Things you'd love to do if you were single!

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I've not long separated from my husband and have been trying to remind myself about the positive side of being single, obviously aside from not having to deal with the heavy draining misery!

So far I've got:

Watch whatever I want on TV, when I want

Stock the fridge full of goodies and know they won't disappear

Starfish in the bed

Have the light on to read for as late as I like

Buy the pink toaster I wanted

Have a 2 hour bath

See my girlfriends as often as I want without feeling guilty

Flirt with guy at the gym 😂

Let me know yours

Go on one of those singles holidays to somewhere I want to go!

Buy what I want when I want
Go out when I want and with who I want
Have the heating on when I want
Bin all the useless crap that was hoarded
A clean house most of the time (only so easy with a child!)
Im sure there is much more!

I've been single for 5 and a half years.

Just not having to compromise on anything is my favourite thing. I can watch what I want to on TV, order whatever takeaway I want, go on holiday where I want, decorate my home how I want.

I like that I don't have to let anyone know where I am or what time I will be home.

Not having to cater to anyone's emotional needs (apart from DS).

I’m not answerable to anyone. I don’t have to check in with anyone else if I want to do something. I can come home whenever I want, leave the house whenever I want to go wherever I want. I don’t have to explain why I went out at 3am or where I went to; or why I wasn’t home after work.

This is the single biggest issue I’ve struggled with in relationships and why I choose to be single / live alone / have non-traditional relationships: I find it absolutely stifling to have to consider somebody else’s needs and wants in how I live my life.

4 years single here.

Choice. You get to know choose and decide everything for yourself, I personally felt very restricted in my marriage. The most positive aspect of it all I have found is the not having to put the needs of anyone else above mine - other then child’s, obviously that goes without saying.

Their decisons and choices, emotions, moods, their work, hobbies, family, all of it! Honestly it’s bloody liberating knowing your life is completly your own without having to factor all that and all it entails with someone else in. You get to live your life exactly how you want to.

I've been with DH for nearly 30 years and there is nothing I could only do if i was single.
I watch what I want when I want, go out when I want, see my friends, travel by myself or with my friends.
We have massively different taste in food so all my food is safe!!
I honestly cant think of anything!

I let the cats sleep on the bed, so much better than my annoying ex husband

Be happy

@ComtesseDeSpair and @Seapink2 have articulated exactly why I like being single. I guess I'm a selfish creature at heart.

I date casually but I don't want to have to consider or make compromises - however small - for someone else.

If I was newly single I'd love to join a dating site not to date but to browse...

I'd book a weekend away with my girlfriends..

I'd treat myself to a new vibrator

Fresh, fragrant bathroom with dry floor, and no steam everywhere. No big shoes and piles of crap dumped in the hall. Visiting my lovely male friend as often as like and going away spontaneously with him. Going to bed when I like without any judgement. Utter peace and quiet. Total bliss.

Reading a book when I'm lying in bed awake in the middle of the night.

I'm single and intend on staying that way. I can do what I want, when I want. I can choose where I live, what I spend money on, what I spend time on. It's as much freedom as you can have in this life and I'm not giving it up. I used to want to be in one, until I stepped back and asked myself why. I couldn't answer why i wanted one. Any reason I came up with was around society expectations.

I wouldn’t live in a house anymore.

Sleep with women
Go on adventures alone
Please myself

I envy you

Flirt!
Eat junk food with my fingers.
Have nights in and out with friends.
Have 4 Christmas trees or more!
Have a much smaller food bill - more money for fun stuff!

I get to flirt with the plumber xDH introduced me to. He is hot

Unfortunately or not there are many plumbing emergencies in my house

The first thing I would do if I were single would be to have the dogs back in the bed!

The only thing I genuinely miss is a strong manly cuddle on the sofa or in bed. When I think of all the freedom I’d have to give up for that, it just isn’t worth it. I love how if I just fancy a bit of cheese on toast for dinner, I can just do that, rather than having to cook a full meal or feel obligated to eat a meal someone else has cooked. If I wake up in the middle of the night or stupidly early (happens often with me) I can read or whatever without worrying about disturbing someone. I can make major decisions about my own life without having to take anyone else’s opinions or preferences on board. Such as switching my well paid but highly stressful office role, for a lower paid but zero stress WFH role. I can laze around in PJ’s with no make up and my hair in a bun, without having to worry that a partner is thinking I’m “letting myself go”. I genuinely love going on holiday by myself. It’s a fun adventure where I can please myself as to what I want to see, do etc. To be honest I could write such a long list! There are so many ways I am happier single than in a relationship! Would I give up all that for cuddles and, what often turns out to be mediocre sex (after the “honeymoon phase” wears off). Hell no!

I think mine just relate to decor. I like cushions and upholstery and fabrics that are considered quite feminine. So I would buy a pink sofa. Or a purple one. Or turquoise. And cushions with sequins and lots of faux fur and things like that.

I got a cat

Do? Woody Harrelson.
(I can dream...)

I am single and have just made a bucket list. i think the main thing is the chance to get to know yourself so well when you are single. Also going on whatever type of holiday you want.

Re. cuddles. Hug friends when you see them. Get a boyfriend pillow (google it).

Oh another thing I did was get one of those subscription boxes - I did the Perfume Society. It was such a treat having a box of goodies turn up every month or so.

Also, buy yourself flowers. Drink wine and have load Skype catch ups