Urgent: how big is a 4mm bleed on the brain

[delilabell]

Just found out NC grandma has a 4mm bleed on the brain. Dm doesn't know if that's really bad or not? Shes also got a cracked vertebrae.
Shes 95 does this mean the end?

A lot of MNers must lead very black and white lives. As pp have said, life and relationships are complicated. Sometimes it might be the intransigence of person that went NC, that led to that situation. Maybe they wonder if they've been too harsh in the past. Maybe they've held onto the hope that the person involved would make the first move, but life's gone on, and it's never happened. You could be NC with a drug addicted child, because they steal from you and abuse you, and you've done it for your own self-preservation. It doesn't mean you don't think about them every day and wouldn't be devastated if you heard the worst had happened, dies it?

The reasoning, I think, would be 'if it's really serious, I'm prepared to try and put all the previous shit aside and be there for them - but if it isn't, and it's not that serious and is being used as a way of demanding I drop everything and rush to the bedside so I can then be told "what do you want? You only ever turn up when you think there's money involved/you can steal some attention" and generally abused or rejected some more, I'm not going to come running'.

Crikey didn't realise I'd have to justify our situation! Thabks for everyone who "gets it" we are constantly being shamed into why we should be in contact with her.
Yes she is 95 but shes a very cruel and spiteful woman. My dm still has massive issues because of how she treated her.

You don't have to apologise at all for being NC. I bet you and especially your mum trod a long hard road before reaching that decision.

Thank you @nevertwerknaked

It’s not so much the size that’s important as the location. 4mm is just one dimension too & doesn’t tell you anything about the volume of blood & the consequences it’s causing. The doctors that have seen the scan & correlated that with her neurology will be the ones in the best position to say how serious it is.

Where is the bleed?