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Feelings of not being good enough

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LifeBeginsNow · 29/10/2019 11:58

Why do I care so much about work? I seem to tie myself up in knots worrying about it and I really want to impress people and show the others in the team I'm capable and good at my job.

I feel like I need reassurance regularly (I don't get it) that I'm doing well and since being off ill, I'm taking it very personally that others have been promoted. The thing is, I know it is the right move for them but I just feel hurt and like I've missed out.

We have a lot of autonomy day to day and I think that makes it harder to feel like I've been productive as there's nothing to measure it against. The thing is, I'd feel claustrophobic if I went back to a job where I'm told what to do all day.

I also miss my DC and want to spend time with him so I stress about my job but then get upset about him being in nursery. I sometimes wish I could work part time and have more time with him but I'm still recovering from illness so wouldn't be a fun mum anyway.

Every day I feel like I want to achieve lots but I fall short of getting anywhere. I don't know whether I just need a kick up the bum to get motivated and productive or to change my mindset.

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Egghead68 · 29/10/2019 12:13

Sorry you are having a difficult time. Maybe it is worth seeing your GP or self-referring for cognitive behavioural therapy?

YetAnotherBeckyMumsnet · 29/10/2019 12:30

Hello @LifeBeginsNow - we're just moving this to Chat now. Flowers

LifeBeginsNow · 29/10/2019 12:38

Thank you for moving it. Glitches on my app again.

Do you think its serious enough for that? I think I've always been a worrier but now I have my son it impacts on family life too and it's more obvious.

I wish I just didn't care. I'm too timid and worried about the way I come across. I feel like there's more to life than work but I don't know what it is. A lottery win would help me figure it out!

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