personal letters?

we don't open each other personal letters, just leave them hanging around whilst opened but everything else whoever arrives first opens. A car park fine is hardly a "personal letter".

Let's face it, if DH (or I) wanted to cheat, we would just get our love letter sent to the office... Do people even write love letters these days?

Branster · 26/11/2019 22:51

My DH got a parking fine in the post many years ago in his name, his car details for a location about 200 miles away from where we live. He gave it to me to deal with and claimed he knew nothing about that location. He was definitely working from home that day and although I was in and out of the house he was always at home and the time I was absent was nowhere near long enough for him or his car to get there and back without me noticing.
So mistakes do happen.
Some hotels issue parking fines even when you register your car with them and there are so many of these training courses and presentations, your DH could have easily attended something like that at the last minute with no need to tell his PA.
Give him the benefit of the doubt for now.

GabsAlot · 26/11/2019 22:53

Branster theres a picture of his car there

thaegumathteth · 26/11/2019 22:58

There must be some suspicion surely because I would not automatically think it was an affair

MissChananderlerbong · 26/11/2019 23:01

Let him open it and see what he says... I used to be a PA and it wasnt unheard of for execs to go off piste from the diary for genuine work matters.

wafflyversatile · 26/11/2019 23:02

If she normally opens his mail then it is easy enough for her to ask how he's managed to get a fine at the hotel. If it is an affair he will have to think up a lie on the spot. if it is not well she is annoyed about the fine but he'll know what's happened and wont have to bluster while he thinks of something.

If it is an affair it might be her room not his.

ladybee28 · 26/11/2019 23:03

his company do hold training sessions at this hotel amongst others but would usually be in his diary... No previous form for affairs, no suspicions, perfectly normal bloke

What's more likely, then – an affair or a diary mistake?

I'd err on the side of a perfectly simple explanation, but then I've never been cheated on (to my knowledge), so maybe I'm more trusting than many.

plightofthealbatross · 26/11/2019 23:04

Sorry, OP. I think you're going to have to ask him in person and hope you know him well enough to read him.

Redglitter · 26/11/2019 23:09

She says his company do hold training sessions at this hotel amongst others but would usually be in his diary

Well that puts a whole different slant on things. Sounds like a diary mistake and an over reaction

catlovingdoctor · 26/11/2019 23:21

If the company hold sessions at the hotel then surely it's quite possible it was just one of those!

theEnglishInPatient · 26/11/2019 23:25

If the first thing that comes in a partners mind is "proof of cheating", there's something seriously wrong in the relationship.

whistleinthewind · 26/11/2019 23:36

Easy to get a receipt. Call up, say your his assistant and he has lost his receipt for his stay on XX date, could they please email over a copy for expenses and give them your email address.

Brunts12 · 26/11/2019 23:50

Hotels can’t do this, they will only email a copy of receipt to the guest who stayed at the hotel, or to the person who booked and paid for the room (usually corporates).

Sssneks · 26/11/2019 23:52

She says his company do hold training sessions at this hotel amongst others but would usually be in his diary

Him being on a course and forgetting to put it in the diary does sound more likely than some torrid afternoon delight with a mystery woman. Especially if it's one his company uses. If there are no other suspicions, I probably wouldn't personally jump straight to 'affair' as the most likely explanation for this situation.

Redglitter · 26/11/2019 23:55

Theres nothing to say that he stayed at the hotel though. He could have been there legitimately but the hotel wont necessarily have anything in his name.

ContinuityError · 27/11/2019 00:09

Surely the cloned plates would be on a different car?

Cloned plates are put on a similar make / model / colour car. So it’s a possibility.

ColonelCathcart · 27/11/2019 00:12

Thanks Continuity.

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