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Would you sleep with your friend ? ( Not like that )

81 replies

VictoriaBun · 17/11/2019 10:38

My friend and I have booked a coach trip which is a show and an overnighter in a hotel. This was arranged a good few months ago. My friend booked and I paid her.
We are due to go on a few weeks. Chatting about it last night she mentioned we are in a double room. I had assumed we would be in a twin.
I of course am not worrying anything would happen , but am also perhaps a bit Confused about it.
Would you happily share a bed with your friend ? ( I have never shared a bed before, even as a child with a sister , cousin or friend ) only dh or dc.

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InsertFunnyUsername · 17/11/2019 11:10

But pretty much all my partying days were spent crashing out with friends in each others beds Blush

Tink1990 · 17/11/2019 11:10

No problem at all with close friends but not with others. It would totally depend.

weirdsmell · 17/11/2019 11:10

I wouldn't, no. I need my own space and I don't even room share when I go away with friends never mind bed share.

DisplayPurposesOnly · 17/11/2019 11:10

I think it's odd that you've said "sleeping with" when you could have said 'share a bed'. Then you say youre not worried about anything happening but you're also Confused

This seems like a big deal to you, which I understand if you've only ever shared with your husband or children, but is it really that big a deal that you can't even frame it properly in your mind??

MyNewBearTotoro · 17/11/2019 11:11

Yes, I have shared with female friends and colleagues plenty of times and have no problem with it. I have a handful of male friends I would be happy to share with too (ones who I know DP wouldn’t mind).

NorthEndGal · 17/11/2019 11:12

Yes, done it lots of times, its fine

holidays987 · 17/11/2019 11:12

I'd prefer not to. But I have shared beds with friends, in hotels or at there houses when visiting.
It's not ideal but it's ok.

notnowmaybelater · 17/11/2019 11:12

I wouldn't even share a room.

I'm in my mid 40s, I did my years of backpacking, sleeping in dormatories, sleeping bags on the floor, sharing a bed, in my teens and the first half of my 20s.

I don't want to any more.

I'm middle aged and I want my space and privacy. I don't want to share a bed nor even a room with my friends any more. I only share with my DH and my own kids, and tbh now the kids are older I don't share with them for more than a single night any more - 3 bedrooms now on holiday (teen DD, pre-teen boys, me and DH).

So nope. Just because I don't want to.

This actually happened in June - away with 2 female friends and they suggested a triple room room. Nope, I want my own room, and an ensuite too. I don't mind budget accommodation at all, including hostels, but I want my own space. I'd rather my own room in a cheap but clean YHA hostel than share at a 5* hotel. They shared a double, we were all happy.

You don't have to be happy with it - it's a holiday, so if you'll feel awkward or grumpy or imposed upon or uncomfortable get the booking changed. It's not an emergency arrangement, it's meant to be a break not mildly awkward.

allthegoodusernameshavegone · 17/11/2019 11:18

Yes, have done loads of times

Skyejuly · 17/11/2019 11:20

I have done this many times. It's no issue. We usually just ask for 2 duvets. Went to rome last month. 4 of us and 2 double beds. There was 2 sofa beds but the lounge was noisy. I slept in a double with one friend. The owner was miffed that we would share and were not related!

Skyejuly · 17/11/2019 11:20

I can't imagine an own room while away with friends. Part the fun is late night chats!

Gallivespian · 17/11/2019 11:49

I actually don’t like sharing a room at all when it can be avoided — overcrowded childhood has left m with a distinct sense of personal space — but I’ve shared rooms perfectly happily with friends, and actually I shared a double bed with a male friend when we our flight was diverted and we were stuck in a blizzard in the US.

helpfulperson · 17/11/2019 11:53

Like many others it wouldn't be my first choice but it sounds like this a cheap package deal which usual comes with compromises.

CatUnderTheStairs · 17/11/2019 11:54

I hate sharing beds with anyone other than DH. And I'm bit ambivalent about that....

everybodypuuuullllll · 17/11/2019 11:59

Yes, but I snore very loudly so I'd warn my friend beforehand that they might not want to sleep with me!

AuntieMarys · 17/11/2019 12:03

I would need my own room.

weirdsmell · 17/11/2019 12:03

I can't imagine an own room while away with friends. Part the fun is late night chats!

You imagination doesn't stretch far does it?

PinkBalloon123 · 17/11/2019 12:20

I've done it loads of times and would again if need be but I don't like it

Crinkle77 · 17/11/2019 12:29

Yes I shared a bed with my mate last week. Only drawback was that she scored all night so I might give it a miss next time but for that reason only.

Delatron · 17/11/2019 12:34

It’s an individual thing. I prefer not too as I’m a light sleeper and get up loads in the night to wee!

I find it strange you had to clarify that you weren’t worried about anything happening. That wouldn’t cross my mind with any of my friends. It’s more of a personal space/ being a crap sleeper issue

notnowmaybelater · 17/11/2019 12:45

Skyejuly that's what the bar is for...

CatEyeliner · 17/11/2019 12:49

i always do tbh!

CatEyeliner · 17/11/2019 12:50

Its also fucking hilarious as a particular friend always ends up naked and sleep walks Grin

QuestionableMouse · 17/11/2019 12:53

I tend to go on holiday on my own so it's never really been a problem. I prefer my own space in bed but have shared with my friends and my sister.

HerrenaHarridan · 17/11/2019 12:56

I love bed sharing.

I am poly and have a much more flexible attitude to relationships than I see with most people.

I encourage intimate and affectionate friendships and often bed share sometimes including cuddles or hair stroking depending on the person.
I particularly enjoy the pillow talk element.

Some people assume that poly means I ‘sleep’ (as in have sex) with my close friends and occasionally that does happen but mostly I already have my sexual needs met by my sexual partners so I have no need to sexualise my close friendships.