Do you miss your DP?

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Couples in long-term relationships, with kids, living together... do you miss your DP when he's not there?

Sometimes I wonder if I'm weird as all of my friends in long-term relationships & living together don't seem to notice when their DP is there or not, but I miss my DP so much when he's not here!

I'm home on maternity leave at the minute, throughout the day is fine (although sometimes I do meet him for lunch on his lunch!), but when he's on a late night and not home until 9/10pm, I miss him tons from about 4pm and literally count down the hours for him to get home! 😂

Am I a weirdo?
... starting a thread because he's on a course tonight and won't be home until 9.30pm and I'm so excited for him to getting home maybe it's pregnancy hormones!

I miss him whilst he is at work and can't wait for him to come home. We moved in together after two months because we didn't want to be without each other at all.

My DP is away Mon-Fri most weeks. I work ft and we have a really great, easy 15 year old DD who’s great company. But by about 8pm on Wed night I’m looking forward to Friday tea time. We text/chat at least once a day but rarely more than twice - quick text in the morning and a chat in the evening usually.

We’ve been together 7 years, married 18 months. I don’t miss him if I’m E.g. working from home but he recently went on secondment to a European country for a week and I missed him So Damn Much! I felt like a bit of an idiot tbh (what sort of independent feminist am I if I can’t do a week without my husband?!) but actually it was a nice reset to our relationship. I did think how life would be without him and actually I think we’re better with each other since as a result

Not in the slightest! I encourage him to go away! I'm always pleased when he comes back though.

When I was first married I did. Then I didn’t mind. Then I preferred being in my own. He’s now my ex.

It all feels a bit clingy and co-dependent to me, to be missing someone who's only been out of the house a few hours.

But I realise I'm possibly being unfair, and that life does shrink when you're on maternity leave with a toddler.

I miss DH when he's away for a couple of weeks. I'm always glad to see him arrive home each day, but miss him? I don't really have time to!

Yes,we've been together for 6.5 years,married for 3.I still look forward to him coming home after work and I miss him if hes been out for a few hours at the weekend

I love a night away by myself but can be literally counting down the minutes sometimes if I am home alone with the children...I miss his help more then anything!

Together over 20 years, run a company together and work on location at the same time a lot, I miss him loads some days if we aren’t working in the same place. I do enjoy the occasional evening he works late and I don’t but only as I can watch crap on tv he doesn’t like.

My wife and I have been together for 29 years, for most of that time she worked away either all week or sometimes for 2 weeks at a time. In various different jobs.
We never played away, we got on with it, we rung when we could but mobiles hadn't been invented and on board ship she could not contact me (she was the one at sea).
Since we have been retired we hardly ever are apart and, if we are, I miss her far more than I ever did before.
So it makes sense to miss someone especially if you are not used to it, but a normal working day? I think it must be the hormones!

Used to in the early years. Now i"ve groan used to him being gone for 5 days plus at a time so sadly it's something i've grown accustomed to.

*Grown.

Dh works away at least a couple of nights every week but often more. I can honestly say I am equally happy whether he is here or not. But I'm not sure that is a good thing. I am so used to him being away that if for some reason he is at home every night for 2 weeks I am ready for him to spend some time away. The kids also don't really notice whether he's at home or away, their life carries on regardless.
He asked recently if we missed him when he was away and I said yes we all miss you, but the honest answer is no, we don't think about it at all. But like I say, this is not a good thing. Indifference is not a good thing. But it is what is is.

I love it normally especially on a Friday or Saturday night, I eat and drink what I like, watch what I like on tv. However I do find it difficult to actually sleep without him so have a restless night sleep.

When we first moved in together he worked away Monday to Thursday, and I didn't mind at all.

Ten years later, we have a child, i have a hobby I do four nights a week, only 45 mins a time, so if he is away I get tetchy as I miss out on my time doing that. Pretty much my only time to myself as he likes o micro manage the weekends and I do all pick up drop offs get ready etc.

God yes. DH has been dead for 28 years, and I still miss him terribly. The DC were just babies when he died, so don’t remember him at all, but I never got over losing my soulmate, best friend and love of my life.

Yeah I do miss him. He's only out the house from 7am to about 6.45pm and I love it when it's his day off because I get to spend more time with him.

I miss mine. Mainly because we have three DC aged 5, 4 and 9 months, he pulls his weight domestically and with the children so life is so much easier when he’s around! Have to do it all myself when he’s not.

Not on a normal work day, no, but then when you're on mat leave it can feel a bit isolating if you don't go out much.

I was a SAHM for 2.5 years during which time DH worked away up to 4 nights a week. I actually enjoyed my nights without him as I had control of the TV!

Yes when I was at home with our DC- little ones do that to you I find. Now they're older I'm working school hours and DH is home alone. He definitely doesn't miss me in the 6 hours peace he gets each day .

What we both miss is time without the DC but together as that's very rare.

I like the company so yeah I do.

@Babdoc

That actually made me cry @Babdoc - though I will admit to being rather emotional at the moment as I just got the cancer "all clear" last week and DH and I have had a number of very tearful conversations in the past year about living without your soulmate/love of your life.

DH has travelled regularly for work in the 30 years we have been together, sometimes the odd night or two, sometimes Sun-Fri every week leaving me with three kids. You get used to it but generally I do really miss him if he is away more than a night and now that he works from home a lot and I'm not working I'm used to him being around during the day and like it that way,