My second son, middle child is as cute as a button, full of energy and very very funny. But I am at my whits end with him and I’m scared of the future to be honest.
I realise he’s only 3, but I’ve never met a 3yr old like it.
He’s always been hard work, he didn’t sleep through till he was 2.5, would just get up to play all hours, didn’t want anything, just didn’t need to sleep, he sleeps now but even now he still has the odd random bad night.
Feeding him was always hard as I couldn’t get him to sit in a high chair, or at the table, as soon as he got mobile. He would scream and throw plates untill he was let out. He will only eat what he wants to eat, I tried every trick in the book, even offered him the same meal for breakfast, lunch and dinner (I made fresh) no snacks, water to drink, until he would eat- he went 3 days of refusing until I worried about the lack of food and caved. He is head strong beyond anything I have ever seen. He is also speech delayed, but is making good progress with speech therapy.
He is a million miles an hour, never sits still- terrifies me because he will run off and if you about stop or come back he doesn’t listen at all, he just keeps running- we are currently using reins on the school run because I have a newborn and not enough hands to grab him quickly and he just bolted the other day and o was hysterically shouting for him to stop whilst running down the street and I thank god for the lollipop lady stopping him. He just laughs.
He does not care about any boundaries- naughty step, shouting, calmly explaining, honestly I feel like I’ve tried everything but if he isn’t happy with something he just screams and shouts and says no. He hits me, kicks me, bites me if I discipline him and he shows absolutely no remorse. I think that’s the bit I am most concerned about, the no remorse at all. He just doesn’t care about consequences or even if he’s upset people.
He is a different kid if he has your attention one to one, but he needs constant stimulation. He has always been like this, his attention span is very short.
School tell me he is popular (I’m not surprised he is loads of fun) but now he has settled in (school nursery) he’s becoming a bit of a handful. He isn’t afraid of anything. He will climb, jump, run give anything a go. I love that about him but my god it’s terrifying.
Today’s example- we had a good mornjng, baby slept and we played and went to a cafe for lunch- I kept his focus and he ate (chips and nuggets but that’s a battle for another day) went to school fine. Picked him and it began.
He ran straight past me, out the cloak room and into the street, I run after him telling him he needs to get his coat on, he keeps running. I catch him and bring him back. Put his coat on- he lies in the floor. Not crying or anything, but he won’t move. The teacher comes out and says she wants to see him walk nicely, he just says nope. To cut a long story short it took three teachers to move him. He just says no, and if you try to pick him up thrashed about (laughing) so it was very difficult to keep a hold of him. It’s the total lack of respect?! I guess that’s the wrong word but reaction to anyone telling him to behave.
That’s one example as I’m conscious this is long, I can explain further if people want more info. I feel like I’m failing him, he’s so clever and funny and I love him so much but if he keeps kicking off the way he does then I worry about what on Earth we will do when he’s older. He already kicks lumps out of his older brother and me