DH's Family forgotten my birthday

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I'm closer to DH's family than my own and am on a family WhatsApp group with around ten of the other females in the family. They're all currently chatting away about one of our dniece's birthdays which is next week but have forgotten it's my birthday today.

I feel disappointed and DH says people only remember birthdays because of Facebook! I can manage to remember birthdays without Facebook. I've just been asked to make dnieces birthday cake but have not yet replied. I know this is not AIBU but WIBU to put them all on mute and open a posh bottle of wine this early?

Put them on mute and celebrate your birthday.

Yanbu at all
Happy Birthday op

Open the wine and have a happy birthday. Relax and enjoy your day, make them wait before you commit to making cakes, if they ask why you took a while to reply tell them you were busy celebrating your birthday.

Posh wine is always good for birthdays happy birthday to you.

I think I would reply "Would love to make her cake, btw when are you bringing my cake over?"

Tell them it’s your birthday!!!!
I’m sure they haven’t forgotten on purpose. So say sorry for the delay we’ve just been doing X to celebrate my birthday! Que all the messages etc. Don’t cut off your nose to spite your face.
And happy birthday! 💐

I do hope you dh has remembered and is treating you well. Still make nieces cake, it is not her fault.

How can ten of them all have forgotten? I think they will be round this evening with pressies. ( she says hopefully.....)

DH has spoilt me rotten so I'm still having a lovely day. I will still make dniece's cake but it's a bit annoying because I mentioned my birthday was coming up less than three days ago.
Posh wine is getting opened. I've not responded to the message about the cake yet. I make all the cakes so they know it's a given. Just disappointed that between all of them, no one had marked it in a diary. I've only been with DH twenty years 😂

Why hasn’t DH reminded them as it’s his family?

Why hasn’t DH reminded them as it’s his family?

I don't actually know.... 🤔

It's not a big birthday so I should probably just get over it.

As an adult it s up to you to remind people it is your birthday..

embrace they were reminded three days ago. Should I be announcing it on the day too?

I'd tell them it's your Birthday and ask which one of them has made your 🍰

Firstly Happy Birthday 🥳

I'd post "Too busy munching my own birthday treats today, get back to you at some point later in the week"

Enjoy the rest of your day!

Thanks for all the birthday messages! ☺️

Yes, post what dontdox said! Don't suffer in silence. And have a lovely day!

"Of course I will make her cake but as it's my birthday today, I'm a little disgraced with other things so we can talk about the type of cake later"

*distracted not disgraced!!

Aww, OP I would feel similar! I'm really good at remembering birthdays and feel quite affronted when others aren't. I didn't get acknowledgement from several of my oldest friends for my 30th and I was really hurt. I didn't say anything though as I hated the thought of making anyone feel bad even though I felt really crap they'd forgotten.

I’ll have to admit I only send birthday cards to my side of the family but add DHs name to them and DH does the same for his side of the family. I don’t do presents etc for adults only the dcs but knowing how busy everyone’s life is if they forgot my birthday it wouldnt hold a grudge

don't respond about the cake.. tomorrow you can say sorry for the delay in responding but you were out celebrating your birthday

Happy Birthday! Enjoy your wine and do what @AlwaysCheddar said.

I’d do what spied said

It’s my birthday today as well OP

I’ll raise a glass to you if you’ll raise one for me!

Perhaps just say "perhaps when someone makes me one?"