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Do you wish you'd had more children?

70 replies

fredde · 28/09/2019 20:36

I wish I had tried for more .. anyone else?

I found the baby days hard and stressful but now my dc is older it's amazing. I wish I had just gone for it and had another instead of just one but now it's too late

We are very lucky and happy but I have the "what if" moments regularly

That's life I suppose

Just felt like posting hoping someone else feels like this

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57Varieties · 28/09/2019 21:51

Nope

I have 2

ButterfliesandMoths · 28/09/2019 21:54

I would have loved to have had more children. Unfortunately it was medically impossible. I count myself extremely lucky for the 2 I have.

namechangedforthis1980 · 28/09/2019 21:55

I have two boys and always wanted more. However had two missed miscarriages in 2011/12 so feel it was never meant to be.

Life has changed now though, it's been hard work and if I'm honest I'm a little glad we didn't have a little one to deal with in the midst of it.

I'll never stop being broody though...

Solitarycaddis · 28/09/2019 21:55

Yes. I wanted three but had miscarriages and pregnancy issues owing to wierdy uterus. It took me eight years to carry a pregnancy full term and even then I nearly lost her at 10 wks and at 25 weeks and spent the last couple of months on bed-rest. I desperately wish she had siblings, particularly sisters, like I do. Me and dh are older parents and I come from a large Irish Catholic family so culturally it seems odd to me just to have one. And I worry about leaving her alone in the world Sad

BenWillbondsPants · 28/09/2019 21:56

Yes, I would have liked a third. However, how things planned out with my parents ill health back when it would have been possible and a difficult diagnosis for DD it was probably for the best.

MrsTumbletap · 28/09/2019 21:58

No, we have one and it's awesome. He is happy, we are happy. Life is great.

Accountant222 · 28/09/2019 21:59

I had 1, I wanted 3 but my body wasn't up to it, had multiple miscarriages after a successful pregnancy. He's long since flown the nest, regrets none at all.

Stompythedinosaur · 28/09/2019 22:11

Nope. I think that 2 is the perfect number for our family. Also I would have died of tiredness.

MrsMozartMkII · 28/09/2019 22:14

Tunnocks a hug lass.

hittheroadjack1 · 28/09/2019 22:19

No. My body gave up in pregnancy. Baby and I are lucky to be alive.

Never ever again.

slapmyarseandcallmemary · 28/09/2019 22:33

Took me til 37 to have my 1st. Mixture of circumstances and the fact that in a same sex relationship, we had to wait to have IUI treatment, etc. I then had a miscarriage while trying for our 2nd. Then quite quickly, fell pregnant with our dd, who I gave birth to in May this year. It was my 40th birthday yesterday. I would love one more child. I have said to my wife that I would regret not trying. However, I know how completely and utterly lucky and blessed we are to have our ds and dd.

mindutopia · 28/09/2019 23:38

Nope, I had two. That’s how many I always wanted. As soon as #2 was born I had no desire for any more. I feel lucky to have two healthy happy children but that’s all I need.

TowerRingInferno · 28/09/2019 23:49

Yes. Would have liked a third but it wasn’t to be. My third pregnancy was a molar pregnancy that required chemo and brought on an early menopause.

PurpleDaisies · 28/09/2019 23:50

One would have been enough for me.

Whatthefunk · 29/09/2019 01:00

I had my first, at 38, them lost my second, at 40.... Wish I'd started earlier....

31RueCambon75001 · 29/09/2019 01:34

No. I sometimes wish I'd had fewer. I have two and the second was a boy who is not easy. If it had just been my daughter and me a lot of things would be easier.

Graphista · 29/09/2019 02:54

@tunnocksreturns2019 so sorry for your heartbreak

Thanks to all who've suffered losses

Camaraderie to all who like me didn't have a choice in the matter.

I lost 3 before dd, almost lost dd several times and in having dd developed a condition which means another pregnancy would literally be life threatening.

I love kids always have and was a babysitter from a young age and a nanny before having dd. But...wasn't meant to be.

Dd is 19 next year and already talking of flat sharing with best mate in nearest city (more job opportunities and more to do in leisure time)

I want her to live a big life but I waiver between dreading her moving out and her driving me nuts and wanting some peace Grin

We're at that stage where as I'm settling down for the night she's heading off on nights out!

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fredde · 17/10/2019 19:26

Sorry for everyone who has suffered losses on this thread. I have too and it's hard to put yourself through the risk again even if you want to and in some cases it's too late

I had thought about a pet .. that might help

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IdentifyasTired · 17/10/2019 19:51

I’m greedy as I have 4 but would happily have more if we had a lot more money, a bigger house and could afford a nanny and a team of cleaners.
But we don’t have those things so we’re sticking at 4. Having more at this point would be to the detriment of our existing DC.

LittleMissEngineer · 17/10/2019 20:13

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