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All I want is a best friend :(

40 replies

aladdinscave · 29/10/2019 11:38

I'm 32 and I used to have 3 best friends but over the years we lost touch and now I don't talk to them. I've started talking to one again but it will never be the same again. I just miss having someone to talk to about anything and just chilling at each others houses drinking tea talking shit. I can't seem to meet anyone now and no friends at work. Am I too old now to meet someone and just become really good friends?

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sleepismysuperpower1 · 29/10/2019 11:40

have you tried the 'Mush' app? it puts you in contact with other mums whos dcs are a similar age to yours in your area. i met my good friend on there x

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aladdinscave · 29/10/2019 11:43

I don't have kids. I will be starting to try soon and hoping to make friends through that but that's a way off yet

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PurpleFrames · 29/10/2019 11:43

I have seen an app called Peanut advertised too- I don't use it myself

I met most of my current friends through volunteering or support groups- is that an option for you?

Honeybee85 · 29/10/2019 11:44

No, you are not. I have 3 very close friends and 2 of them I have met after 30. I have met one of them trough volunteer work and another one trough instagram. She started folowing me, I followed her back and we started chatting. We met up IRL a few months later (we both joked it felt like we were going on a tinder date) and we instantly connected. Btw, the friend I met trough voluntuary work introduced me to a friend of her that became a close friend of mine as well.

Just be open to meeting others!

magicmallow · 29/10/2019 11:46

bumble has a "friends" option, I met a few nice other women on there, give it a try.

Slappadabass · 29/10/2019 11:47

I feel exactly the same, I have kids but I've never clicked with anyone at playgroups, I have a couple of 'mum friends' that are my eldest best friends mums but it doesn't seem to go beyond friendly chit chat and arranging meet ups etc.
I miss having a proper friend!

magicmallow · 29/10/2019 11:47

NB bumble is not for parents, anyone can use it.

HairyToity · 29/10/2019 11:47

I don't have a best friend. Would love too! I think it would be amazing. Always envious of people who do. I have learnt to get by with the few friends I have. I don't call at their houses, but we usually meet up a couple of times a year.

Sorry not much help.

sleepismysuperpower1 · 29/10/2019 11:49

oh in that case i agree with the suggestion of Bumble :)

youareasyoungasyoufeel · 29/10/2019 11:52

I need a best friend too. Speak to me. 😀

lyingwanker · 29/10/2019 11:54

My current best friend I only met 2.5 years ago when I was 32 and she was 28. It wasn't through the children but having kids was definitely the initial bond. We met at an event, hit it off and arranged to meet up another day. We are so similar and I am so grateful to have met her because I'd started to feel quite lonely and stuck in my abusive relationship with no one to talk to about it

anotherday4 · 29/10/2019 11:55

Il be your best friend OP😘

maz82 · 29/10/2019 11:56

Me too. I moved away last year and miss my friends. Dont have any close friends anymore and get very lonely

CanThingsChange35 · 29/10/2019 12:00

Also needing a best friend. I'm 35 and childless and single, my friends are lovely but their lives understandably revolve around their young children and they feel I would be a bit out on a limb if they invited me to their "mummy friend" (their words) meet ups which tend to be play date or coffee and cake with the kids etc. We meet up ourselves with the kids or I pop round to their houses but I've no one to go out for meals with or to the cinema etc.

I've got hobbies where we might socialize as a group but it's been a long time since I had a best friend.

Been browsing meetup groups today but not loads in my area. Might go along to a few anyway.

I wish I had a sister or a nice sister in law Envy

CanThingsChange35 · 29/10/2019 12:01

That was meant to be sad face not envy lol

saucysprinkles · 29/10/2019 12:14

I'll be your friend OP!

fairydustandpixies · 29/10/2019 12:14

Meetup.com! I can't recommend it highly enough! I moved to an area not knowing a soul, I WFH so don't meet anyone that way, yet, 12 months later, my diary is full and I have two dear 'best friends' and dozens of other friends who I know I could call on and they on me at any time!

saucysprinkles · 29/10/2019 12:15

@maz82 I'll be your friend too!

mawof3soontobe · 29/10/2019 12:19

Where are you from OP

SurpriseSparDay · 29/10/2019 12:21

Thing is, there’s a difference between a friend and a best friend. And if you only have one of the former you may assume they are your best friend - when the situation may be very different for them. Which can lead to confusion and hurt feelings.

I hope it’s never too late to make new friends - as long as you manage your expectations regarding the place you’ll have in the new friend’s life.

AristotlesTrousers · 29/10/2019 12:25

I hear you, OP. I miss having a best friend. I gave up alcohol and clubbing in my mid-20s and have struggled to make friends since. Mid-40s and live in Norfolk if there's anyone else in the same boat. 🙂

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aladdinscave · 29/10/2019 12:35

I'm from South Devon. I do have Bumble and I did meet up a few times with someone from it but it fizzled out and there doesn't seem to be anyone else near me on it where it gets to the meeting stage. I have thought about meet-up but that's a group I think and I'm too shy and nervous to be put in a group setting. If there's any other apps that people know of that would be great.

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Anotheruser02 · 29/10/2019 12:39

I have very long friendships, but my 'best' friend isn't my oldest friend, the friend I see the most and share with the most met me when I was 31 and she 37.

anotherday4 · 29/10/2019 12:40

I love devon, we go every year ! Brixham is my fave

Whohasnickedmyvodka · 29/10/2019 12:41

I'm in Cornwall and I have no friends