It's my birthday today and I have never felt so miserable in all my life

[thecatsarecrazy]

I've been feeling pretty low for a week. I started the pill 2 weeks ago on the hope of lighter periods but I'm ready to toss them.
I've been in tears every day this week. My husband has gone to work without saying happy birthday. He never gives me a card until the evening anyway. Kids gone to school just me and my toddler. Had a text off half brother and aunty. I'm 38 and honestly just feel so sad right now.

Happy Birthday thecat 🎂🎉💐🎊🍰🎁

My birthdays have been similar since I was around 35.
Tell DH you would like to do something nice at the weekend as mid week birthdays are always a bit pants any way.

I'm so sorry! Happy birthday and here's some flowers from me
Just in relation to the pill, I found certain ones didn't agree with me and I spent months in tears.. just keep an eye on it

Happy Birthday 😁🎉🎂

As an aside the pill makes me feel like that

Aw. Happy Birthday!

Ah that is sad. And unlike the rest of MN I do think birthdays are a big deal and you should make a fuss of people ( and friends and family should make a fuss of you too).

Can’t advise re the pill situation but HAPPY BIRTHDAY OP 🥳. You deserve to have a lovely day. Onwards and upwards. Can you and your toddler go to a local coffee shop for a big huge slice of cake today? Oh and give your husband a (metaphorical) kick in the ass when he comes home from work this evening.... a cup of coffee in bed, a big kiss, a ‘happy birthday’ and a card is the minimum everyone should get on the morning of their birthday.

Happy Birthday.
Go and treat yourself, do something nice, a nice walk, bath with bubbles, make your own happiness.

On the lighter periods ask for tranexamic acid? If the pill is making you emotional.

You need to take the day into your own hands and then anything else is a bonus. I always plan at least one thing to do on my birthday so at least that way I am making sure that I enjoy the day regardless of anybody else. This year I brought my dh and kids out to breakfast and I had pancakes with maple syrup and bacon and a hot chocolate. If your dh and kids see you doing something nice for yourself and including them I find they are more likely to make an effort also. Don't rely on others for your happiness ensure it for yourself and Happy Birthday :)

You can opt to try a different birth control (you probably know this).

I'm handing you a hankie through the ether and summoning the power of the almighty because everyone needs on their birthday. It's mine a week Monday, I'll be 37, and no one bothers either.

Happy Birthday! 🍾🎂🎉🎁🎊

Happy birthday 🎂 OP!
I have learnt that I can’t place my happiness in the hands of others. I also don’t need to ask permission for things or wait for them to be offered. What would you like to do today with your toddler? Do you have anyone who can babysit for a couple of hours so you can go to a cafe?

(Definitely look at alternative birth control ASAP).

Happy birthday. I suggest you ask your DH to bring cake and maybe some fizz home later.

Try to go out and have some fun, the weather isn't great but maybe some puddle jumping with your toddler and lunch in a cafe would make the day diifferent. Whatever you do, definitely leave any household chores for tomorrow.

My toddler has a few hours bin ore school later so I will grab a coffee somewhere I think while hes out from under my feet

Lol wut my son has a few hours in pre school later that's meant to say

Happy birthday, Do something for you today. Also give DH a verbal kick up the backside.

Happy birthday, My birthday today too. Husband at work. Baby asleep. Gets more boring the older you get.

Happy Birthday sorry you're feeling low. If you have funds can you get yourself your own little treat? Something you maybe wouldn't usually get yourself? Something for your own enjoyment only!

Happy birthday! Go out and do something lovely just for you, enjoy your day

OP, I’m very concerned that you have such low expectations for your birthday. You seem to passively accept that your husband can just swan off to work without even saying Happy birthday to you, let alone giving you a present and breakfast in bed.

Are you suffering from depression? Is the tearfulness hormonal/pill related, or have you been feeling down for a while?
Please have more regard for yourself. Anyone with normal self esteem would have given their husband a rocket for being such an inconsiderate shit on their birthday.
Sit him down and spell out what you consider the minimum acceptable from him- which should be a card, a present, having chores done for you, and expressions of love and recognition of the date. Extras might include a meal out or a weekend break, finances permitting.
If your DH is lazy, he will do whatever you let him get away with. Which at the moment is anything.
Please raise your expectations. and his!
Finally, I hope you find something lovely to do today yourself. Happy Birthday from me, OP, and may all your future ones be celebrated much more appropriately.

Why do you feel so sad? Sounds like maybe a DH problem? It's a bit shit him not saying Happy Birthday to you. No excuse for that really.
Happy Birthday by the way.

Happy Birthday to you!!! As someone said its pants having a mid week birthday, tell hubby you want to go out at weekend, if not with him then go with girlfriends, he can babysit. Try to have a good day, my birthday is on Friday. X

have a quick listen to this - always cheers me up - Toots and Maytals with Terry hall and have a Happy Birthday.

Sorry it's been a poo day for you. Hugs from a random MNer.

Happy Birthday

My DH is crap at birthdays. So I'm now crap with his. Might be petty but it stops me seething with resentment.

Treat yourself to coffee and cake out, and buy yourself something nice.

OK OP, when your toddler is at pre-school, go to a nice cafe somewhere, and choose the good stuff - the luxury drink, the best cake (the one you usually avoid because you don't want to spend the extra money/tell yourself you don't need the calories etc) Either pick up a lovely magazine (nice autumn ones in the shops now) or a book you've wanted to read for a while and settle in, or - this is my preferred option - take the time to think about YOU. Make a wish list of treats you'd like - all prices, from a double decker to a cashmere jumper - and make sure your DH has seen it before Christmas. Think about films you'd like to see, places you'd like to go, clothes you'd like to buy, decorating projects you'd like to try in your house, food you'd like to make, and most of all - how you'd like things to be different by your birthday next year.

Doesn't have to be realistic, just a list of dreams if you like. But it's all about remembering who you are, which is important when you have small children.

Happy Birthday!

(PS - Pinterest is a great place to get these lists of ideas and inspirations together!)