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32nd night in hospital - keep me company?

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pyjamas89 · 29/09/2019 13:59

That's about it really! Tonight will be my 32nd night in hospital. I'm lonely and miserable and desperate to get out of here. Got no visitors today which isnt helping and I've watched more netflix/catch up than I thought was humanly possible. Can anyone please keep me company for a bit?!

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ceilihouse · 29/09/2019 14:02

I'm on my 8th night in hospital feel your pain!

Deathraystare · 29/09/2019 14:03

How long do you think you will be in for? I know it must be boring but at least you have netflix etc. Do you have many visitors at other times? Wishing you a speedy recoveryxx

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pyjamas89 · 29/09/2019 14:03

Sorry to hear @ceilihouse May you be out of there ASAP

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Rachelover60 · 29/09/2019 14:04

I am really sorry for you, can imagine the anguish you're going through. I was in patient for eight days in August and It was dreadful.

stucknoue · 29/09/2019 14:04

Hugs , there are volunteers usually who will come and talk to you, alert the nursing staff if you would like that. Are you likely to be in much longer?

BentlyandPalmers · 29/09/2019 14:07

That must be horrendous. Are people able to get in to see you most days?

Are you up to writing or drawing or whatever hobby you may have?

MrsMozartMkII · 29/09/2019 14:09

Well that's a bummer indeed. Hope whatever it is gets sorted soonest!

What's been your favourite on Netflix?

Kpo58 · 29/09/2019 14:12

Are you confined to bed are are you able to go for a short walk? Even a minor change of view can make all the difference.

Livebythecoast · 29/09/2019 14:16

Oh I'm sorry. That's a long time to be in hospital. Do you know if you're be released soon?.

Ilikesweetpeas · 29/09/2019 14:17

Ahh, sorry to read this. Do you have any prospect of going home soon? I hope things improve for you soon

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pyjamas89 · 29/09/2019 14:18

Thanks all for your kind comments. @MrsMozartMkII you made me laugh, bummer indeed!!

I'm supposed to have been discharged twice already but it's all dependent on community stuff being set up which seems to be...difficult for them to organise effectively shall we say.

I'm really hopeful for the middle of this week but trying not to get my hopes up too much.

I finished watching the drama Thirteen on I Player which I thought was pretty good.

I can go for a wander but I'm quite lacking in motivation truth be told.

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Livebythecoast · 29/09/2019 14:21

And dare I say, what's the food been like?!

Youngatheart00 · 29/09/2019 14:22

@pyjamas89 poor you. I know how frustrating hospitals can be. Is there anyone on the ward you could have a chat to? If you’re mobile, could you take a walk down to the hospital newsagent (take it slow and steady), buy yourself a newspaper? A change of scenery and opportunity to connect with the outside world.

Do you have visitors most days and have they said how much longer you’ll be in? I know it tough but try and see the positives - you’re better to be somewhere you can be cared for than at home when you’re unwell. Sending

ceilihouse · 29/09/2019 14:46

Same the hospitals are lonely places! I haven't had visitors in 3 days can't expect dh to come in every day with work and our kids, they coming in today and can't wait, currently watching Derry Girls on Netflix! The boredom is the worst

HoldingBackTheCat · 29/09/2019 14:50

Have you tried "Breaking bad" on Netflix? Very dark but I think there's 5 series and they are about an hour each so kill a lot of time! I do sympathise with you. My husband was in for only a week and was going crazy by the end.

Violet25 · 29/09/2019 14:50

I spent a lot of my time in hospital a few years ago for cancer treatment. One thing that really helped me was long form journalism. It was easier for me to read than a book but longer and more satisfying than normal magazine or newspaper articles. Longreads and longform are both good sites.

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pyjamas89 · 29/09/2019 14:54

Thanks all and thanks @ceilihouse. Hope you enjoy seeing your family later.

I've been pretty lucky on the visitor front - I guess it's a bit the same but a bit different in that I'm in a psychiatric hospital. Same feeling pretty ill, same boredom, same loneliness but at least mobile though lacking in motivation to move.

@Livebythecoast I couldn't really comment on the food too much! I've been really off food so mostly having snacks here and there

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Youngatheart00 · 29/09/2019 14:58

OP are there many therapeutic activities? I honestly think boredom can be the worst thing for a brain, even when not unwell ones own thoughts can be destructive, and when one is unwell with nothing much other than those thoughts I can see how it seems relentless.

Is there any way you could get some fresh air? I get the lack of motivation but even 10 minutes in it might help your morale a little.

Straycatstrut · 29/09/2019 14:59

Ahh sorry to hear that OP. My 3yo had to be in for a while in the summer holidays and the days felt like months. Devices just don't seem as interesting when you're forced to used them!

Think of some nice things you can do once you're out? I'm looking forward to autumn crafty stuff with my kids, Halloween and Bonfire night.

Maybe have a look on Amazon kindle (I like thrillers!). I know all you really want to do is go home though. The feeling I got when the nurse said "Doctor says you can go now" the last time omg I swear I had tears in my eyes and nearly hugged her!

Hang in there xx

MrsMozartMkII · 29/09/2019 15:13

Motivation can be a difficult one. Try just telling yourself you'll walk to x point and back. No biggie, but at least it's done and that brings a good feeling.

JustHavinABreak · 29/09/2019 15:21

Oh you poor Love. I've been there. About 3 weeks or so as an in-patient for the treatment of severe depression and then a further 4 weeks outpatient work. It was the hardest thing and the best thing I ever did. It was over 15 years ago now but I still remember vividly how lonely some of those days could be. Try to just go hour by hour rather than day by day if today is tough. Decide that for this hour you'll read or watch TV or walk to the shop to buy a magazine or have a cuppa and a biscuit. PM me if I can help

Livebythecoast · 29/09/2019 15:28

@pyjamas89 - at least you're eating a little.
Are you much of a reader? Could we recommend some books?. I normally only read biographies and factual books but have just read a lovely fiction book that I got totally absorbed in x

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pyjamas89 · 29/09/2019 15:32

Thanks for the suggestions and kind thoughts.

@Livebythecoast yes usually really like reading but I just don't have the concentration for it at the moment. I brought a copy of a book I've read hundreds of times that has really short (1-2 page) chapters cos I can open it anywhere I know it so well and just read a page or two. I've got some puzzle books but I can't think well enough and just getting frustrated at my inability to complete a sudoku or put more than 2 answers into a crossword.

@JustHavinABreak thanks for the kind comment, it's nice to know others have come through the other side.

I moved and got a drink, and put a bra on (!) and then got back into bed. But that will have to do for now.

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MrsMozartMkII · 29/09/2019 15:44

You did something. That makes it a good day. Doing things will build up over time.

Livebythecoast · 29/09/2019 15:44

I understand about concentration with reading. I have my 'go to' books when not feeling great mentally. I've read them loads of times but they feel safe, comforting and familiar I don't have to think too much.
I wish you all the very best x

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