Urgent: how big is a 4mm bleed on the brain

[delilabell]

Just found out NC grandma has a 4mm bleed on the brain. Dm doesn't know if that's really bad or not? Shes also got a cracked vertebrae.
Shes 95 does this mean the end?

Just asked my nurse sister and she said are you sure it’s 4mm? That usually wouldn’t even show on a scan. Its not bad as long as it doesn’t get bigger, they probably won’t even do anything to it.

It's not good. Who is in contact with her?

That would be tiny (not saying it won't have other effects unfortunately) does your DM definitely have the size right? It's really hard when they are firing information at you and you are understandably very concerned

It's not so much about the size of the bleed but the effects. Often we just watch and wait and the body slowly reabsorbs the blood. It really depends on the patient.

Thanks everyone I've just text to ask. Me and dm are both nc with her. Dm's sister has told dm info.
She fainted, bumped her head, fainted again and whacked herself. Just waiting for dm to reply.

The text msg from my auntie to my mom definitely says 4mm

If you are nc why are you bothered?

For my mom????

If you are nc why are you bothered?

And why did you bother posting?

And why did you bother posting?

she said, to have some understanding of the situation for her mum.

OP's mother is also NC with grandmother. It's a fair question.

Even if your nc it can be still upsetting/or you want to know more.

Op clearly posted because she wanted some understanding, be that for her, her mum or whoever, why else would she post.

The why post, posts, should ask themselves that.

Errmmm her mum is nc too so why now would you they be bothered 🙄

And why did you bother posting?

hmm she said, to have some understanding of the situation for her mum.

Yes, I know that. I was asking ohhelloyou why she was asking the OP why she bothered posting.

I had brain surgery for a 15cm bleed less than a month ago... like pp have said, 4mm is tiny - although I suspect in somebody elderly it could be very significant regardless of the size. For that size though I imagine they'll monitor it and see what happens...

I'm taking this as your mum is checking how much bullshit this is before she decides whether to risk being dragged back in.

I don't really get the whole notion of going NC with close family. It isn't something that I can ever imagine doing, but I respect the fact that people have their reasons, sometimes very good ones.

What I really don't understand at all are the posters who feel the need to ask why people would be bothered about the serious illness/potential loss of their NC relatives. Isn't it obvious? Relationships are complicated, and even if you have cut people out of your life for some reason, surely it's almost inevitable that you will have a complex emotional reaction.

People rarely go NC because they're just not interested/feel nothing towards a person. Usually, there are some pretty strong feelings involved. Although those feelings might be very negative, it probably isn't the case that they simply don't care.

And you can still grieve for the loss of someone with whom you had a very bad relationship - even if you are merely grieving the loss of what might have been instead.

Depends where it is in the brain. In some crucial areas, 4mm could cause a lot of harm. In other parts of the brain it could cause no symptoms at all.

@AlexaShutUp -- my thoughts exactly .Well put !

@MitziK wow. That's a 95 year old lady you are talking about.

And? If somebody's NC for good reason when they're in their 40s, 50s, 70s, they don't suddenly become saints when the calendar flips over a few more times.

But your mum is NC too?

Just because you are NC with someone, it does not mean, you don't still love that person.

I can absolutely see where @MitziK is coming from.

@MitziK right ok no nc with someone who not nice, why suddenly so concerned now when might be ill...I don't understand