Ethical dilemma re Charity shop purchase

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My mother loved a charity shop bargain and would collect all sorts of bits and bobs but was quite savvy about what she bought. She is recently deceased and I’ve found a lovely ceramic vase that will easily fetch a few hundred pounds at auction according to current valuations.
I teased her in the last few years that I would return the item back to the charity shop so the charity would benefit from her crafty buy. She bought it for 3 quid.
The dilemma is my brother and sister want to cash in on potential profit of £200 each whereas I want to return the cash to the charity. We’ve all benefited substantially from mum’s estate and think this is a bit grabby.
Aside though, we’ve contributed to running mum’s property until it sells ( electric bills, etc) so this small amount would help keep her house ticking over. Who is BU?

Three issues it seems.

Money wanted for themselves by your siblings.

You want charity to have it.

You want the money to pay the bills as well.

If you took out a standing order to the charity then they'd probably benefit more from that long term than from the one-off £200, and you'd have the money now to help with your mum's house.

Can you split the money from the sale then each of you do what you like with it? You could give 50% of your share to the charity etc.

Youd be crazy to have a battle over this. Let them sell it.

Sorry for your loss

But they aren’t going to sell it for £200 at a charity shop. Even if they know what it’s worth because you point it out it’ll have a limited buyers because it’s a charity shop

Auction it and donate your third to charity.

Sell the thing, split the proceeds, you do what you like with your proceeds. If that means £200 to charity then that's good, no?

Have you actually sold it? You might not get what you think for it. The charity shop had it donated so they are still £3 up your mother didnt deprive them of anything. Unless it is a charity very close to your/your families hearts then I wouldnt factor them into the equation to be honest.

I agree let them sell it. It’s nothing

I’m sorry for your loss

I would keep it.

Sell it. If you want to donate to charity then do it but don't try to guilt trip them into it
Big charities are just big business now anyway, by middle class men, for middle class men

A valuation for insurance is not the same as what the item may sell for.

Sell it at an auction but be prepared to receive less than expected, although of course it could always go for more!

You each do whatever you want with your share.

Thank you. Maybe sell it and give my proceeds to charity.

I agree with others. Unless she specifically left it to you then I dont think you can dicate what they do with their thirds.

I's sell it at auction and use my share for my third of the house upkeep personally.

That’s what I’d do. Not worth the argument. But I’d choose my charity rather than just donate it to the place she bought it from.

I don’t see why it’s grabby? Charity shops are fair game for finding bargains. Well done to your mother for spotting it.

Big charities are just big business now anyway, by middle class men, for middle class men

^Yawn

There’s no real argument or division. Just sibliblings think it should go to Bills etc which I sort of agree with but we can afford those so I think that a charity should benefit from my mum’s shiftyness

Sell it and give the charity shop 10% of the money. Everyone's a winner.

You can donate any part of the estate including any money from the vase you want to but it is not your place and it's unfair to tell them what they should do with their part of the estate. Even if you think their decision is stupid greedy or wasteful or any other term you can think of.

I think having that view for all the questions that come up will be helpful because then you can focus on how you want to choose what you do.and the rest of it you can just let it slide past you and not waste energy that you likely don't have especially after losing your mum!

You are being sentimental because you are grieving. If you want to give money to charity later you can. Don't fall out with your siblings.

Agree with everyone else. There's no point in just returning it to the charity shop. Put it in to auction (of course it might not sell, or might sell for a lot less than you think it is worth). Then, if you choose to, you can donate your 1/3 to the charity (and gift aid it, if you are a tax payer). Then your siblings get their share and you feel good about yourself and the charity gains more than it would by putting a vase on their shelf for £3 again.

Which charity? Local cat's home would be delighted and it would mean a lot. National charity, meh, they won't care.

Yes. Thank you. Would never fall out with siblings. They can do what they want as can I.
It is about the pointless and insignificant issues in the grand scheme of the things that dominate grief
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I'd sort out paying the bills first and foremost.
If, later on you're in a position where you'd like to donate to a charity / the charity then that's fine. Bills first then think about the charity a bit later, you've a lot on your plate at the moment. Sorry for your loss.

Donate if/what you want, charity shop got it for free, (donation) they got what they wanted for it (£3)