To eat Christmas dinner while baby naps?

[bubs80]

Baby normally naps 1-3 should we eat downstairs ( leaving baby upstairs in a travel cot and with baby monitor on) or just eat after with everyone ( and maybe baby will sit nicely in high chair and have a snack)

Baby will be10 months old. We are having dinner at in-laws arriving around 11 and baby will eat lunch around 12 before nap.

Baby currently has all naps in bed with me. It's lovely but will I be anti social if I do that Christmas Day lol

We don't yet have a travel cot

What's everyone else done Christmas day in terms of eating lunch around nap times ?

Our DS was a nightmare sleeper. At friends, when we were having a nice meal in the evening, DH and I would tag team. So I'd lie up next to DS's cot and then come down, if he woke, DH would go up and soothe him while I ate, then we'd swap. It meant we both got to eat dinner and socialise while also comforting DS too. We didn't sleep train until he was about 2.5yrs.

We've always travelled at bedtime with the kids. They bath at where ever we're staying, get in their PJs, teeth cleaned etc, then they go in the car. Straight into bed when we get home. It sometimes went pear shaped back at our house but it was nice to stay a bit later and usually have peace and quiet in the car!

Aim to get back on track on Boxing Day if needed.

I would have it after nap time and let him sit in the high chair with some food. I seriously doubt nap time will be that easy with visitors etc

@PurpleCrazyHorse yes we were thinking of tag teaming and doing an hour each :) just ensures then if he gets a decent 2 hours he will be happy chappy in his awake time then either he relatives :) yes travel At bed time sound a good plan

@PurpleCrazyHorse happy with relatives rather

Get a sling. Wear him asleep on your chest while you eat. My youngest did all his naps either in a sling or in my arms.

@bubs80 I totally agree with you, I don't agree that babies should self soothe. Why should they be independent as babies!! It's ridiculous.
If they can naturally then great but I don't agree we should (as parents) force them to be independent before they are ready.
I also dont like sleep training and would never leave my baby to cry.

Unfortunately I'm one of very few that think this way on Mumsnet. Most mumsnetters like their babies to fend for themselves pretty early on!!
Like how dare we change our daily routine for a baby!! 🤦🏻‍♀️

RTFT @Bonfuddled - not one single person has said to leave the baby to cry

@FenellaMaxwell Sleep training is leaving a baby to cry!

No, it really really isnt. I mean, that's one method, but there are lots of much gentler ones. Dont get hysterical.

I think you might be overthinking it just a bit. A travel cot will be really useful anyway (if nothing else, to provide somewhere safe to pop him down whilst you go to the loo or something when he is crawling), so I would take a travel cot, say to whoever is prepping lunch to do it whenever, and see how it goes. If he is awake then great, he can have some food (unless there's a reason why mealtimes have to be so precise?); if he sleeps then either go up and lie with him or pop the monitor on. Eating lunch with DS who was around the same age last year was the highlight for me.

@NeverGotMyPuppy Im not hysterical. You however, are extremely patronising! 🙄

One method of sleeping training is leaving a baby to cry. There are many other methods.

@Bonfuddled it’s not, actually. Cry it out and controlled crying are methods of sleep training that involve crying. The clue is in the names. There are plenty of other methods. Gentle sleep solution, the no cry method.... again, the clue is in the title.

I have never, ever left my baby to cry. Have I taught him gently how to learn good sleeping practices? Absolutely.

Interestingly, @Bonfuddled AS brings up recent threads by both you and the OP wailing about how your child’s shitty sleep is breaking you. So do something about it. That absolutely doesn’t mean leaving them to cry.

How am I patronising?! You had a go at people for propagating leaving babies to cry and not meeting their needs. No one has suggested that.

You are just incorrect

I have three children. I have never once left any of them to cry. I have gently sleep trained all of them.
My 10 month old naps in his cot in his room twice a day. He goes to bed at 7pm and wakes at 6am with one wake up. It has taken quite a lot of work to get to that point. I have never left him to cry.

@FenellaMaxwell I had a bad week, my baby sleeps perfectly fine most of the time but thanks for going such an invested interest in researching me. I feel flattered 🤩

@NeverGotMyPuppy Telljng someone not to be hysterical when they weren't hysterical is being patronising.
Ok sweetie? 😉

Gosh you really are quite odd.
Enjoy your evening.

Well @Bonfuddled your drama llama reactions made it pretty obvious that you were the lady protesting too much, and sure enough, there you were moaning about sleep and making your own baby cry. You should know how it feels to be the sleep deprived parent and maybe just, I don’t know, google sleep training to see what it actually is before you start insisting that “most mumsnetters” of being neglectful, cruel parents

@FenellaMaxwell I was merely saying I wouldn't leave my baby to cry intentionally! Good god!!!
It's well written that most mumsnetters think it's a good idea to let a baby cry. I've read it a hundred times on here. I, however wouldn't do that 🙄
This is boring now.

Literally not one person has said that. Not one.

Oh dear I have missed a bit. Yes I was having bad week too think we were in a regression and similarly at 4 months . I think all sleep training would involve some amount of crying to be honest. I do plan my days around my baby , I do put him First , I will rock him to sleep and back to sleep . I don't Want to put him under stress . It's just me, not being a martyr or nutty . I agree babies should not be adults that we simply train to be alone from day dot , if that means I have periods of sleep deprivation then so be it because I can't change my natural instincts .

Christ, why do people go so weird and polarised about baby sleep? OP doesn't need persuading to do any form of sleep training if she doesn't want to. It isn't compulsory, nor a necessity, nor even particular advisable if everyone is getting a reasonable amount of sleep without it. Nor does sleep training mean that you're leaving your baby to 'fend for themselves' or mean that your sole parenting goal is to 'simply train your baby to be alone from day dot'. Live and let live, people! No one will care whether or not you sleep trained in ten years, including your child!

I find the insinuation that gentle sleep training is not 'putting my baby first' a little offensive.

DD's best interests have always been my priority (as is the case with the vast majority of parents) and I actually see it as a positive thing to encourage her to learn how to sleep independently.