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How did you feel after your DH's vasectomy?

27 replies

Samsamsuperman · 01/10/2019 18:09

Mine's got his tomorrow.
Wondering if I'll feel any sadness even though I know we've wanted it for ages and def don't want any more kids.

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BeBraveAndBeKind · 01/10/2019 18:25

Very fleeting sadness but that's outweighed by the happiness of not needing to worry about contraception or the worry about pregnancy. I think I might be perimenopausal and my periods are a bit erratic so it's a relief to not have that late period panic.

thebear1 · 01/10/2019 18:27

No sadness, felt done with the two I had.

differentkindofpenguin · 01/10/2019 18:37

Best feeling ever. I ran out of options with contraception, and the freedom it gave both of us is amazing. We were both 200% sure we didn't want any more kids though.

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flippyflapper · 01/10/2019 19:48

At first relieved, then when the youngest started school i was so upset, looked a reversals.

Now 3 years later so so so dam grateful it was done because we would if had another back then and i couldn't think of anythinf worse than doing that all again

MerryMarigold · 01/10/2019 19:50

Grateful and relieved. I sent with him and watched the whole thing. It was so fascinating and the doc explained what he was doing all the way through.

DerbyshireOatcake · 01/10/2019 19:55

Grateful, relieved, very, very happy.

AnyFucker · 01/10/2019 19:56

Relieved

Autumnchill · 01/10/2019 19:59

Relieved after 25 years of taking the pill

slingthegin · 01/10/2019 20:00

Relieved and a sense that he had stepped up on the contraception front.

Gertie75 · 01/10/2019 20:27

Relieved, I had a 12 week old with colic who screamed for 16 hours a day and there was no way I wanted another.

SherbetSaucer · 01/10/2019 20:28

Elated!! We’re both childfree by choice and he got his vasectomy last year (he’s mid-20s).

hapagirl · 01/10/2019 20:32

Very happy. We have three DCs and knew we were done. I was also pleased that my DH took took it upon himself to take control of contraception.

TrashPanda · 01/10/2019 20:35

Relieved and grateful, it was done on Friday. Also confirmed how much I love him and that he's about 'us' too, not just him. We have 3 children and are 100% done but at only 30, the thought of possibly another 15/20 years on contraception wasn't filling me with joy. Him stepping up will mean I will enjoy our sex life much more as I won't have a constant worry in the back of my mind about the risk of pregnancy.

MrHaroldFry · 01/10/2019 20:49

Delighted. He took some ownership and I didn't have to consider birth control having had to for nearly 20 years!
Economics meant we were never having mire children than we already do. So there was no sadness. It was just a positive practical step forward.

Crazycatperson · 01/10/2019 20:51

I asked my boyfriend to get one and he was agreeable then I heard something on the radio a few weeks ago, saying a man's orgasm isn't as good anymore. Of course, this put my boyfriend off (as it would me!). I haven't looked into whether there's any truth in this yet, but fully intend to!!

DoctorAllcome · 01/10/2019 20:53

Thrilled...turned the factory into a playground.

CazM2012 · 01/10/2019 20:57

I was pregnant with DC4 at the time, so was fine, (we were meant to be stopping at 3) I suddenly got quite upset about it when I was no longer pregnant, went away quite quickly though.

AudacityOfHope · 01/10/2019 20:59

When we got the letter confirming it had worked I howled for about an hour.

Then I remembered I didn't have to have any more babies and all was well again Grin

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Samsamsuperman · 01/10/2019 21:08

Great, honest answers. Thanks all.

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SamsMumsCateracts · 01/10/2019 21:10

DH had his two months ago. We have two DC. I'm quite happy with two, and had no longing for a third, but for the last two weeks I've found myself wondering and missing the newborn days. But, ultimately, I know that we've made the right decision for our family.

ilovetofu · 01/10/2019 21:55

It's awesome once the waiting time is over OP. Well done Mr. SamSam!
I'm wistful when I see a REALLY cute baby. But in all honesty it would be the same if we were using another form of contraception too 🤷‍♀️

ilovetofu · 01/10/2019 21:58

And the orgasms are the same from my DH's perspective. Although DTD is just soooo much better without condoms Grin
He was out of action for a week afterwards.

MargotLovedTom1 · 01/10/2019 21:59

Ecstatic, overjoyed, euphoric Grin.

Bokky · 01/10/2019 22:04

Gutted at first as it felt that all choices had been taken away. We only have one DC but I had a rough pregnancy and was poorly post natal. We've always said I wouldn't be well enough to have another but I've always longed for one more. I know deep down it's absolutely the right decision for us but I can't help feeling a little sad that it will definitely now never happen.

However, on the flip side, it's a relief to no longer need to take the pill and to get my body back to normal. I'm still taking it at the moment as we're still not at the "all clear" zone!

DramaAlpaca · 01/10/2019 22:07

Relieved & grateful that he'd stepped up, but with a slight tinge of wistfulness even though I knew I was done after three DC.

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