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Do you and DH / DP vote for the same party?

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PlaymobilPirate · 30/10/2019 22:28

Dp votes Tory, I vote Labour (although Im tempted by Lib Dem this time) Our votes effectively cancel each other out.

Neither of us can see the other side. We're in the North East. Both teachers, both from very working class backgrounds.

Just wondered if any other couples are similar?

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june2007 · 30/10/2019 23:21

No not always. He alsways thinks of general politics and I tend to think about local.

cricketmum84 · 30/10/2019 23:25

We vote totally differently. Also one of us is a leaver and one a remainer.

We just agree to not talk politics.

InsertFunnyUsername · 30/10/2019 23:27

Like PP have said neither of us would vote Tory but we don't always vote the same.

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twopintsprick · 30/10/2019 23:30

DH always votes conservative, I always vote labour - we are fairly opposite sides of the spectrum politically, but he's entitled to vote for who ever he wants as am I ... it's never been an issue

smileylottie87 · 30/10/2019 23:38

We voted differently in the referendum, have been the same in the general elections and similar in local elections. We will debate and sometimes play devils advocate but I wouldn't love him any less if he voted differently to me on the whole. We don't just vote the same out of habit, we always read up and would change our vote if we preferred a different party manifesto to our normal vote.

SophieRay · 30/10/2019 23:45

I always voted from the age of 18 whereas exH was never interested, however once we were together he would go vote against me to negate my vote even though he wasn't even bothered. Not sure I could be with someone who did that again

theluckiest · 30/10/2019 23:49

This thread has reminded me of the quote I read somewhere that went along the lines of 'If you cast your vote in a school and vote Tory, you may as well take a shit in the art cupboard on the way out...'

GrinGrin

DH comes from staunch Tory voters. I'm a definite lefty Labour and we will prob both vote Lab or Lib Dem as we can't bring ourselves to vote Tory. Ever.

mbosnz · 30/10/2019 23:49

We vote our own way. However, our votes are usually aligned. But not always.

maddy68 · 30/10/2019 23:50

We do. Politics is very important to me so if we had opposing views it wouldn't sit right. We have the same ethics and that's important

thatonesmine · 30/10/2019 23:52

@SophieRay how incredibly petty of him.
Like quite a few others we're on opposite sides of the referendum, in elections we both drift from Lib Dem to Labour and back again, but neither of us has ever voted Tory.

SonjaMorgan · 30/10/2019 23:53

Me and my DH both vote for the same party. I don't know if I could stay married to him if he voted Tory. Little bit dramatic I know but the reason we work so well is similar views on most things. Even worse would be if he didn't vote.

BackforGood · 30/10/2019 23:53

What we vote is between each of us and the ballot box.
We have similar philosophies in life, but I suspect over all the elections over the decades we will have considered different parties offered the best ways of getting to those aims.
I certainly don't belong to any party and I don't think I've ever agreed with all the policies of any party - I have to vote for 'the best I can get' in each election. That hasn't always been the same party.

katewhinesalot · 30/10/2019 23:55

I did suggest one year that we didn't bother going as our vote effectively cancels each other out. He said he was going so I had to go too obviously. We could have just saved our time.

DramaAlpaca · 30/10/2019 23:57

Yes, we are on the same page politically. I don't think we'd be together if we weren't.

PaquitaVariation · 30/10/2019 23:57

I’ve no idea who my DH votes for, I’ve never asked, but if he’s ever voted Tory it’s for the best that he’s kept quiet about it!

DappledThings · 31/10/2019 07:28

We've both voted Labour and Lib Dem in the past. Not always the same but close. I couldn't be in a relationship with a Tory or someone who voted leave. It would mean our values were just too far apart.

orangeteal · 31/10/2019 07:35

I doubt we will this time, I'm voting Labour but DH would never vote Corbyn. I suspect my DH won't vote at all this time, frustrating but I can understand why he feels none of the parties represent him (not helped by the anti Corbyn bias I wish he'd see through!)

orangeteal · 31/10/2019 07:37

But so long as he doesn't vote Tory (or UKIP, or whatever fascist monstrosity represents in our county) I don't care what he votes! He mentioned Lib Dem last month.

vdbfamily · 31/10/2019 07:37

We are both floating voters and so have sometimes voted the same and sometimes differently.

BuffaloCauliflower · 31/10/2019 07:38

Yes we vote the same. To be honest we’ve been together since we were young and I think all his political opinions have been shaped by me.

SabineSchmetterling · 31/10/2019 07:40

He usually votes Lib Dem and I normally vote labour. Not sure what either of us will vote in December as we’re likely to vote tactically. It's never really been an issue but I don’t know if I could live with a Tory. Grin

Ghoulestofmums · 31/10/2019 07:42

We used to vote differently but now in both cases we each feel the party we had voted for all our adult lives is not the party it used to be. Both now considering simply spoiling a ballot paper as we really can’t bring ourselves to vote for our own or each other’s current party. Iyswim

LlamaofDrama · 31/10/2019 07:48

We usually vote differently. He's always been a Tory but recently has gone Green, so a bit of a change! Never had an argument about it, I think we want the same ends but sometimes disagree about what means will achieve them. He's generally more of an issue voter than me,
I've got more of an emotional issue that there's some people I couldn't vote for, even if I liked their plans. Agreed on Brexit though.

FreshStart01 · 31/10/2019 08:03

I vote Lib Dem (although right now I'm not 100% in that), he votes Tory, I voted Remain, he voted Leave and we haven't changed our minds. After the referendum I felt very low about our relationship and our different views, and eventually had a breakdown. Obviously there were other issues, and he has been such an amazing husband in helping me/us to recover, and has always been an amazing father, that I've now been able to seperate our political views from us in my head. Mostly don't discuss politics and Brexit or he does but I just calmly say I disagree and we leave it at that. I don't agree that it must mean our basic values are different, that's just not true.

StCharlotte · 31/10/2019 08:41

I used to campaign in my youth (1970s) and when canvassing, if our party got a vote for every time I had this conversation, we'd have won the seat:

"May I ask how you'll be voting Madam?"
"I'll ask my husband."

Hopefully those days are gone.

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