Do you miss your DP?

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Couples in long-term relationships, with kids, living together... do you miss your DP when he's not there?

Sometimes I wonder if I'm weird as all of my friends in long-term relationships & living together don't seem to notice when their DP is there or not, but I miss my DP so much when he's not here!

I'm home on maternity leave at the minute, throughout the day is fine (although sometimes I do meet him for lunch on his lunch!), but when he's on a late night and not home until 9/10pm, I miss him tons from about 4pm and literally count down the hours for him to get home! 😂

Am I a weirdo?
... starting a thread because he's on a course tonight and won't be home until 9.30pm and I'm so excited for him to getting home maybe it's pregnancy hormones!

If he's away for a few days, yes - but not in a counting down the hours way even if we haven't seen each other for two weeks

Do you mean whilst he’s in work or nipped to the shop?

I miss my dh but he works on an oil rig and is away for 3 weeks at a time. When he’s home I don’t miss him though.

After 32 years of marriage - no . I thoroughly enjoy an evening on my own, a few glasses of wine, cheese and biscuits instead of cooking a ‘proper meal’, my choice of tv and generally just relaxing, like this evening, perfect.

Probably different if you are pregnant and haven’t been together that long.

Disclaimer - I am sure my DH also enjoys his own company when I am away.

How long are we talking about them Beki g away?

No. Mine works away and has done since we got together.

@PurpleDaisies I start missing him badly about 4pm..... he leaves at 8am 😂

@Ragwort maybe you're right!! maybe in another few years I'll be saying the same!

Not at all! Together 20 years though which probably explains some of it.

I have just been away for a week and didn’t miss him, I did miss the kids though. He didn’t miss me either. He likes his own space, as do I.

When we had very young children and I was on maternity leave I did though. Him coming home relieved some of the pressure as much as anything.

@MeganChips yeah, I think that's the thing. Even if he's not actively doing anything it gives me a sense of relief when he's home - I'm 30 weeks pregnant with a 2.5 year old at home too

I'm the same OP 😁 My husband and I have been together 4 years and I honestly miss him if we spend a night apart. We can survive apart, we just prefer not to ☺️

A night alone sounds good in theory - I plan a night of TV and such, but in the end, I'd still rather be sitting and watching TV with him

Yes.

DP works away and has for the majority of our life together (20+ years). For the first few years it was erratic so could be very short notice for days or weeks. Currently he’s away Mon-Thurs every week.

There have only been 2 or 3 periods of about 3 years where he has lived at home full time. We’re both very fed up of it now but can’t see an easy solution due to the nature of his work

Yes.
I obviously can manage without DH but would prefer not to. I do miss him when he's at work, more so at the moment as I'm on maternity leave. A night away from him sounds good but in reality its not. He and DD2 went away for 2 nights recently leaving me with DS4 months. I got him settled and was looking forwards to my tea. Wanted takeaway then realised it was expensive to order for just me and there would be too much food... Looked to cook something then realised it was pointless to cook food just for me so I ended up with a fried egg sandwich 😂 similar disappointment when I wanted to find something to watch on TV!
I was single for so long before I met DH and became lonely before he came along I guess it reminded me too much of that!

My DH is away a lot during the week and I don't really miss him then. I like time to myself and have things that I do. I really miss him if he is late home or not home at all on a Friday. That is normally the night we have a nice dinner, drink some wine, listen to music and catch up on the week.

Me and DP are long distance and I don't miss him all the time, but I do if I'm having a shitty week at work, it's more just frustration that we can't live closer. He's working away a lot over the next few months which is harder though as even though he might only be away for 10 days which would be ok if we were living together, the way the days fall we might not see each other for more like 20 days and then only get 2 days together at the end of that.
Like PhannyMcNee though due to the nature of his job it could be like this for a looong time to come, we will probably live together at some point but with him living away in a B + B Mon-Thurs.

I look forward to seeing him, and when he has a night out with his friends I think I’m going to miss him, so I don’t like the thought of it, but the time goes quickly. We’ve been married 22.5 years though.

I speak to him once or twice during the day, but only for less than a minute at a time.

It's been well over 2 years that DH and I have been apart for any longer than about an hour so no I don't miss him but Im also not sick of the sight of him either.

I miss him every day and I'm always happy when he comes home. I feel a bit lost when he's away more than normal. I cope fine though. He's nice.

I've got an unbelievable amount of respect for those that handle being in Long distance relationships!!!!

... here's me sitting around feeling lost when I'm without my DP for more than 9 hours

We are only 90 miles apart so it's not too bad as we see each other every weekend (unless one of us has plans without the other) it's only when he is working away (often with a big time difference and not much access to his phone) that it gets hard. I'm not looking forward to him spending 2 weeks in China next month as I'm concerned we will have no way of talking as obviously social media is banned.

I miss him if he's away for a few days, but not if it's just a few hours. We've been together over 30 years but we are quite independent & happy doing our own thing.

I miss mine loads. Also on maternity leave, with the baby, and we’re both busy but miss each other loads. We work together normally so it’s very weird not being together 24/7.

God no! I love time to myself and am happy to usher him out of the door for the evening On the rare occasions he's away on business I have a great time! Eat what I want, when I want, watch all the crap we can't watch together...

Are you bored?

Nope.

I miss him but we FaceTime.

But he's only away two or three nights at most.

I used to miss him terrible but now I also relish coming home and the hous is spotless and I can watch telly in bed all night and just veg.

My dh works away anywhere from 2-6 days a week. I do miss him but I also LOVE doing what I want to do. Eating what I want to eat. Sitting and scrolling on my phone without eye rolling or comments. Watching whatever tv I want. I have dd and I'm a SAHM at the moment so I am sometimes like 'LEAVE ME ALONE' in the evenings but I'm usually really grateful he's home.

I don't miss him day to day but still delighted to see him when he comes home after work. I think I'm just too busy to miss him. We are together 18 years though.