Birthday party pass-the-parcel etiquette!

[Emeeno1]

We are holding a birthday party for our four year old and would like to play pass-the-parcel. I bought a present today that our son would love and was going to let him 'win' it at pass-the-parcel but it has since occurred to me that the other parents might think this is bad manners (letting our son win)? Should one of the other children win? Should it be 'blind'? We were going to put chocolate coins in each unwrap so nobody feels left out. What do you think?

It would be terrible etiquette and bound to go wrong. Imagine if you don’t stop the music bang on time or the kid sat next to him is grabby and pull it off him. Then your DS has no present!

So your plan was the poor guests have to take turns taking wrapping off your child's present
Get a grip OP your idea is awful.

Really interesting first post

Oh that's exciting (even as an adult ) but way too big to be a pass the parcel present. Give it to your DS for sure. He'll love it. Poundshop will sort you out for pass the parcel.

Op I'm on the view birthdays and Christmas are seperate events and should be treated as such. Buy the kid a gift or give one less thing at Christmas. I'd be tempted to give the Santa set on Dec 1st with Advent calendar / elf on Shelf.

DH has a different view he thinks that a Christmas birthday is really good as you can get bigger joint gifts. Personally I believe his parents played a blinder with their sales pitch. If he'd wanted a bike and his birthday was July I'm sure it would not have been a joint gift.

The Christmas birthdays on my side have always been kept completely seperate.

Also. Wrapping something that size as a pass the parcel present will be a nightmare. Even a small central gift (we usually do pack of crayons or something) is massive by the time it has lots of layers on

I would either make him a special party bag that you give him after the guests have left or give the gift to him on 1st December.

Birthday child can't win pass the parcel.

This thread can’t be real 🙄

I know christmas is an expensive time if that's part of your reason not to buy him gifts for his birthday, but I do feel it's very unfair.
Could you scrap the party idea and maybe just do something a little less expensive with a couple of his closest friends, and then buy him a few gifts to go with it?