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Cheering up after not getting job

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Enko · 09/10/2019 14:16

Hello MN

I need cheering up. Just found out I didnt get the job I went for. Lovely feedback however .... Additionally hard as I am trying to get into a new area (not retail) and often get told.. we used someone who had experience.. I get that but I cant change my experience.

What do you all do to cheer yourself up after news like this?

Any fun internet pages to read or stuff to watch?

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Cordial11 · 09/10/2019 14:20

Sorry to hear OP however whats meant for you, won’t pass you by!

There must be something round the corner Grin

My favourite comedies on BBC iplayer, this country and two doors down , should give you a giggle Flowers

HasThisSoddingNameGoneToo · 09/10/2019 14:25

Channel 4 are releasing EVERY series of ER onto All4 over the next few weeks. There are already 4 series up, a new one goes up every Friday.

Be pleased you didn't get the job - now you can drool at a young George Clooney saving babies.

Standstilling · 09/10/2019 14:29

Well I didn’t get 2 jobs I found out today. Will be joining you in grumpy comfort viewing and treating myself to something but not food cos I’m too fat already.

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Enko · 09/10/2019 14:37

@Standstilling I was aiming for non food comfort too but I think I will have tea always good

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Standstilling · 09/10/2019 14:42

I like Reddit for aimless scrolling - r/aww and r/catsareassholes

Andylion · 09/10/2019 15:40

Just found out I didnt get the job I went for.

"Well I didn’t get 2 jobs I found out today."

We should form a club. I just found out 20 minutes ago that I didn't get a job. My reaction was to take an early break and log on to MN.

Disfordarkchocolate · 09/10/2019 15:45

I comfort myself with MN, why isn't there a parking thread when you need one!

Alwaysgrey · 09/10/2019 16:02

I went for a job interview earlier and it’s the first I’ve had in a long time after caring for my disabled kids. I was appalling. I waffled on and was out the door in 25 minutes. There is no way on this earth I got the job so despite being overweight have come home and eaten a small bowl of crisps and a bowl of almonds.

motorcyclenumptiness · 09/10/2019 17:01

I don't drink but, having been rejected for so many jobs, I think it might be the way forward. My best failure so far was with a financial regulator where the interviewer's eyes glazed over the minute I entered the room and, when I asked a question, she answered a completely different one. Good to know our financial services are in safe handsHmmGrin

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Enko · 09/10/2019 17:48

wow @motorcyclenumptiness that sounds bad
@Alwaysgrey bowl of almonds sounds great right now :)
@Disfordarkchocolate and @Andylion yes MN was the first place I went too

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TeaAddict235 · 09/10/2019 18:27

It is extremely frustrating when it happens isn't it? Months ago I applied for a role and finally sent the application off at 10pm after having deliberated about every word and meaning and haranguing DH to check it. Only to receive a rejection the very next day just after 9am.

The thing is that the final application deadline wasn't for another month at least Confused they could have removed the advert if they had found the right person!

In the time that you send off the application or have an interview, you start to imagine your life with the job. How things might change, etc. Then the dream is halted.

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Enko · 09/10/2019 19:19

Yes there is a lot of hope and possibilities in applying for a new job. I will say that the experience I had with this company was so professional. They contacted me the day after the deadline to arrange a interview and contacted me the day they said they would about outcome. Really cant fault them. Just a shame as I would have loved the job.

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Hecateh · 09/10/2019 19:51

Well - I did get the job and I'm currently wishing I didn't.

I looked at the job, thought it sounded good and fired off my CV. Was then linked to the full JD and Person Spec and realised, although I met a lot of it, I didn't have the experience that was essential. I forgot about it. A few weeks later they contacted me and asked me to apply as they liked the look of my CV but needed a proper application.

So, I applied, spent a lot of time on it and about a month later was interviewed and offered the post.

6 weeks into the job I am getting told I am not getting up to speed fast enough, I have let them down by not doing specific things. That they were aware my experience wasn't totally relevant but they believed in me and I am letting them down.

Friends and family all told me I could do the job. I actually do think I could do the job but I'm not sure I can do it in the time allocated. 22 hours to manage 10 staff over 4 projects without previous project management experience.

I thought I was lucky to get the job - Hopefully I'll get through this but if I'd never seen it I wouldn't be losing sleep over it.

Alwaysgrey · 09/10/2019 19:55

@Hecateh what bastards. They sound massively unsupportive.

salty78 · 09/10/2019 20:06

OP this happened to me today too after a gruelling interview process earlier this week for a job I really really wanted. Helpful feedback from the employer basically came down to me not selling myself well enough. It's SO hard to do though and without feeling like you're auditioning for The Apprentice!

I got in my dressing gown now on the sofa with tea and hoping the state of Alan Sugar's contestants later will make me feel better.

Andylion · 09/10/2019 20:19

My supervisor said the members of the hiring committee were all very impressed with my interview. He said it at least twice. Now, it might sound to some as though he was just being kind, but he sounded genuine because he seemed surprised.Hmm Now I wonder if, all along, he'd been thinking that I'm a half-wit.

TragicallyUnbeyachted · 09/10/2019 20:19

I have just started a new job (well, an equivalent job) to one I was turned down for to my great disappointment four years ago. I had similarly good feedback first time round but they liked the other guy more (and now I'm working with him and, TBH, that was probably the right decision for them at the time because he's very good).

So sometimes things work out in the long run...

OneOfOurOwn · 09/10/2019 20:23

I also didn't get a job today. It is the most interesting part of my current job plus some other stuff.

Instead I have to move to a boring over managed area with a terrible assistant. I am really pissed off and will look for another job externally.

And then they will loss all the knowledge I have of the interesting area and serve the bastards right.

OneOfOurOwn · 09/10/2019 20:25

I'm eating Kit Kats and sulking.

kazza446 · 09/10/2019 20:46

I didn’t get a job Offer today either!!!! Started bloody diet Monday and just want to wallow in self pity, chocolate and biscuits! I received positive feedback and was encouraged to apply again when the role comes up once more. Pass me chocolate!!

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Enko · 09/10/2019 23:50

I went for the chocolate biscuits tea and a blanket. I was good and only ate 3 (mostly because dd3 and ds found out there was biscuits but i will pretend I was good)

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Standstilling · 10/10/2019 13:45

Afternoon jobseekers, well I went for the apple pie and cream to drown my sorrows.

Got another interview next week but I’m not sure I want it. Which is v grown up and sensible of me but also makes me feel I’m being ungrateful. Oh well, I’ll go along and see what they’re like...

Onwards and upwards folks

TakemedowntoPotatoCity · 10/10/2019 14:15

I had 4 rejections before summer. Have temporarily given up looking. The one I really wanted I just know I would have got 10 years ago when younger, thinner and with more recent experience, I feel like I'm on the scrapheap a little.

Alwaysgrey · 10/10/2019 14:58

@TakemedowntoPotatoCity I feel like that. I have two children with Sen and have been their carer for the last ten years but not sure what I’m good for now.

Disfordarkchocolate · 10/10/2019 15:08

I have made a consoling chocolate flapjack and applied for another job.