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Would/have you gone to a school reunion?

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Swirlytwirl · 21/11/2019 20:57

I've been invited to my secondary school reunion, I'm contemplating whether to go or not. I haven't spoken to a lot of them since we left so it would be nice to see how they're doing. But I am worried it's just going to be a competition of who's done the best in life, hopefully it won't be because I feel like I've done very little to be proud of in that time (besides from having my children of course)

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Deadringer · 21/11/2019 21:41

I went to my 30 year reunion and had an amazing night. I wasn't part of the cool crowd or anything like that but at this stage it doesn't matter any more. I have no idea how any of them have done in life, we just drank loads and talked shite all night. I say go.

Elieza · 21/11/2019 21:42

Go! Do a Michelle andRomy and tell everyone you invented something!

Mynxie · 21/11/2019 21:44

I still see a group of about a dozen of my school friends - we were all in the same class though now we’ve all spread out over the world. Not many a day goes by without some interaction on WhatsApp and those who can make it meet for lunch once a month. We first met when we were 11 and are now in our late 60’s ......

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Northernsoullover · 21/11/2019 21:45

My was meant to be a I look all mean now...

Sgtmajormummy · 21/11/2019 21:45

I went to my 30 year reunion and had a great time!
I moved away before we got our results and went back only a couple of times before my parents moved away.
It was surprising how we all clicked back into our familiar roles and sense of humour. We all had lots to tell. Some classmates had left the country, others done well in their careers, most had married, a few had divorced and one dear friend had died.
Five years spent in the same classroom has to count for something. I felt a real connection with those people, even a sense of closure which I didn’t get at 18, and we’ve kept in touch via Facebook since then.

Not sure if I’ll do it again (40 years? 50?!) but it felt right at the time.

Fluffycloudland77 · 21/11/2019 21:46

I was bullied all the time I was there so no.

cocoabasher · 21/11/2019 21:47

No, I'm not remotely interested in what any of them are doing.

SuperMeerkat · 21/11/2019 21:48

Nope, can’t be arsed with that sort of thing.

TheReluctantCountess · 21/11/2019 21:50

Nope. Those people made life hell for several years.

MsMellivora · 21/11/2019 21:51

I have done well but would I go back to see all those kids who used to be racist towards me? No, plus it’s a 500 mile round trip.

CMOTDibbler · 21/11/2019 21:54

Nope. I am in contact with 2 people from my entire school life, and thats only FB.

KristinaM · 21/11/2019 21:55

I have been to three school reunions over 30 years and I enjoyed them. Thankfully none of the cool/ popular kids from school turned up - it was all the non cool / sporty kids who have mostly had interesting lives and were lovely to chat to.

It wasn’t remotely competitive, which surprised me a lot .

WhatchaMaCalllit · 21/11/2019 21:56

No way, no how.

I was invited to my secondary school reunion and it was being organised by one of the pupils from my year (not being organised by the school itself) and they wanted people to pay to attend. These same people picked on me relentlessly throughout secondary school so I was not going to pay for the 'privilege' of seeing them again.

Racmactac · 21/11/2019 22:00

Well I've never been invited 😂
But no. I hated school and I hated post of the people

mindutopia · 21/11/2019 22:00

I would love to go (went to secondary school not in the UK though, so it’s far to travel). Most of the people I went to school with were snobby pretentious you know what’s and I know now from social media that their lives are quite mediocre. I have a great interesting life, lovely dc and excellent career, so would enjoy rubbing that in their boring little faces 20 years later. But maybe that’s just me.

SlightlyBonkersQFA · 21/11/2019 22:04

I went to a 30 year reunion last month. It was actually fine. It was a private school andcthey were all very privileged or so I thought at the time. The people who were all quite straightforward and warm 30 years ago were still like that and the ones who were all aloof and frosty still seemed the same. It was fine though. Fun even. But I just mingled and didnt connect with anybody iykwim. Just banter. Glad I faced it. I think 10 year reunions are the difficult ones; everybody asks what you are?

SlightlyBonkersQFA · 21/11/2019 22:09

It was the teachers who bullied me. Snide snobs. I had come from a comprehensive and quite a few of the teachers acted like I was a rough hopeless case, from day one when I was nervous in my new blazer they treated me like trouble. Awful behavior from grown women swapping notes in the staffroom.

Milicentbystander72 · 21/11/2019 22:17

I went to one about 12 years ago. I left school in 1990 after sixth form.

I had a great time! I'm still in touch with a few close friends from school but they didn't attend. One lives in Australia, one didn't want to and the other wasn't on fb (and wasn't that interested anyway).

I bit the bullet and went. It was great fun. Most people I spoke to said they were very nervous about coming. Yes there was lots of 'what have you been up to?' but there wasn't much competition, just genuine interest. Some people brought their partners and they were welcomed, including my friend who was planning on standing as a Tory Mp who brought his boyfriend (Friend has been returned 3 times now as MP and he's regularly on radio and TV!). I got tipsy with people and we remembered old stories and old teachers....

I was genuinely surprised how nice it was.

JellyfishAndShells · 21/11/2019 22:30

I’m still great friends with some friends from school, even though we all moved away from the town straight away to go to university etc. then all lived in London for awhile, then scattered again. Deep friendships. We’ve occasionally heard over the years about others in the small 6th form, but never really felt the urge to seek them out.

Didn’t keep up with uni friends much past a couple of years but about 5 years ago someone did an amazing job of tracking us all down for a significant college anniversary and quite a lot turned up to the reunion - that really was interesting, seeing the different paths people had taken. And the best was seeing the nicest boy in the group having been stunningly successful, both creatively and financially - and still a lovely person.

Craftycorvid · 21/11/2019 22:39

Only on the offchance I might get to lob a brick through the window. Complete miserable waste of my time whilst there. I managed to transcend its evil influence fortunately.

totallyradllama · 21/11/2019 22:43

I went to a 10y and also a 25y and both were great. I wasn't particularly popular or unpopular at school but people were so nice to me. I even got on well with some of the people I'd have been a bit wary of at school I was surprised at how little people had changed though - much more mellow. The 25y was not competitive at all, the 10y one maybe a bit.

I could not persuade either of my two closest friends to come though / weird how you can have such similar times at school and yet feel so differently about it years later

AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 21/11/2019 22:44

I went to one with DH a few years ago. My closest friends went with their husbands, too. Everyone else was solo and spent all their time circulating amongst other solo people, leaving our table of couples alone. We all felt as left out as we had as teens, and were glad we had each other for company. I also felt really embarrassed about my life - others were really successful and had partners with great careers- I'm s civil servant and DH was a postman. It felt as though I was being judged quite a lot. Wouldn't go to another one.

minisoksmakehardwork · 22/11/2019 11:37

Not a chance. I'm friends with the people I'm friends with and not others for very good reason. Mind, I did learn there was a 10 year reunion a couple of years ago by chance. So I suspect having not been invited, the feeling is probably mutual.

I have no desire to associate with people who made my life a living hell for 7 years just so those who have done well can crow over those who've been dealt a less favourable hand.

I'm fortunate in that while my hand might not be everyone's idea of success, I am very happy with what I now have.

Silencedwitness · 22/11/2019 11:39

Having been badly bullied (spreading rumours of pregnancy - was fatter than your average girl, having someone in class cut a massive chunk out of my hair) you couldn’t pay me enough to go to a reunion.

cultkid · 22/11/2019 11:41

I would love to have one and to go

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