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Should my friend offer some money?

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Darkerhorse · 26/09/2019 22:38

My husband treated me to a spa day a few weeks ago and I asked my friend to come with me. At the end of the day when we were leaving, the spa said that we had both already paid and that we just had lunch left to pay for, which was a mistake on their part. My husband had paid for me beforehand and my friend still needed to pay for her spa day.

My friend said nothing and left without paying for her spa day, seeming very pleased to have saved herself £75! She then said she would treat me to something in return for her free day as opposed to offering my husband half of the money she had saved from not having to pay. I said he would probably prefer me to give him some money back but she came up with a reason as to why she actually really needed this money afterall.

She has not contacted me regarding the return treat for her free spa day, or offered any money off my day. I am quite honest and probably would have paid the fee at the time (and regretted it later!) But she has more confidence than me and walked away without paying saying "nevermind their mistake." But surely, she should atleast have offered to pay for lunch or something considering hers was completely free?!

I'm a little shocked that no offers have been made, particularly as she knows my husband paid for me? I probably won't say anything, but it has tainted my perception of her character. What do others think?

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ZenNudist · 27/09/2019 08:11

So you stood by whilst your friend lied &defrauded the spa? Must be a wind up?

Playing along: I thought you were going to say the spa have now charged your dhs card. How long ago was this? If still recently tell your dh to look out for an extra £75 landing on his card.

Beautiful3 · 27/09/2019 08:27

She owes the spa people. She doesnt owe you anything! They may contact yourself chasing it up!

CacenCrunch · 27/09/2019 08:32

She doesn't owe you or your husband anything! She owes the Spa £75 and should have paid them when she realised the mistake. They might have noticed afterwards by the way. Your not out of pocket in any way

PrestonNotHeston · 27/09/2019 08:35

How long ago was this? If the spa realise their mistake they might just charge the additional £75 to your husband's card since your friend gave the clear impression both of you had been paid for in advance.

user1493413286 · 27/09/2019 08:39

I’d be judging more that she didn’t correct the spa rather than not give your husband money. I don’t see why she should give him money.

Bluntness100 · 27/09/2019 08:40

This can't be real. She basically stole and benefitted to the tune of 75 quid and you want her to give you half the cash so you both benefit?

StealthPolarBear · 27/09/2019 08:43

Are you worried they're going to charge your dh?

Elementalillusions · 27/09/2019 08:45

I imagine the spa will realise the mistake at the end of the month when they come to working out the months takings
and since your DH booked it they will charge him the £75 that was missed off the bill.

overnightangel · 27/09/2019 08:46

“What lovely people you and your friend are. She’s stolen from the spa, you stood back and watched her, and now you also want to profit from her dishonesty. ”

This.
Your friend is a thief and you wanted her to give you half of the profits from her theft.
Horrendous pair

WeBuiltCisCityOnSexistRoles · 27/09/2019 08:56

A MNer who has actually had a SPA DAY!

Never mind the £75, how many meals can you get out of a chicken?

SparklyMagpie · 27/09/2019 09:03

So she would have had to have paid the £75 if the spa hadn't made that mistake, and you just happily stood there and said nothing?

Disgusting and you're a grabbing cheeky cow for wanting some of that money

CheeryB · 27/09/2019 09:04

In my world this would have gone.

Spa Lady "Ah, these are both paid for"

Friend "No, I haven't paid for mine"

What if she'd realised her mistake before you'd left the building?
That would have been embarrassing for both of you.

tweedledeedo · 27/09/2019 09:05

I bet the spa do charge it to the husbands card 😂

SparklyMagpie · 27/09/2019 09:05

Actually can't believe you thought you were entitled to any money for nothing 😂

SparklyMagpie · 27/09/2019 09:06

@tweedledeedo i really hope they do 😂😂

AgentProvocateur · 27/09/2019 09:07

Maybe she thought your husband had paid for both? I’m not sure that I would expect to pay if I was invited by a friend, rather than it be something we both decided to do.

If you said to me your husband had given you a spa day and did I want to go, I’d assume that he had paid for a spa day for two.

She’s not contacted because she probably thinks you’re a right CF but asking her for money for a day she thinks you offered her as a gift.

DelanoDelagto · 27/09/2019 09:17

Your husband decided to give you a £75 gift, what your friend was or wasn't charged has nothing to do with him. Once you give a gift it's done, you can't expect to get any of it back!

Soola · 27/09/2019 09:23

You haven’t considered that now you and your chancer if a friend won’t be able to return to the spa in case they have a note on record about the non payment.

The friend chose to lie and reply agreeing to the receptionists inaccurate comment about the spa day being paid for. That’s nasty and I wouldn’t want to associate myself with a horrible person like that.

But you aided and abetted her by keeping schtum so that also makes you a person of a poor character.

FiveShelties · 27/09/2019 09:34

You are shocked she has not offered to pay you half but not shocked that neither of you were honest at the spa - lovely. I hope they debit your DH's credit card - twice.

GrandmaSharksDentures · 27/09/2019 09:36

A MNer who has actually had^ a SPA DAY!

Never mind the £75, how many meals can you get out of a chicken?

MKRNZ · 27/09/2019 09:47

I can sort of see your thinking here OP. If I meet a friend for dinner at Pizza Express and I've got some clubcard vouchers to use for money off, I'd get that taken off the
whole bill then we go halves on the rest. I wouldn't just sit having my free meal and let my friend pay full price.
However in your case this is theft and you should have corrected them at the time and she should have paid.

vintanner · 27/09/2019 10:36

You invited her to a spa day, did you say she would have to pay?

So you both had to pay for your lunch, but the spa place thought you both had paid when your husband had paid for you but not her.

The only people to have lost anything is the spa place because of you both being dishonest.

gamerchick · 27/09/2019 11:29

Just message her telling her when the spa realise their mistake and charge your husband's card you'll expect her to cough up what she owes.

Then take someone else for shit like that in future.

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