There's only one most beautiful baby in the world and every mother has it. AIBU?

[LaMarschallin]

Two provisos:

1. Although I've used "AIBU" in my title, I've posted in "Chat" because it's really meant to be lighthearted.

2. This is not intended to be a thread about Archie Sussex (although the - rapidly and rightly, imo, taken down - threads about him partly got me thinking about this).

Is there anybody out there who, like me, only finds their own baby/babies "adorable", "gorgeous", "heart-melting" etc?

I can understand why it would be bad form to say a baby looks like, for example, "a howling orange in a wig" (to borrow from Nancy Mitford), so is it just that other people who feel as I do don't comment at all (as I don't) on particular babies in the public eye as it seems unkind/unnecessary?

Or do the majority of people really go gooey over all/most babies?

I never liked baby dolls as a child. Had a Tiny Tears and ended up operating on it with a darning needle to make it wee faster.
Only bit of interest I took in it.
Never found babies other than mine particularly attractive and some smelled really wrong (not dirty nappy, just... well, Not Like My Baby, I suppose).
Obviously, I say the right things to friends and family about their offspring, but am amazed that they're not mortified that their babies are not one millionth as beautiful as mine were.

I know what you're thinking, but I'm a scientific sort of a gel (viz sorting out old Tiny T's bladder above) and obviously I got a second opinion realising I could be awash with hormones and slightly biased.

But no! DH thought they were the most beautiful creatures on god's earth too.
So there.

So, am I a shell of a woman because babies-unless-mine (note to self: best not make that into an acronym) don't make me 😍.

(Haven't used that emoji before. Not sure I will again)

My son was a very attractive baby but my daughter wasn’t. However when she became a toddler her beautiful looks kicked in and she has gone on to be a very lovely looking adult.

Some babies are definitely more attractive than others. I tend to prefer the chubby babies which is odd as I would never find an overweight adult attractive.

I think the word Bonny is apt for describing babies that are chubby.

I’ll never forget what my obstetrician said after my gorgeous boy was born - “he’s absolutely beautiful - not all babies are.”

What grimbles said . I think it’s psychologically necessary, so you don’t feel you’re caring for a screaming potato.

Among friends’ kids, it really depends. Some I find cute, some I almost feel revolted by.

My DS was THE most beautiful baby.
DD not so much but is amazingly beautiful now.

All mine were beautiful, they take after me 😂

Love reading about people getting het up about whether or not they've seen a picture of that baby.

Like if you're that desperate, Google image search babies and eat your heart out.

I seem to be fatuous over genetically linked babies, and some older babies are cute.

Every other baby, you could hook me up to an ECG and I'd flatline when looking at them. I just don't get it?

I hacked how I was supposed to behave when other people show me pictures of babies though. I just pretend I'm reacting to seeing a kitten.

Most babies are beautiful but there are some that just aren't.

Our nephew is one of them. He has a flat, misshapen head and it makes him look like a child's drawing.

My friend on the other hand, her daughter has the most beautiful eyes! So big with wonderful lashes.

I'm with VenusClapTrap above.
I'd step over any baby to get to a cat. 😁
Luckily, I decided very early on that procreation wasn't for me so I can't say if it would have been different with my own.

I was the same (not cats, though - dogs) and would still head straight to a dog over a random baby. But DD is totally different

I don’t find a lot a babies cute, or adorable. Some friends of some very odd looking children - but I would never say it out loud. (But I will say it on an anonymous platform!)
My son is only a month old and I thought he looked like a gremlin the first week. Does look freaking adorable now though!

All babies like like fat badly old men. Even yours OP.

Nope, some babies are cute and some aren't! Obviously mine were cute;)

I always loved babies and kids and still do, after having my own. But she is the Best One.

There are some other babies we know who i find particularly adorable, and also some who i have really taken against couldn't tell you why though.

All babies like like fat badly old men. Even yours OP.

No, no - mine really did look like angels incarnate and even their crying was like having cherubs gently kissing your ear lobes...

I know it's biological really and I honestly didn't expect anybody else to feel about them as their father and I did. I certainly didn't expect random people to want to cuddle them or anything. Quite surprised when even non-random people did, really. I wouldn't go out of my way to hold/cuddle somebody else's. Obviously, I did if it was offered. And said appropriate things and everything.

