There's only one most beautiful baby in the world and every mother has it. AIBU?

[LaMarschallin]

Two provisos:

1. Although I've used "AIBU" in my title, I've posted in "Chat" because it's really meant to be lighthearted.

2. This is not intended to be a thread about Archie Sussex (although the - rapidly and rightly, imo, taken down - threads about him partly got me thinking about this).

Is there anybody out there who, like me, only finds their own baby/babies "adorable", "gorgeous", "heart-melting" etc?

I can understand why it would be bad form to say a baby looks like, for example, "a howling orange in a wig" (to borrow from Nancy Mitford), so is it just that other people who feel as I do don't comment at all (as I don't) on particular babies in the public eye as it seems unkind/unnecessary?

Or do the majority of people really go gooey over all/most babies?

I never liked baby dolls as a child. Had a Tiny Tears and ended up operating on it with a darning needle to make it wee faster.
Only bit of interest I took in it.
Never found babies other than mine particularly attractive and some smelled really wrong (not dirty nappy, just... well, Not Like My Baby, I suppose).
Obviously, I say the right things to friends and family about their offspring, but am amazed that they're not mortified that their babies are not one millionth as beautiful as mine were.

I know what you're thinking, but I'm a scientific sort of a gel (viz sorting out old Tiny T's bladder above) and obviously I got a second opinion realising I could be awash with hormones and slightly biased.

But no! DH thought they were the most beautiful creatures on god's earth too.
So there.

So, am I a shell of a woman because babies-unless-mine (note to self: best not make that into an acronym) don't make me 😍.

(Haven't used that emoji before. Not sure I will again)

I find some babies "adorable" etc I don't find others.

There is absolutely no rational in why I find a particular baby "adorable" etc or not.

I don't tell the parents though especially as some of those are/were family and friends.

Mine looked like an onion,

But they were my onion, so I loved them. Biology I guess.

"I can understand why it would be bad form to say a baby looks like, for example, "a howling orange in a wig" (to borrow from Nancy Mitford), so is it just that other people who feel as I do don't comment at all (as I don't) on particular babies in the public eye as it seems unkind/unnecessary?

Or do the majority of people really go gooey over all/most babies? "

Ooh! I came over all Carrie Bradshaw in SATC, there.

Yep, I always say to dh that’s I’m so lucky as my children are subjectively and objectively the most gorgeous kids ever

Its true

Pics probably going to appear twice now

My baby was the most beautiful I couldn’t believe my luck. Recently found the pics of the first week and hormones are a hell of a drug. At best he looked like a boiled toad.

some babies are cute, some less though. One of mine was a beautiful baby girl, the other one was much less cute in the conventional sense of beauty. And I knew that DC2 wasn't the prettiest baby. didn't make any difference in the love I have for her.

I agree. Some babies are just cuter than others. I generally find completely bald babies not so cute compared to ones with a little hair. I dreaded my babies being totally bald but they all had a little fuzz and quite a lot by their first birthday.

Obviously I wouldn’t have loved my DC any less if they were bald but it’s definitely just a fact of life, they’re not all utterly adorable and cute. Some look like potatoes.

Im not a fan of children, babies in particular. But my own 2 DC are the best in the world. Newborn photos though of DS have me howling coz he looks so odd.

I've not held my 7mo nephew yet. Not interested at all. I'll like photos on fb and say congrats but will never comment about the baby itself. Mainly coz I never find babies cute. They weird me out.

I don’t have children- been trying/fertility treatment for a few years so clearly I’m very baby aware and inclined to smile wistfully in their direction, but I don’t tend to go all heart-eyes emoji gooey over babies I don’t know personally.

I do think my little nieces and nephews were the most beautiful babes ever born, and as they are growing up I find them to be above averagely delightful children. Similarly, whilst not quite as gorgeous I have found friend’s babies to be pleasingly cute. Babies of the general public I can usually take or leave.

I’m sure if I do ever manage to procreate my baby will be the most beautiful though.

Mine were so adorable I felt like holding them up in Hammersmith Broadway for all of west London to admire. I felt sorry for other mothers with their less gorgeous offspring. After a few years I got a grip.

I don't have any children - I find a happy, smiling baby looks sweet, a sleeping one looks boring and a crying one looks terrifying! Other than that, they all look very similar to me.

Some babies are beautiful. Some aren't. It honestly doesn't matter.

DS looked awful as a baby. Baggy headed, pig nosed, red and angry. He was then beautiful about age 2, til about 7. Hasn't really grown into his face or body at 11.5yrs, and for all I know could be an adult male model, or be an adult potato

Having been out with friends, whose babies were commented on a lot, and the incredibly rare "oh what a gorgeous little boy" I would hear, kind of confirmed that too.

I think it's pretty standard for a lot to think their child is wonderful, clever, funny, endearing, because of a mother's bias, but I've never understood the whole "beautiful" thing. In the bluntest possible way, some humans are physically beautiful, some are physically ugly, and this goes for babies and 80yr olds. But on the occasions where some are so rose tinted that they can't stop waxing lyrical about their stunning offspring is a bit

Again it doesn't matter. In the scheme of things it's so unimportant. But yes, some mother's are very blind to their baby's physical appearance. Let them be, doesn't hurt anyone.

Even in my early days of post birth mental fog I thought they were ugly looking and weird. DS became a very very cute toddler. DD didn't get cute until a fraction older, she sort of grew into her face and needed more hair. I never found other people's babies cute either. Now I am menopausal, I do see the cuteness and occasionally get very strong hormonal responses to all very small children. I guess my body is entering a granny stage although I'd not be anticipating that for another 15 years or more!

I called my eldest Spud for 20 years, because he did look like a constipated potato.
My DDs were both beautiful and still are. I’ve always been quite fond of the surprised coconut analogy.

I always find something nice about other people’s babies though.
Even if it’s their hat/shoes/pram

My DS was the most beautiful baby, the most well behaved toddler and is the best child ever.

He is damn lucky I have selective memory because I am fairly certain at one sleep deprived moment, I realised why some animals ate their young.

On a serious note, I can't figure out people saying how beautiful a child is, I can't see it, I have never been able to see it, they look like a shriveled up prune to me.

YANBU. My DD is the most scrumptious baby there's ever been and that's a fact.

That said, there is a baby at one of our classes who I will grudgingly accept is very cute. But not as cute as DD, obv.

He is damn lucky I have selective memory because I am fairly certain at one sleep deprived moment, I realised why some animals ate their young

🤣 that cracked me up

My two both looked like potatoes from about 4 - 12 months. The most perfect potatoes in the world obviously, but it didn't change the facts! DD is now 5.5 and utterly beautiful, DS is 14mo and changing from gorgeous potato to gorgeous toddler.

Other babies are cute, and I'm more likely to think that way if they belong to family or friends. But their innocence and newness is always beautiful.

Dd looked like Gollum. She was also exceptionally serious and never smiled. Ds must have been cute because strangers used to comment on it, and he’s been having his hair ruffled by randoms all his life; even now he’s 7 it sometimes still happens.

I am immune to the charm of all babies. They are all totally unappealing to me. Cats, on the other hand - I can’t walk past a cat without going bit daft and talking to it.