DH's Family forgotten my birthday

[Usethegoodbudder]

I'm closer to DH's family than my own and am on a family WhatsApp group with around ten of the other females in the family. They're all currently chatting away about one of our dniece's birthdays which is next week but have forgotten it's my birthday today.

I feel disappointed and DH says people only remember birthdays because of Facebook! I can manage to remember birthdays without Facebook. I've just been asked to make dnieces birthday cake but have not yet replied. I know this is not AIBU but WIBU to put them all on mute and open a posh bottle of wine this early?

Happy birthday @Usethegoodbudder! (I'm tomorrow, all the best people have October birthdays )

They sound like a right useless bunch. I'd send a message along the lines of what other posters have said, or 'happy to make the cake, just putting the final touches to my own first.'

I hope for their sakes that they're just trying to put you off the scent of a lovely birthday surprise this evening. Keep us posted!

Please ask them who made your cake! That’s genius.

@ElizaPancakes happy birthday to you too! Chin chin 🍷!

Just had a phone call from MIL. Thought it was to wish me a happy birthday but it was asking me to make yet another cake for her friend 'if she pays for the ingredients'. 😂

I still haven't replied!

You should reply “ can I celebrate my birthday first without having to think of everyone else’s cakes “

Op I'm. Seriously appalling at remmebei g dates Inc my own babies birth day. Just remind them

I'm hoping there's a lovely surprise happening for you this evening.
Happy birthday 🎂💐

DH has just opened a second bottle and has started cooking a nice dinner. Won't be seeing anyone this evening as we all live a fair distance away from each other. I told MIL I'm not doing any more non family cakes. Honestly, why do people think that paying for the ingredients is enough?

@Spanglyprincess1 why don't you add them to the calendar on your phone with an annual recurrence?

I wouldn't remember if I hadn't written them all down.

The thoughtlessness behind it is shit, especially as I had mentioned it three days ago.

I like Users sentence I think you should use it tbh! Call them out kindly on their thoughtlessness.

I did but lost my phone!! Well organised.
It's okay fb reminds me now and my mom lol. My dp is more useless than me.
Some people are crap at dates doesn't mean they don't care just they are a bit crap. Just remind them

If you use Google calendar even if you lose your phone you'll have it..

Don't let them get away with forgetting it's today, or they will think they don't have to remember it in future years. Post a photo on the group of you raising a glass and say Happy Birthday to Me. Do remind them.

A flurry of messages around 11:30pm last night. I didn't remind them. Didn't trust myself not write something snippy after a bottle of wine! Ah well!

Bit rubbish :(

I would be busy and unavailable to make all future cakes...

Bloody cheek, this “paying for ingredients” business

Well done for saying no!

Messages saying what?

@Raphael34 happy birthday messages. Have replied and said I will sort dniece's cake.
Not flipping well making another one for an adult again that's for bloody sure. It's really irked me.

Do they usually remember?

I would be telling them that your too busy making a birthday cake for yourself seeing as its your birthday today and nobody bothered to remember.

Making really lovely cakes takes time and effort. There is a reason gorgeous cakes are expensive.

You are right OP to tell your MIL to sling her hook.

Can't stand people whom are generous with other people's skills🙄.

Happy birthday OP.

Maybe you need to be a little more selective about the cakes you make and for whom.

Clearly they think you have lots of time on your hands and you are being a bit taken for granted.

Hard stares required, me thinks!🤔

They've never forgotten before but I have come off of Facebook in the last year so they've not had that as a reminder I suppose. Pretty sure they remembered my birthday before everyone had Facebook though.

Yes lots of hard stares due!
I've been volunteered so many times to do cakes for just ingredient costs and I'm not doing it again.

I'm not on fb but as a but of an experiment, I have spent the last 3/4 years sending real cards to people and taking note of birthdays when mentioned. Aunties, cousins, friends old and new, had the odd few back previously a couple of thank yous etc. I got 4 cards this year, my mum, husband and kids. I'll not be sending anybody one again I've really seen my arse haha