They did have some hair though and, as Whattodoabout said, I felt that helped.

Sadly, they definitely didn't look fat. They were both pretty small (5lbs 11oz and 6lbs 1oz) and I was forever losing them down the back of the sofa.

Let them be, doesn't hurt anyone.

Oh, I agree. I just wondered if I was very much in the minority (and, possibly, abnormal) not to find other people's babies particularly appealing.
I totally get the "don't say anything if you haven't got something nice to say" and while I often don't abide by it* I wouldn't gratuitously criticise a baby's or child's appearance.
Hence wondering if others felt the same as me about the non-love that daren't speak its name.

*I'd quite like one of those cushions that says: "If you haven't got anything nice to say about anyone, come and sit next to me".

I used to go to baby groups still do and think everyone must be jealous of how beautiful, advanced and adorable my little girl is.

I remember feeling so smug when dd was born- she had really full lips, a tuft of brown hair, really piercing blue eyes and rosy cheeks. I would very often get stopped while we were out and about by elderly ladies to be told how beautiful she was. I’d pretend to be modest but inside I was shouting “YES I KNOW, I MAKE BEAUTIFUL BABIES MUHAHAHA.”

Then I had ds. He looked like my granda- bald, very serious looking and looked like he just hadn’t finished cooking yet. I knew objectively that he wasn’t as beautiful, but I saw so many family traits in his little expressive face that I fell in love with him immediately.

most babies are beautiful but some have a face only it`s mother could love.

I have one absolute stunner. The other two grow on you, they are more cheeky looking than cute. It’s all about the personal charm for me

We’ve had quite a few Work Babies recently but only one of them made me genuinely go “aaaaaaahhhhh!”. I offered to hold that one, it was so very sweet. Shuffled out of the way for the others.
My DS looked like my irascible great grandad but fortunately grew into the most gorgeous looking toddler, all limpid eyes and rosebud mouth.

Mothers will.always think their children are the most beautiful in the world my oldest is nearly 13 and is going through a bit of an awkward phase at the moment but he,s still very beautiful to me .

One of the Most Beautiful children on Earth aka My Grandchildren 😉, my grandson, now 15 years old, presented with his head engaged for weeks and weeks before birth. His poor mother, my DD, could hardly walk. When he was born his face was so squashed she thought he had only one eye for ages!
I was at the birth and was totally entranced by him too. My wife was wonderfully tactful and agreed. We do laugh at his pictures now, he was a solemn little fellow who had teeth ridiculously early. Lovely ladies in the village would gaze into the pray, cootchy cooing and when he smiled they leapt back, it was just like the rabbit with the false teeth in Wallace and Gromit, the Wererabbit!
😂😂😂
Luckily he's grown into his face and is the nicest young man, who cwtches his nans under his arm as he is 6ft 2in.
I love this thread, I have looked after many children and they all have a place in my heart, for many reasons.

I agree. Looking back at photos DD was a strange looking little being. When she was born I thought she was heartbreakingly beautiful. OTOH her babies are stunning and looking back over the photos they actually are. But I could well be biased.

I’m still unsure if DS actually IS the most beautiful, angelic baby of all time; or if he’s a right uggo and I just can’t see it because I’m his mother (I suspect it’s somewhere in the middle). I do have friends whose babies are quite clearly a bit funny looking but who think they are gorgeous so maybe DS is also funny looking!

I have a photo of newborn ds who I thought at the time we gorgeous

Now I look at him and I think “omg he looked like my MIL”

I baked him for 9 months and he has the nerve to pop out looking like her?!!!

Luckily he’s outgrown that now and he’s the spitting image of his dad

OMG Grimbles That was me.
I really did think mine were the most gorgeous of all babies.
When I look at baby pics now They look odd! One like a frog, the other like an Onion.
I still thought they were the most adorable ever.
I'm more drawn to babies with hair. Mine all had a lot of hair from birth, were never bald.
Sil was so annoyed her boys were born bald and mine weren't. All the cousins soon looked alike anyway once the hair came in.