Do you wish you'd had more children?

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I wish I had tried for more .. anyone else?

I found the baby days hard and stressful but now my dc is older it's amazing. I wish I had just gone for it and had another instead of just one but now it's too late

We are very lucky and happy but I have the "what if" moments regularly

That's life I suppose

Just felt like posting hoping someone else feels like this

No. Have 1 and I love her without limit.

Yes. I have two. They’re almost leaving home age. I’m fast approaching 40. I wish we’d had one more.

No, I'm really happy with mine who are now 6 & 8, I did feel recently that as the DC were getting a bit older I had space for something else, so we got a puppy, and he's filled that gap perfectly!

My dc are 9&11...I find it actually gets harder rather than easier as they get older...which makes me even more relieved I didn't have more.

We have 4 and three youngest have SNs- diagnosed at 11, 9 then 8 for a variety of reasons.
We have no support and my DH works very long hours.
We couldn't have foreseen life working out this way but we muddle along.
They were easier when they were younger but now as stroppy teens and tweens who don't get on very well, I do find it easier on the rare occasion that one or two are out of the house.
They are also hellishly expensive and each of them wishes they were only children.
I wouldn't wish for fewer but I can see why people stick at one or two.

Yes and no. Yes in the same way that I wish I hadn't had the issues I had when I was younger, or that I had won any kind of lottery at any point. But back in real life I'm very happy and lucky with my 2 and will not be trying for a third one.

Fuck no. We have one. And a dog. Very happy to have stopped at one.

@PrincessMaryaBolkonskaya how old are you 38/39? You still have time.

Yes. I had two children but split with their father when they were young.

For some strange reason I couldn’t get my head around them having a half sibling so didn’t.

When I got married to my now husband I was too old to have more children.

But I’m fortunate that my three stepchildren are wonderful and we are very close.

Hell no but I do have four

In less than 6 years which utterly knackered my body. Wouldn’t change them for the world but another would have killed me. I’m onto cats and other animals now.

As from Monday I am ‘gaining’ a new child as my stepdaughters stepson (so no relation whatsoever to my husband and I) is coming to stay overnight on school nights and I will be taking him to school every morning.

He’s 8 and a lovely boy.

Sometimes. Since dh died just having the two of us feels a bit 'thin' sometimes. I saw a friend heading into town with her dh and their 3 teenagers and did have a moment of sadness. I know ds would have liked a sibling, it's a gap. But then I think how ill dh was when ds was little, and really with hindsight he was never well again, and it nearly broke me at times. I'm lucky to have ds at all.

If I could skip ages 1-4, yes. Bloody loved the baby stage. Toddlers/preschoolers are arseholes.

Had my ds at 40 @PrincessMaryaBolkonskaya, just sayin'...

Mine are 5&2 and I love them dearly, but I would rather stick pins in my eyes than have another one. I suppose I might feel differently when they're older but that would be rose tinted glasses. I'm SO excited about saying goodbye to nappies.

Not at all. I'm 29 with one 6yo DS and 100% certain that I'm done.

Yes but I suspect multiple miscarriages and a baby who died not long after she was born means I will also feel the missing gaps very acutely in our family. Theoretically I could still have more but I’m not up to it mentally and I don’t trust my body to get things right, and cannot go through more of what I’ve already experienced.

Right up until the DGC started coming, they multiply you know.

I feel like I got with the slip of time for my last dc. I’m very grateful. And feel like I’d do it again if I wasn’t the age I am.

At the same time moments of free time are creeping in and they’re pretty nice.

I would have liked a 2nd but DH said no and meant it. We operate very well as a family of 3 and I certainly don't want another baby at this stage... but I regularly wish we'd had a second and that I had two with a sensible age gap.

But I am very grateful for what I've got.

I have three, all grown up now. I'd quite have liked a fourth, but I'm sure it would have broken me. DH wouldn't have agreed anyway so it wasn't going to happen.

Me. One of the things that angers me the most about h leaving me is that he waited so long, I'm too old to have kids now (probably) I am so broody, I'm responding to widowers with young kids on tinder!

Yes. My DS will always be my only. My ExH was a complete prick when DS was 10 months old which was followed by a messy divorce.

I really struggle when friends post pregnancy announcements on FB and seeing bumps and newborns in public but I wouldn't change my DS for the world. I'm grateful for him and I need to be happy with that.

@tunnocksreturns2019

All the love

No ever. I have one DS and I never wanted any more for a second.