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Why send a "thanks for coming to the party" message on the class chat when it wasn't a class invite?

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Crunchymum · 28/09/2019 21:02

Obviously DC2 was one of the "uninvited" but that isn't the point. Both my school age children know they won't be invited to every party and are very accepting of this.

They get their fair share of invites but also there are times the invites are passed out and they don't get one. No problem.

But why oh why would you post a gushing thanks for making memories, boak post on a group chat when you you know you didn't invite everyone?

  • unless they did invite everyone, except DC2 Shock

Its really irked me for some reason. Not the party, not the fact my DC wasn't invited but the fact someone seems to think it's ok to make sure people know their kids were excluded.

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itsgettingweird · 28/09/2019 21:03

I agree with you.

But some people have no class.

Don't let them become your problem.

Solitarycaddis · 28/09/2019 21:04

Poor form I agree.

PeterRouseTheFleshofMankind · 28/09/2019 21:05

Yeah that's shit.

Stayawayfromitsmouth · 28/09/2019 21:07

Very crass. Note them down for future reference. Yanbu.

formerbabe · 28/09/2019 21:07

It's a shitty thing to do...at least I guess only parents saw it and not the children.

Grannybags · 28/09/2019 21:09

Maybe they set up a separate party group and accidentally posted in the wrong one? Or they just have no class.

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Crunchymum · 28/09/2019 21:09

I'm going to hope it was an error of judgement but yeah its pretty crap.

And they'd been so discreet with the invites as I didn't even know there was a party (usually you notice kids handing out invites and they tend to be non whole class parties. The teachers are happy to deal with class invites!)

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Crunchymum · 28/09/2019 21:10

Another group. Bloody hell, that's even worse? Like the "chosen ones"

Cant believe I have many more years of this shit.

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KatharinaRosalie · 28/09/2019 21:11

"Hi Karen, you posted this in the wrong group, I'm quite sure I was not there, making memories"

autumnboys · 28/09/2019 21:12

Reply saying ‘oh my god! I’m so sorry, did we miss a party?!’

Or not. Grin

But yes, poor show from party mum.

MissMarks · 28/09/2019 21:17

Definitely reply with something sarcastic. Silly cow

PeterRouseTheFleshofMankind · 28/09/2019 21:19

Another group. Bloody hell, that's even worse? Like the "chosen ones"

What's wrong with doing that? That's what we do if there is a party and it's not the whole class invited. I thought that was standard? It's handy for if you need to give any extra info or (in my case these days) you just can't be arsed to send out paper invites.

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Crunchymum · 28/09/2019 21:20

I am sorely tempted. But it's so early in the year..... and our class is full of PTA / well to do types.... I don't want to spoil DC2's social life in week three Grin

Although we clearly don't make the grade as this is second party we've not been invited too!! Shock

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isabellerossignol · 28/09/2019 21:22

I'd guess it was probably sent by mistake. If the parent was really trying to rub people's noses in it they'd have been sending messages prior to the party saying things like 'hope to see you all on Saturday' or chasing up RSVPs.

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Crunchymum · 28/09/2019 21:23

@PeterRouseTheFleshofMankind

I suppose it makes sense but who needs extra groups? I already have enough.

FWIW I cant recall anyone posting on class chats about any parties previously. It's all done the old school way. Invites, rsvp etc

Only parties posted publically have been halloween / summer meet ups available to all.

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Crunchymum · 28/09/2019 21:24
  • even parties where whole class have been invited have never been referenced on the class chats to my recollection and we've been at the school 5 years!!
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RicStar · 28/09/2019 21:27

It is very common to have a party WhatsApp group here for ease of communication so I am guessing a mispost and poster is feeling Blush Blush.

SneakySnackySquirrel · 28/09/2019 21:29

Hopefully it was a mistake because that was a really horrible thing to do if not.

Grannybags · 28/09/2019 21:31

Our parties are nearly all done by group chat now - maybe because they are older and parties are generally a max of 10, rather than whole class and are often a mix of friends from school, footie, scouts etc?

itsgettingweird · 28/09/2019 21:31

Party what's app groups Shock

I'm soooooo glad my ds is now 15 and this sort of thing didn't seem to be around when he was 5!

GaudyNight · 28/09/2019 21:33

Agree with @RicStar. Virtually all parties for the last two years (since the end of whole class parties) have been ‘announced’ by someone making a new WhatsApp group and adding the parents of the invited children from the general class parents’ WhatsApp, whether it’s six or twenty-six kids. Easy to issue invitations and reminders, people are more likely to RSVP, and you delete it immediately afterwards.

This parent just posted to the wrong group, an easy mistake.

GaudyNight · 28/09/2019 21:38

I’m not sure why people are being so snide about them, when there have been a million Mn posts about people failing to RSVP to paper invitations, and ending up not knowing who’s coming or whether you could have food for 20 and get 2. Making a temporary WhatsApp group is free, convenient, and gets a far better RSVP hit rate than paper invitations which get lost or forgotten on fridge doors etc.

Littlebelina · 28/09/2019 21:38

If it makes you feel better op we once had photos (of a party DS wasn't invited to) on a class group chat. Had to delete them from my phone in case he saw them. I agree it's pretty poor form

Drum2018 · 28/09/2019 21:44

I'd have to innocently respond 'Damn it Maureen, I didn't come across the invite in ds bag - I'm so sorry he missed it'. Though 'Maureen' would probably play along and say its a shame you didn't see the invite and tell you to drop a gift round to the house Hmm

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Crunchymum · 28/09/2019 21:48

The WhatsApp groups make sense, but as I say it genuinely doesn't seem to have caught on at our school. There are plenty of parties we have been invited too and no separate chats Sad

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